Hi Rich, I think you do too much thinking. Especially about me. Your posts, although seemingly erudite at first glance, are in fact mostly rehashings of points I have already made about myself. Perhaps you could save some time and effort and focus on something worthwhile. Like telling people with arms that they have arms.
Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!
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I'm thinking too much? Ironic considering how carefully contrived and overwritten your posts are.
It just seems that you're just trying a little too hard to be sophisticated and witty, feigning an air of nonchalance which just ends up coming across as forced and unnatural. But I shall then shut my cake-hole and leave you to your, erm, fun.
You. You are my favourite ever.
You can't be rubbish if you've had 6 dates off of it! Most guys don't even get replies to messages.
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You can't be rubbish if you've had 6 dates off of it! Most guys don't even get replies to messages.
So true, probably sent about 30-40 messages so far and only 2 messages back, one admitted to only being 17 in her first reply, and the 2nd one answered my message that had multiple questions with a 5 word reply.
No idea how anyone actually gets to the dating stage on here!
You can't be rubbish if you've had 6 dates off of it! Most guys don't even get replies to messages.
I've had my fair share of not getting replies, you just need to keep going really. I'm still quite friendly with the previous 5 girls and have a few more on Facebook that I never ended up meeting but still chat with.
To be honest only one of the girls I met I really fancied properly (from her profile) but the timing with her was bad. The others were okay and had good chat so I wanted to meet them and see what they were like in person. That's not working out so well though.
I think some people approach it differently from yourself; opening gambits (no pun intended) may be viewed as just short, sharp exchanges before progressing to chat or whatever, rather than diving straight into a 'questionnaire' from the very beginning.
I tried online dating when I was about 23-24 and looking back now I think I probably came across far too seriously, I'd be fairly meticulous in my approach, you know, reading everything on their profile and trying to find common ground, asking 'thoughtful' questions about things I picked up or whatever. And ultimately I think that was a waste of time, at least when introducing myself. To be honest, things are probably even more succinct these days, back then there was no facebook, twitter, mobile internet (at least not in the mainstream - not stuff that random girls would have) etc and longer messages were probably more 'acceptable' then.
You've got to remember that most girls will be getting dozens of messages a day, they can't devote a massive amount of time to each one, so don't be put off by the five word message. As pointed out even to be getting a reply means there's a fair chance they like something about you so far, whether it be your pic, profile, message or whatever - otherwise they'd simply ignore your message. If they are messaging from a mobile device, they may not want to write an essay.
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Well I'm done for then!
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Pretty much what I've been doing, I'll try a shorter message approach, at least for the introductions.
Stick with it, POF girl number 12 has been my GF for 7 months now
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finally get to meet up with someone from pof. had 2 great dates, had a few phone calls and plenty texts in between all nice and dandy. gave roses on the second date she loved them seemed genuinley impressed. get a text tonight after 3 cancellations that no longer wants a relationship. all fine, however who wants to bet i'll be seeing this chick online on the next few weeks on pof?
This and this, and for good measure, this again.
I've made sure to quiz girls about this on all my dates and they all admit that if the picture don't look good, the profiles aren't even read.
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Step 0: Lower standards.
Step 1: Be attractive.
Step 2: Don't be unattractive.
FTFY.
Well it's only fair. It's not like us blokes are going to sift through 3000 words of drivel if the pics are of some ugly heffer either.
Stick with it, POF girl number 12 has been my GF for 7 months now
Good work. Arranging a date with girl number 7 soon! She seems ace!
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