Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

[ljt]

His gain to be honest.

The point is you're saying you do this all the time, chat to people, get on well with them etc. etc. then decide that you're too good for them before giving them a change. This is harsh on them and they are allowed to be annoyed because of it.
People doing this sort of thing is something that makes internet dating such a chore for people who are genuine and want to actually get something out of it, rather than just a shag. The genuine people just get fed up of people like you and give up on it, Janesy's 3 examples and subsequent deletion of his accounts has shown this fully.

Stop being so picky and thinking you're the best thing ever and you might actually meet some really decent guys.

Indeed

I'm genuinely shocked at reading some of the replies regarding stringing some poor chap/girl a long until something better comes their way. If that’s the “norm” on these things then I think I’ll delete my account now.

I’d never dream of doing that sort of thing. If I end up speaking to someone and I get on with them, meet them etc, the last thing on my mind would be “I’ll keep looking in case somebody better comes my way” or use them to “pass the time”.

 

[MisChief]

Indeed

I'm genuinely shocked at reading some of the replies regarding stringing some poor chap/girl a long until something better comes their way. If that’s the “norm” on these things then I think I’ll delete my account now.

I’d never dream of doing that sort of thing. If I end up speaking to someone and I get on with them, meet them etc, the last thing on my mind would be “I’ll keep looking in case somebody better comes my way” or use them to “pass the time”.

You're too naive then if you think this way. This isn't just the case with online dating, it happens in real life too. Does this mean you're going to give up dating all together?

 

[Janesy B]

Why were you chatting for so long without meeting up? Especially if she really did seem keen to do so?

She was ill for the last week we were speaking, or at least that's what I was told. Maybe something better came along.

I have met some decent guys, but I don't feel I should 'settle' for these decent guys if I don't find them particularly attractive. I don't have to be single, I choose to be single.

The problem I find with some guys is that they're incapable of being just friends with females. No, just because you're on an internet dating site doesn't mean you are looking for a partner - POF allows you to select hang out, looking for friends etc etc. Even if you have selected 'looking for a relationship', it doesn't mean you HAVE to meet up with the intention of dating either. I've made it clear to a few guys even before meeting that I want nothing more than friends. Not my fault if they still fall head over heels for me

Most guys will still try it on, it's a dating site so you can't be surprised/annoyed when someone wants more than just friends even if you tell them otherwise. They probably think it's some sort of game.

 

[InvaderGIR]

I have met some decent guys, but I don't feel I should 'settle' for these decent guys if I don't find them particularly attractive. I don't have to be single, I choose to be single.

The problem I find with some guys is that they're incapable of being just friends with females. No, just because you're on an internet dating site doesn't mean you are looking for a partner - POF allows you to select hang out, looking for friends etc etc. Even if you have selected 'looking for a relationship', it doesn't mean you HAVE to meet up with the intention of dating either. I've made it clear to a few guys even before meeting that I want nothing more than friends. Not my fault if they still fall head over heels for me

I agree about how the site can be used, if you're only after hanging out etc. then it's his fault if he thinks it'll be more (provided you're marked as 'hang out'). But they are entitled to be under the impression they'd be getting further than super friend zone should you have it down as looking for a relationship. You can't expect someone to instantly know that you'd limit them to friends only if you're both 'looking for a relationship'.

As for last sentence...rofl...sure...you keep thinking that, you're a prize catch...

Indeed

I'm genuinely shocked at reading some of the replies regarding stringing some poor chap/girl a long until something better comes their way. If that’s the “norm” on these things then I think I’ll delete my account now.

I’d never dream of doing that sort of thing. If I end up speaking to someone and I get on with them, meet them etc, the last thing on my mind would be “I’ll keep looking in case somebody better comes my way” or use them to “pass the time”.

Unfortunately this is the way with free dating sites, they are full of people that think David Beckham or Prince Charming or whatever will suddenly come along and message them and they'll fall deeply in love. This is not how life is for the vast populous though and they can't understand that. Their loss and problem though really, if they are like that you may as well move on to someone who is better suited to you and doesn't have unrealistic expectations.

You're too naive then if you think this way. This isn't just the case with online dating, it happens in real life too. Does this mean you're going to give up dating all together?

Considering the way you appear to be treating people, you're naive to think you'll ever find a guy that will stick around.

Away from the internet people are a lot better and more accommodating rather than being extremely shallow and elitist pigs. I've been with people that could be viewed as out of my league from meeting them via friends etc., on the internet they'd never have entertained the idea of speaking to me.

 

[MisChief]

As for last sentence...rofl...sure...you keep thinking that, you're a prize catch...

Nope I don't think that. However I don't get all disappointed and discouraged if guys stop talking to me or cancel a date. I most certainly don't cry about it to anyone.

 

[Janesy B]

lol at discussing something as 'crying about it'. I've stated I'm a bit fed up and I'm taking a break from it and I'll go back with a fresh start.

 

[InvaderGIR]

Nope I don't think that. However I don't get all disappointed and discouraged if guys stop talking to me or cancel a date. I most certainly don't cry about it to anyone.

If you're trying to imply that I get genuinely upset about these things, I can tell you I really don't. I find online dating to be hilarious due to the vast majority of people on there being like yourself.

