Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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You know, the Internet is quite a scary thing. Been talking to nice Scottish girl that I most likely will have a drink with at some point next week. During one of our conversations she let slip quite a peculiar detail about her life that could be Googled. Deciding on some research, as you do, I done some light Googling. I found just about everything about her there is to know. I now know she has an STD, I know her hobbies, the last book she read (she's a big user of Twitter), and tons more things that will make me sound quite creepy :p As in, which bus she takes to work, where she catch it from, etc. I also know that someone has been telling porkies about her pictures :p

My point is, how easy would it be for me to chill in the coffee shop before she turns up, reading the book she shrieked on about, wearing a shirt of her favourite colour, listening to music of her favourite band and slip into the conversation a random and esoteric cause she cares about and pretend I care about it too?

She just threw everything about her life on line.

Lucky for her I'm a nice guy and won't do things like that, but maybe people should rethink exactly what they post on line.
 
regulus said:
You know, the Internet is quite a scary thing. Been talking to nice Scottish girl that I most likely will have a drink with at some point next week. During one of our conversations she let slip quite a peculiar detail about her life that could be Googled. Deciding on some research, as you do, I done some light Googling. I found just about everything about her there is to know. I now know she has an STD, I know her hobbies, the last book she read (she's a big user of Twitter), and tons more things that will make me sound quite creepy :p As in, which bus she takes to work, where she catch it from, etc. I also know that someone has been telling porkies about her pictures :p

My point is, how easy would it be for me to chill in the coffee shop before she turns up, reading the book she shrieked on about, wearing a shirt of her favourite colour, listening to music of her favourite band and slip into the conversation a random and esoteric cause she cares about and pretend I care about it too?

She just threw everything about her life on line.

Lucky for her I'm a nice guy and won't do things like that, but maybe people should rethink exactly what they post on line.
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Not a serious STD I hope. :eek:
 
ok, so can someone help. I message people, get a reply, message back, get a reply and this goes on for 3 or 4 messages back and forth, then BAM! nothing. everything seems to be going ok. and then they just go offline then when they come back online they never continue the conversation or contact me again. surely it cant be send opening message, get reply, insist on meeting up :confused: its not even like the messages are out of the ordinary. its normally asking what they have been up to that day things like that.

this is my last convo :

Her : u look really young in ur pics do u have any others ? thank u for ur message luvvie x

Me : I dont have any with my short hair. but yeh, I dont look 29, which I guess is a good thing.

Her : Yea deffo im not good with these sittesat all so i appoligise x

Me : yeh they are really unnatural, so much easier talking to someone face to face. I suppose the only thing in my favour is you cant see my little grey patches in the pics :p How are you?

Her : lol haha :) aw im doing good thanks and u ? x

Me : not too bad. just got in from work so gotta do something for tea. been a hot day, then as soon as I finish work it goes cloudy. always the way.
what you been up to today?



and then that was it, no reply or contact since. where did I go wrong?
 
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My God man, that spelling! :eek:

Class yourself lucky.

As for the messages, you done well. I would've probably gone on the same line of conversation than you did. It's just too bad she seems like a halfwit. It's hard to speak to halfwits. That's what we don't speak to halfwits.
 
regulus said:
My God man, that spelling! :eek:

Class yourself lucky.

As for the messages, you done well. I would've probably gone on the same line of conversation than you did. It's just too bad she seems like a halfwit. It's hard to speak to halfwits. That's what we don't speak to halfwits.
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but that's how all the convos seem to go.

admittedly she was quite a bit younger than me :p so can forgive the text style lazy messaging, but she was pretty and well, showed an interest (well so I thought). I have spoken to older women you use the same form of messaging, I fear that this area is just full of uneducated or lazy people.
 
