I think the major problem with having someone in the room when you are trying to chat with women on the internet is them being your girlfriend, in which case spraffing some spew into a forum while they feed the cats next to you is probably good crack for disguising your frantic keying efforts...
Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!
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To get anywhere on POF do you have to send crap loads of messages? Is it like job interviews, where you might apply for 50 and only get one reply?
I'm on POF and I don't know if my profile is good enough, am I boring? am I ugly? I'm a nervous wreck I'll tell yee that much, I don't know what to say to girls.
Can someone have a look at my profile and tell me if there is some major flaws with it?
I'm on POF and I don't know if my profile is good enough, am I boring? am I ugly? I'm a nervous wreck I'll tell yee that much, I don't know what to say to girls.
Can someone have a look at my profile and tell me if there is some major flaws with it?
Linky?
, the only one I got was from a girl curious about my lycra cycling shorts 
I don't feel it's my place to say, and please don't take this the wrong way. But change your "about me" section. Just make it more casual, don't say anything that might put a female off, let them find out about your failings later on. Don't make it too long, just like 2 maybe 3 paragraphs about what is interesting about you, don't go OTT on info or else you'll struggle for conversation with someone when you do meet them.
Think about it like this, if you were going to buy a dog, you'd probably go check out the ad that said "Great dog, really friendly and doesn't bark." The fact that it ***** everywhere all the time is something that you'll learn later on. Close the sale, then start the fail.
Think about it like this, if you were going to buy a dog, you'd probably go check out the ad that said "Great dog, really friendly and doesn't bark." The fact that it ***** everywhere all the time is something that you'll learn later on. Close the sale, then start the fail.
Pics - not liking 4th pic, you look uncomfortable. Replace last pic with a pic of someone punching you for real (or just replace with a 'normal' pic..)
About me - York, Manchester, Uni. Uni, York, Manchester, Manchester... What?!?? Just cut the crap and say you're currently living in York but looking to find a job in Manchester and move there.
Don't say you "can take a joke and not take everything too seriously" - you should be able to anyway without stating it. Don't say you're a worrier, that's just off putting. Don't say you can come out with some right stupid and random things.
"I might just do something like, travel to London, or even cycle there"..... well, I'd be more impressed if you said something like across Europe and back, but London? London??!!?
"In Winter when it snows, I really like to have snow ball fights and build stuff with the snow, have to make the most of it." - it's just snow... calm down!
"For a first date, somewhere we can get to know each other, cinema, quiet place to have a meal, or a walk." - quiet place to have a meal, or a walk??? What about quiet place to actually chat and get to know each other?!?
Much better!
Here is the profile text I use for mine, maybe anyone struggling to write something can adapt it a little:
Light-hearted, nothing negative mentioned (I see no reason to ever mention negative things about yourself), and gives a little of my character without going over the top. I used to try and be much more clever in what I wrote, but in the end people aren't looking for literary displays of genius, they just want to know that you can string a sentence together, have some interests, and know a little about what you want in life. Seems to get me a fair few replies... but my photos are decent so that helps I guess.
So, about me. I think i'm not bad looking, intelligent, with a sharp (though slightly dark and sarcastic) sense of humour. I love to go out and party, but i'm also just as happy curling up on the sofa with a good movie or book. I like to ski, mountain bike, scuba dive, go to the cinema, read a good book, write about things that interest me, and listen to music among other things. I mainly listen to Rock, Pop, Britpop and Dance/Electro, and i'm not a big fan of rap or heavy metal. I'm also a nightmare when I get too hungry, I need to be fed quickly or I get very grumpy. Oh yeah, and i'm not such a bad cook and masseur either.
I'm looking for a girl who is sexy and intelligent with a good sense of humour... an independent girl who is confident about herself and her body (no super shy girls please, that's not my thing). Someone feminine with a little class and elegance, but who isn't afraid to let her hair down, have fun, and maybe break a nail sometimes. Skiing or Snowboarding is a definite bonus as like I said earlier, I love to ski in Winter!
