Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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MoNkeE said:
What are you doing and what does she like?
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just starting off with a drink and seeing what happens I think.

Janesy B said:
Wear whatever you feel comfortable in, there's nothing more embarrassing than seeing a bloke dressed up in gear that he looks awkward in.

Don't forget to give her a black eye too, girls like a bit of rough apparently. Don't be too nice either, it's a sign of weakness.
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ah yeh, the old black eye trick, must not forget this :p

I think the point was, there is being nice, which I am, or being desperate, which is what a lot of people come across as with their compliments and stuff.
 
Surely just go with whatever you're comfortable in and suits the venue?

Last date I went on I wore jeans, shoes and a casual fitted shirt....which was fine for the meal we'd planned but the shirt made bowling a pita when we decided to go there. :p
 
paradisiac said:
I think the point was, there is being nice, which I am, or being desperate, which is what a lot of people come across as with their compliments and stuff.
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If it's in your nature to compliment someone on what they are wearing etc then yes, you'll get away with it. If you never do it and it comes across as forced, then no.
 
Janesy B said:
If it's in your nature to compliment someone on what they are wearing etc then yes, you'll get away with it. If you never do it and it comes across as forced, then no.
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I think compliments and things are best saved until you have been chatting a while or meet up. I think people that do it all in the first few messages come across as desperate or slimy, even if it does come natural to them.
 
It all depends on the delivery. A quick "wow you look great", with a slight pause to show sincerity, quicky followed by moving the conversation along will always go down a treat. Catch them off guard, don't give them the opportunity to reply, and whatever you do, don't get embarrassed or awkward when you say it!
 
MoNkeE said:
It all depends on the delivery. A quick "wow you look great", with a slight pause to show sincerity, quicky followed by moving the conversation along will always go down a treat. Catch them off guard, don't give them the opportunity to reply, and whatever you do, don't get embarrassed or awkward when you say it!
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haha embarrassed :p I don't think I do that very easily
 
MoNkeE said:
I expect women to throw themselves at me
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Edited ;)

Happens to me all the time - quite bored of being a chick magnet tbh... Though it's better than being a sausage magnet that's for sure! ;)

Damn my Mediterranean good looks, and steaming physique, and my smooth sultry patter... :p
 
Mate, seeing the sorts of comments you attract on here, I think it's quite apparent your sausage magnet is set to maximum power :p
 
paradisiac said:
now now play nice guys :p

so any tips for my date tonight? we have been talking online and text every day now for 2 weeks, so I feel we have covered most of the stuff you would normally talk about when meeting someone.

also, we are going for drinks. what do you wear, like jeans, trainers and a shirt?
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Just a quick note about this, in future don't be in constant contact before your date. Set the date up and feel free to text a bit here and there but don't over do it. If you're not constantly on tap then she'll be wondering why, what you're upto, she might think you're busy with other women etc, this is all good. Keep a bit of mystery to yourself and don't be always available early on.



Oh and on the compliments, if you feel you have to, then pick something out specifically, not just a general "oh you look nice". That's dull, we're avoiding dull and boring. Something better would be 'I like your hair like that' or compliment something about what she's wearing.

On topics of conversation stay interesting. Talk about the best Holiday she's been on, the time you got lost exploring, anything adventurous or spontaneous you've done. Stay away from boring subjects like work and family.
 
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I'm stuck.

A girl I have met before from a friend, who happened to go out with him has turned up on POF.

This isn't a do I ask my friend question, no don't be daft, I don't need his approval.

Anyway, how do I approach the opener with her?

1) Hey me no see you long time?

2) Hi <comment about profile, never talk about past>

Bear in mind I have no idea if their relationship went south.
 
Well I’ve just closed my POF account. Must be one of the shortest time periods for an account on there! :D

After reading what you have to do to get even a hope of a reply I thought it best to bow out now because I don’t do the whole "out to impress", “playing games” or must have the “best” message out of the 100 other messages these women must get to ignore mine.

I have no desire to put on bravado and try to stand out from the crowd. I don’t do massaging their egos either. At the end of the day I am me, if they don’t like what I put in my message then tough ****. I am not going to change who I am to try and get a message as that wreaks of desperation, I’m happy with who I am and women can either like me for who I am or **** off :) If that means I'll stay single then so be it.
 
Gzero said:
I'm stuck.

A girl I have met before from a friend, who happened to go out with him has turned up on POF.

This isn't a do I ask my friend question, no don't be daft, I don't need his approval.

Anyway, how do I approach the opener with her?

1) Hey me no see you long time?

2) Hi <comment about profile, never talk about past>

Bear in mind I have no idea if their relationship went south.
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How well do you know her?
 
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