Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Wow, good going there zootfloot!

You have certainly done well there. I think its time that the both of you spoke on the phone and arrange to meet up for the first time; dress well, don't be stiff, or un-natural, just be yourself, stay relaxed and you could go far.

If you continue to text each other, things could well become stagnant.

Just my pennies worth.

I have had no dates or messages on dating web sites since leaving my girlfriend in January 2012. Perhaps it's a bit callous, but I got over her quite quickly because I did the breaking up and knew it was coming. It was just a case of finding the guts to honestly tell her how I felt - as our relationship was starting to go bad halfway in. Just a shame I didn't do anything earlier than the 4.5 years!

Still; I'll get my profiles on POF and OkCupid updated and get a good photo up showing me in the best possibe light and waiting, biding my time and just enjoying life should eventually lead me to my next girlfriend!

Kind regards,

David
 
Just curiously thinking here...

Has anyone arranged a date, set the time place etc *be intentionally late by a little* and been to check the girl out first?? and if you dont like the look (too fat) turned and gone home? LOL :p
 
Gamefreak501 said:
Wow, good going there zootfloot!

You have certainly done well there. I think its time that the both of you spoke on the phone and arrange to meet up for the first time; dress well, don't be stiff, or un-natural, just be yourself, stay relaxed and you could go far.

If you continue to text each other, things could well become stagnant.
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Yeah im quite surprised by it all to be honest....after reading through this thread i was a little bit skeptical about getting any responses at all....i guess the fat birds in my area are more desperate than your average garden variety! :cool:

If im being honest, i dont even think im ready to be dating, i suspect that im much happier in the texting/chatting/flirting stages rather than the meeting up part of it.

I really am not great at meeting people for the first time...or the 2nd or 3rd for that matter!
 
Kerplunk said:
Just curiously thinking here...

Has anyone arranged a date, set the time place etc *be intentionally late by a little* and been to check the girl out first?? and if you dont like the look (too fat) turned and gone home? LOL :p
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That cracked me up lol.

Who'd be so shallow?!
 
And single again ... *sighs*. Apparently our 'values' aren't compatible, whatever that means. I just didn't want to move in with her yet. Met her of Match and had a good run. So it does sorta work.

Guess I'll be back on the scene, dodging swamp donkeys and crazies, hoping to find a diamond in the rough.

Lord, sometimes I think I should just get a cat, a hooker every weekend and be done with all this.
 
Oh, that's a fair old time, I was expecting you to say like "three weeks" and then nod about the fact "all women are nuts" but man...
Why "Didn't" you want to move in with her after a year.
Was she not the one or something. I think you saying that to her, she just took as "he doesn't want to be with me, no commitment etc etc"

Gutted.
 
Fuzz said:
Oh, that's a fair old time, I was expecting you to say like "three weeks" and then nod about the fact "all women are nuts" but man...
Why "Didn't" you want to move in with her after a year.
Was she not the one or something. I think you saying that to her, she just took as "he doesn't want to be with me, no commitment etc etc"

Gutted.
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I don't know, I just never felt ready to make that commitment. She's actually as close to being faultless/perfect as any person can be, but I still didn't see her as someone I want to wake up to for the next 50 years. Maybe I'm being unrealistic but I once loved a girl with every fibre in my body, and I wasn't feeling the same with this one. That's been my benchmark all along. Not sure if it's clever or not. Maybe I should just suck it up and settle for whatever woman I think I can handle through the long years ahead.
 
regulus said:
I don't know, I just never felt ready to make that commitment. She's actually as close to being faultless/perfect as any person can be, but I still didn't see her as someone I want to wake up to for the next 50 years. Maybe I'm being unrealistic but I once loved a girl with every fibre in my body, and I wasn't feeling the same with this one. That's been my benchmark all along. Not sure if it's clever or not. Maybe I should just suck it up and settle for whatever woman I think I can handle through the long years ahead.
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Never settle, your soul dies when you just settle. Although I'm also single again, with a similar ex, so maybe it's just me being idealistic too ;)
 
Redman said:
Never settle, your soul dies when you just settle. Although I'm also single again, with a similar ex, so maybe it's just me being idealistic too ;)
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Hehe, good to know I'm not alone. I draw strength from people that can understand what it's like.

I won't settle yet. Luckily I'm quite busy at work up until the Olympics and then hitting the beaches in Greece with a buddy of mine.

All will be ok :)
 
I'm single now.
Haven't been single since college.
Me & my misses met at college, 10 years later I'm 28 & she cheats on me. Have a daughter and a house together but not married. For some reason even though I really cared about her & still do, I knew she wasn't "the one". Seems odd after all that time but hey that's life. It is very strange trying to get someone else. I'm no laddies man, girls tend to like me once they get to know me a bit better so picking someone up who I only just met doesn't work. It's a shame this didn't happen a few years ago in my old job because I was quite close to a few girls, not in the relationship sense but to the extent that if I was single there would be a good chance of one of the friendships growing.

My plan now is to start going out with my friends more often however I am unsure if I should try & get someone now or if I should wait. I have the house & am paying the mortgage but due to recently being made redundant things are tight. If I was to hook up with someone I can't afford to treat them or take them out anywhere so I think it would end up a non starter. I'm thinking I should wait until I'm back in work before attempting another relationship. It would be nice to know what others think about this?
 
Definitely, best to just get back into going out and having a laugh with your mates and sorting your circumstances out first as best you can :)
 
Fuzz said:
I'd feel the same way..

Stabilise your own life before venturing into a new one with someone else
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Sound advice I'm going to take myself. I can have a date tomorrow night if I so wish, but it's going to be empty and meaningless. I have to hold my hand up boys and admit I want more out of the ladies now than her waking up in my bed and me wishing she could just get the hell out of there. If I don't think it's going to go somewhere, I'll rather be on my own, doing stuff. I'd hate to be with someone just for the hell of it.

I've been unhappy in my job for a long time. Now I have all the time in the world to do something about that.
 
Redman said:
Definitely, best to just get back into going out and having a laugh with your mates and sorting your circumstances out first as best you can :)
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With working all the hours God gives and maintaining a now ex girlfriend, I neglected some of my dearest pals. I'm going to try to get them all out this weekend for a beer and strengthen the fences again. Women come and go, but these guys are for life.
 
I have had about 5 or 6 internet dates and boy, some of them have been WILD! Yeh, you get some nutters out there (had it happen once) but you move on. I married the last one 9 years ago! :)
 
Ok well during my experience so far I have realised girls fall into two categories..

Girls are too needy and constantly messaging

and girls who dont reply!

Neither of which I like!
 
Well I've decided to take my own advice, and back away from the dating.

I'm far from over my ex, and like Regulus said, no one else comes close or makes me feel remotely similar - her contacting me this weekend has made me see that even more clearly. So it's just not fair to keep trying, and effectively going through the motions with other peoples emotions.

Bleugh :D
 
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