I don't tend to bother with dating sites myself unless I'm bored and want a chuckle.

 

[MoNkeE]

****, this is like a ****ing contest for who's the biggest **** you guys just keep going, nomsayin'?

 

[MisChief]

Considering the way you appear to be treating people, you're naive to think you'll ever find a guy that will stick around.

Away from the internet people are a lot better and more accommodating rather than being extremely shallow and elitist pigs. I've been with people that could be viewed as out of my league from meeting them via friends etc., on the internet they'd never have entertained the idea of speaking to me.

You can think all you like. At the end of the day I'm not here asking for advice, I'm just saying what I think. You seem to be rather bothered by it

Oh and I'm not on dating sites anymore. I'm way too good for those people. Right?

 

[Janesy B]

****, this is like a ****ing contest for who's the biggest **** you guys just keep going, nomsayin'?

I don't have a clue what you just said but I'm just going to nod and agree.

Things I have learnt today/in the last few months.

- Women are fickle
- Don't waste time in meeting them
- Women are fickle
- Don't get upset just because you get friendzoned
- Women are fickle

Oh and I'm not on dating sites anymore. I'm way too good for those people. Right?

Too good for the whole of the internet?

 

[Howard]

I doubt there are many guys using internet dating sites just for friendship, and nothing more. The clue's in the name, really. The whole idea is you meet someone, chat to them, get to know them, and decide if you want to date them.

However I don't believe in plain rudeness or ignorance. I'd always be honest with someone if I wasn't interested or there wasn't a spark. Although most of the time it's been the other party deciding this, but it doesn't particularly bother me. The internet is a funny old place, and most people on POF are a funny old bunch, with a superiority complex.

 

[InvaderGIR]

You can think all you like. At the end of the day I'm not here asking for advice, I'm just saying what I think. You seem to be rather bothered by it

Oh and I'm not on dating sites anymore. I'm way too good for those people. Right?

Yes, I'm extremely bothered...

I doubt there are many guys using internet dating sites just for friendship, and nothing more. The clue's in the name, really. The whole idea is you meet someone, chat to them, get to know them, and decide if you want to date them.

However I don't believe in plain rudeness or ignorance. I'd always be honest with someone if I wasn't interested or there wasn't a spark. Although most of the time it's been the other party deciding this, but it doesn't particularly bother me. The internet is a funny old place, and most people on POF are a funny old bunch, with a superiority complex.

Dat's me point.

 

[Skillmister]

****, this is like a ****ing contest for who's the biggest **** you guys just keep going, nomsayin'?

Let's just skip the dates and have kids nomsayin?

 

[Morba]

Why would you be on a dating site looking for friendship?

People used to think it was bad being online looking for a partner let alone "I have no friends"!!

I'd not be interested in anyone that stated that they didn't want more than friendship when contacting me

 

[HankScorpio]

I love it how nearly 90% of women's profiles put 'loves shopping, shoes and whatnot' like any fella would be interested in that ****e. If they got a response from a guy liking all that he'd be camp as christmas and they'd quickly bin him after the first date, unless you ladies want another 'girlfriend'. (my sister has just done the same thing, guy came over all masculine and was pretty flamboyant on her first meeting and she was pretty horrified)

 

[regulus]

It's both hilarious and depressing watching some of you get into a total tizzy about a random skirt. It's is no wonder most girls walk all over guys. You allow them to. NEVER put it on a pedestal or treat them kindly with kid gloves. They won't return the favour.

 

[MoNkeE]

Let's just skip the dates and have kids nomsayin?

Brah, I thought you'd never ask <3

I love it how nearly 90% of women's profiles put 'loves shopping, shoes and whatnot' like any fella would be interested in that ****e. If they got a response from a guy liking all that he'd be camp as christmas and they'd quickly bin him after the first date, unless you ladies want another 'girlfriend'. (my sister has just done the same thing, guy came over all masculine and was pretty flamboyant on her first meeting and she was pretty horrified)

They do that to inform you what THEY are in to, not that they're looking for a man in to shoes and shopping......... Djeez, talk about missing the point

 

[Janesy B]

It's both hilarious and depressing watching some of you get into a total tizzy about a random skirt. It's is no wonder most girls walk all over guys. You allow them to. NEVER put it on a pedestal or treat them kindly with kid gloves. They won't return the favour.

Quite the opposite, the last girl I mentioned in my post got short shrift because she kept messing me about. I'm only bemoaning the fact that I was messed about, if I was letting them walk all over me I would have said DON'T WORRY LOL when I got let down for the 2nd time in a row by the same person, I didn't.

 

[Elixir]

They do that to inform you what THEY are in to, not that they're looking for a man in to shoes and shopping......... Djeez, talk about missing the point

I think he means that it isn't a very good selling point... it's like a man putting "I like watching football and going out on the **** with the lads."

 

[HankScorpio]

Brah, I thought you'd never ask <3



They do that to inform you what THEY are in to, not that they're looking for a man in to shoes and shopping......... Djeez, talk about missing the point

Yeah I thought it might have been that at first, but when I was considering putting 'rare mineral collection' in my hobbies I thought better of it since I can't imagine it'd be a lure. You're supposed to put things others may have in common right and can discuss? or am I missing something...