Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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krooton said:
I'd liken it to how you serve a meal.

Presentation greatly impacts the initial perception of food, even though it will taste the same as a sloppily presented meal.

Focus on your strong points, and leave out your weak ones entirely, as that gives people ammunition to pass on you from the off. If they actually got to know you first, they might find they are willing to accept whatever your weak points are.
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exactly. people see your little pic next to your message, so instantly if this looks bad your not going to get anywhere. then the message, if this is interesting and they approved of your tiny thumbnail pic they will click on your profile. once there they will skim read it picking out keywords and reading those sentences. too many negative keywords and bam, your out.

likewise, if they are searching for you, they get your profile pic and the first paragraph-ish, so if this isn't eye catching, bam, your out.

they do not need to know your life story in the profile, they just want a few nice pics to get an idea of what you look like, and a very brief description of what might be interesting for them and make them want to know more.
 
Morba said:
Why on earth are so many giving you their number? they must be mad.
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because texting is a lot easier than the stupid online chat things :p why is it mad? not like they are giving me their address now is it ;) I get free unlimited texts so suits me, even though im at my laptop all day :p

the great thing is, I have never once offered mine first or asked for theirs, they just insist on giving me it.
 
paradisiac said:
exactly. people see your little pic next to your message, so instantly if this looks bad your not going to get anywhere. then the message, if this is interesting and they approved of your tiny thumbnail pic they will click on your profile. once there they will skim read it picking out keywords and reading those sentences. too many negative keywords and bam, your out.

likewise, if they are searching for you, they get your profile pic and the first paragraph-ish, so if this isn't eye catching, bam, your out.

they do not need to know your life story in the profile, they just want a few nice pics to get an idea of what you look like, and a very brief description of what might be interesting for them and make them want to know more.
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You're. You're. You're. :mad:
 
Roar87 said:
You need to have a very good profile picture, a unique profile as well as sending out funny/interesting/unique messages. If you're not doing all that you may as well not even bother. Even if you have all that then it's still a numbers game, that is send out a lot of messages and expect a couple of replies.
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That is what I am on about, if I did that it wouldn't be me, that's all I'm trying to get across.

I joined POF out of curiosity. It has made me realise that it wasn't the way I want to meet a woman, so I deleted the account. I am in no rush to meet somebody, I've been happily single for 10 years, and am happy to continue that way, if I meet a lady living the lifestyle I have now then great, if I don't I shant loose any sleep over it.
 
Sucks to think that I can't even do any good in the internet dating world :p

Most of the numbers I have got, I have spoke to them for a while but end up turning in to someone I couldn't see myself getting on with, others quite needy and full force on the text's.

Maybe it's me I dont know. Kind of been out of the whole dating game for a few years.
 
Im not having any luck at all, a few reply but they all fizzle out after a day of talking, im either extremely boring (hope not hehe) or they are just wanting to get their confidence up or something - I would post my profile here for it to be judged but im not sure i want to do that lol

Just seems rather odd, maybe im shooting high or too low, no idea.
 
KnightStalker said:
Im not having any luck at all, a few reply but they all fizzle out after a day of talking, im either extremely boring (hope not hehe) or they are just wanting to get their confidence up or something - I would post my profile here for it to be judged but im not sure i want to do that lol

Just seems rather odd, maybe im shooting high or too low, no idea.
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the thing is, women do exactly the same as men. they talk to loads at once and then slowly filter them down. its not that you are boring or doing anything wrong. I have got on well with lots of people, but you get to a point where there are just too many to keep going at once, and its easier to work on new ones as you can cover the same ground you did with the others :p
 
KnightStalker said:
See thats where im maybe going wrong, i talk to 1 person at a time, might need to increase that number to a few more.
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I usually fire a message across to a few at a time, see who replies.

Why use 1 hook when you can use 4 ;) to increase chances of a reply that's all, not to be a whore :p
 
KnightStalker said:
See thats where im maybe going wrong, i talk to 1 person at a time, might need to increase that number to a few more.
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I find any less than 5 at one time im going wrong. its a lot quicker to work out the good ones if you can have as many on the go as possible. but too many and you make the mistake I did last night and call someone the wrong name :p
its pretty easy really, have a set list of questions, but phrase them differently depending on the person. work out if they seem like a mentalist, if they do, stop the convo, and replace with another one. eventually you have covered everyone in your area and know the potential ones. then a few new surprise members sign up and off you go again.
 
That last one of mine proper put me off, At the mo I got one of my Younger Sisters mates chatting on me on FB chat but I just cannot bring myself to bother as the last one off the Interwebs was such a disaster. Being trapped in a room/house/building/club/pub/hole in the ground with a Doris coming on to you that you don't fancy is nothing short of Horrendous. :( + :p
 
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