While it says "Im looking for a relationship" on my profile... my philosophy is "take it as it comes". To start with I just want casual drinks and dates, and then if it progresses into anything else then that's fine; but I think the harder you look for something or the more you try to force it, then the less likely you are to find it. Best to relax, take it easy, and see what happens.
I could write more, but in my experience most people seem to look at the photos and then skim the rest... so if you want to find out more then send me a message!
Light-hearted, nothing negative mentioned (I see no reason to ever mention negative things about yourself), and gives a little of my character without going over the top. I used to try and be much more clever in what I wrote, but in the end people aren't looking for literary displays of genius, they just want to know that you can string a sentence together, have some interests, and know a little about what you want in life. Seems to get me a fair few replies... but my photos are decent so that helps I guess.
Much better!
Awesome.
Now I need to think what I can say to girls in a message then actually attempt to message some, I'm so unconfident.
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i'm in the process of reducing mine further. i think having more then one photo is a waste of time. i was trying to think how do i look at girls profiles, it literally is just one photo (needs to clearly show them) and then a quick scan of profile and i'm interested or not, and i imagine it's the same for them, so more photos only add more options where they may have liked the first one but then put off from the second/third etc.
i'm no pro and only ever had 1 girl meet up with me who has now called it off so take that into consideration.
i also realised most girls i message are "online" (may be viewing though a phone) so feel perhaps this is the same situation, where online people show more often against people who haven't been on for a few days. i will try leaving the page open when doing something else to test and see what happens. i noticed before that the 2 messages i've only ever received from girls i didn't approach first were whilst i was online. this could be a coincidence.
i've also decided to go for short rubbish copy paste messages where i nicely say "i can't be bothered to go through your profile and make up some fluff about how we're alike, but instead just want to say from your pictures and about me section i like you and would like to get to know you. let me know if you want to get to know each other better."
it's better then that but that's the gist.
i'm no pro and only ever had 1 girl meet up with me who has now called it off so take that into consideration.
i also realised most girls i message are "online" (may be viewing though a phone) so feel perhaps this is the same situation, where online people show more often against people who haven't been on for a few days. i will try leaving the page open when doing something else to test and see what happens. i noticed before that the 2 messages i've only ever received from girls i didn't approach first were whilst i was online. this could be a coincidence.
i've also decided to go for short rubbish copy paste messages where i nicely say "i can't be bothered to go through your profile and make up some fluff about how we're alike, but instead just want to say from your pictures and about me section i like you and would like to get to know you. let me know if you want to get to know each other better."
it's better then that but that's the gist.
I got a message from this one today (http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=46221830)
So I'd say 2-3 photo's and I would message. I just want to know how her hair is staying up?
Man I seem to be attracting a fair few cute 23 year olds on the dating sites at the moment which just seems odd (im very early 30's)... didn't realise they went for older guys at that age, thought it was more mid/late 20's. In real life its usually fine as I can turn on the charm and age is never mentioned until the hook is set, but online the age is clearly stated so id have though much less likely for someone so young to go for it, but clearly not.
She seems alright actually, no stunner but cute, and tats are always a bonus as long as they aren't on her forehead. The profile makes her sound intelligent, independant, laid back and pretty cool too.
She seems alright actually, no stunner but cute, and tats are always a bonus as long as they aren't on her forehead. The profile makes her sound intelligent, independant, laid back and pretty cool too.
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I'm 31 and have a date with a 22 year old.
Broke the half your age plus 7 rule.
Strong myspace angles though! A good example why one pic isn't enough.
I'm 31 and have a date with a 22 year old.
Broke the half your age plus 7 rule.
Couple of obligatory pics...
Girl 1
This one i've never met but she seems keen to meet asap... not my usual cup of tea looks-wise though to be honest so will think about it.
Face shot...
This photo of her is a bit more interesting...
Girl 2
And another one that ive been on a couple of dates with... complicated girl but a sweetie.
[/quote]And another one...Seem to be doing OK at the moment.
EDIT - Pics were limited time only.
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