Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Well I gave up with it in the end, and glad I did.

I've met someone through work, we started out just going for a few drinks round the local pubs, then she'd come over to mine to watch a DVD and have a few more drinks. The night I went out on my last date from POF, which wasn't great but I could tell the woman I was meeting was really keen on me, sadly she wasn't for me, 3 kids, very little spare time and chained to the kitchen sink etc.

Anyway called the woman I know from work to see if she wanted to go out for a few (and to be honest I liked her a lot more anyway) she agreed, ended up coming back to mine, bit of humpty dumpty and there we have it, have been getting pretty close ever since, so it's going my way slowly :) She's 38, no kids and no emotional baggage, suits me :)

It's weird though I spent the last 7 years searching for a full on relationship when it appears to be honest I'd sooner have some fun and see where it goes.
 
See thing is I actually think it will end up in a relationship, we seem to find outselves doing couple type things more and more so if it happens then it's a win as far as I'm concerned.
 
Going crazy well for me. Got 3 dates next week and talking to two other girls who seems very keen as well. This week alone I've been on 2 dates already. One will be a repeat while the other will just be a friend. To be fair I'm based in London where there's swaths of girls available but this time around I've just hit the jack pot. My last time round on Match it wasn't like this.

Got 5 numbers on my phone already. Save them as 'Natasha Match', 'Lindsey Match', 'Samantha Match' etc. How long before I **** up and send the wrong message to the wrong girl and the house of cards comes down?
 
I seem to have accidentally pulled someone while I was drunk last weekend. I have a bunch of texts and don't remember much. Thing is I am really not interested and was being my usual complimentary, chatty drunk self at the time so I think she remembers everything while I remember naff all apart from chatting rubbish!

I am great at chatting up people I am not really interested in when I've had a skinful...:/
 
Ok, make that FOUR dates. Just snared another one. Four freaking dates next week fellas. So statistically I should have two as half will cancel. This Hampstead free bird is on a roll! Get on Match guys. It's packed with girlies that want a man to rub sun lotion on them this summer. Just stay off my patch in North West London! :D
 
I have a question, i have had a few females message me and as well as messaging a few my self.

My question is how do you know when to start flirting, i generally try to avoid saying a girl looks sexy, pretty and so on since they properly get it all the time and i would rather get to know the woman.

Is it something that naturally happens when you connect with some one.

There is one girl i like on there and don't know how i go about taking it from the odd message to something more meaningful, any tips suggestions ?
 
DooMeR said:
I have a question, i have had a few females message me and as well as messaging a few my self.

My question is how do you know when to start flirting, i generally try to avoid saying a girl looks sexy, pretty and so on since they properly get it all the time and i would rather get to know the woman.

Is it something that naturally happens when you connect with some one.

There is one girl i like on there and don't know how i go about taking it from the odd message to something more meaningful, any tips suggestions ?
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they are on a dating site, so they will expect some flirting. as long as its not outright cheesey (although im sure some women will like that) then it will help you find out if they are after a casual online chat buddy, or if they are feeling the same about you and want a relationship.



Disclaimer - read my posts, i have had no replies and no messages, so take my advice at your own risk
 
DooMeR said:
I have a question, i have had a few females message me and as well as messaging a few my self.

My question is how do you know when to start flirting, i generally try to avoid saying a girl looks sexy, pretty and so on since they properly get it all the time and i would rather get to know the woman.

Is it something that naturally happens when you connect with some one.

There is one girl i like on there and don't know how i go about taking it from the odd message to something more meaningful, any tips suggestions ?
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I wouldn't suggest thinking that the messaging as a stage of attraction, it's almost impossible to tell what a person is like through text. The only thing to do is, make sure you have a question at the end of every message. Answer hers, make a comparison from something in your life, make a joke maybe and ask a question. Don't continue this for more than 2 or 3 then just suggest you like to take her out on a date.
 
Sometimes I reply to a message without having any questions at all in it, I like to see if they attempt to keep the conversation going.
 
Thinking of cutting this current one loose.
She's always "busy" not with work necessarily but that's most of it.
Going out here there and everywhere yet never has time for me.
Last straw was this last week, I text her as soon as I got back from Iceland on Tuesday to see how she was and if she wanted to meet / catch up.
No reply until Sunday morning saying she has loads of school planning to do but I can meet her at a craft fair fair she's working at if I like. The kicker was the ending sentence of how busy she suddenly is after a week off (half term)
WTF!
Not bothered texting her back TBH.
 
Morgoth said:
Sometimes I reply to a message without having any questions at all in it, I like to see if they attempt to keep the conversation going.
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Ive done that, usually ends up with them not replying at all after that :(

Something which bugs me, is that most girls think you want to get your leg over from the off, which then makes it incredibly hard to get it across your interested in talking to them not just after a quickie, Well its like that with the girls around my area.
 
Tried it in the past but most in my area were single jobless mothers. Not sure if thats true about online dating or just a reflection of where I live!
 
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