Just keep plugging away. You're obviously limited to your small area of mostly uneducated, unemployed dumbasses :p (I jest!), but there HAS to be at least one diamond in the dust. What area are you looking in? I want to have a look there as well and see what comes up.
 
regulus said:
Just keep plugging away. You're obviously limited to your small area of mostly uneducated, unemployed dumbasses :p (I jest!), but there HAS to be at least one diamond in the dust. What area are you looking in? I want to have a look there as well and see what comes up.
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Cornwall (the Truro-Penzance-Newquay area)
 
vail3r said:
I'm not having much luck lately. Same as above, stop replying after a few messages or stop replying after suggesting meeting up!
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yeh its really frustrating. in the last 2 weeks I have had loads of views and probably about 7 women message me. but it only goes on for a few messages then it either stops, or if you do bring up meeting, they are going away on holiday for a few weeks so maybe when they get back. and then the conversation stops.


I think my problem is I might be a bit fussy. thing is, im nearly 30, but don't really look 30. yet most of the women 25+ on these place look like they are nearly late 30s and well, that doesn't appeal to me just yet. but then 20-25 year olds are a bit young. so I kind of have a really small window of 25-30 year old women that look like they are in their mid 20s not late 30s.
 
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I think it's just the females are very strange on POF! I messaged someone yesterday and suggested going for a drink or something to eat and she said yeah sounds good. I messaged back asking if she was free this week and nothing back!
 
vail3r said:
I think it's just the females are very strange on POF! I messaged someone yesterday and suggested going for a drink or something to eat and she said yeah sounds good. I messaged back asking if she was free this week and nothing back!
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not just POF, I have had the same from all the sites I have been on. I think its just women in certain areas like attention but soon move on.
 
paradisiac said:
ok, so can someone help. I message people, get a reply, message back, get a reply and this goes on for 3 or 4 messages back and forth, then BAM! nothing. everything seems to be going ok. and then they just go offline then when they come back online they never continue the conversation or contact me again. surely it cant be send opening message, get reply, insist on meeting up :confused: its not even like the messages are out of the ordinary. its normally asking what they have been up to that day things like that.

this is my last convo :

Her : u look really young in ur pics do u have any others ? thank u for ur message luvvie x

Me : I dont have any with my short hair. but yeh, I dont look 29, which I guess is a good thing.

Her : Yea deffo im not good with these sittesat all so i appoligise x

Me : yeh they are really unnatural, so much easier talking to someone face to face. I suppose the only thing in my favour is you cant see my little grey patches in the pics :p How are you?

Her : lol haha :) aw im doing good thanks and u ? x

Me : not too bad. just got in from work so gotta do something for tea. been a hot day, then as soon as I finish work it goes cloudy. always the way.
what you been up to today?



and then that was it, no reply or contact since. where did I go wrong?
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Umm.. mate, you told you just got in and was about to make tea. Hard thrilling stuff and you sound like a mate already...boring her with the 'daily grind' within a handful of messages. :)

And where you highlight your messages aren't anything out of the ordinary...make them out of the ordinary so she remembers you and your messages and comes back.
 
WeOwnTheSky said:
Umm.. mate, you told you just got in and was about to make tea. Hard thrilling stuff and you sound like a mate already...boring her with the 'daily grind' within a handful of messages. :)

And where you highlight your messages aren't anything out of the ordinary...make them out of the ordinary so she remembers you and your messages and comes back.
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you say that, but she initiated the conversation, and she wasn't exactly rolling out mind blowing messages.
 
I've added an example of what I'd have put,

paradisiac said:
Her : u look really young in ur pics do u have any others ? thank u for ur message luvvie x

Me : I dont have any with my short hair. but yeh, I dont look 29, which I guess is a good thing.

(I'd say: That would be my boyish good lucks :p, I'll be laughing when I'm 40 (don't worry... a long way away yet!) and still look 25 though!.

Yeah, I've got some other pictures - Batman costume or chap-less trousers?*

*(only joking ... well... kinda...).
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I've added what I'd put, just keep it light & jokey.

To be fair, you didn't say anything bad - she just sounds like a terrible conversationalist, so you will have to give them things to work with on a plate.

If they continue with stupidly short & boring messages then I'd move on - unfortunately some women rely entirely on looks & can't hold a decent conversation (I'm sure the same is true with some men).
 
Well look's like I might possibly have a date with someone I messaged this morning, she says she will text me later when she checks her shifts in work. Not keeping my hopes up though!
 
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