Size 12 would look fine with a 6'2" guy with 38" waist and 46" chest all buff (or fat) like.
My brother was married to a 12, but as she was 6'1", she still looked proportionately slim.
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Size 12 would look fine with a 6'2" guy with 38" waist and 46" chest all buff (or fat) like.
My brother was married to a 12, but as she was 6'1", she still looked proportionately slim.
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I met an amazing girl on PoF in May - my first ever internet date experience, she messaged me in the first week I was registered. I didn't message anyone myself as I was far too shy but I had 6 different invitations to meet other people some of which I could only describe as almost 'conjugal'... disgusting.
Anyway I've never looked back since, we've been offically together since 10th June and are now happily living together and about to spend our first Christmas together.
Some of the comments in here feel slightly shallow I have to admit, I didn't discount any profile based on weight or size only interests and hobbies. I did discount any profile that anything along the lines of "Just looking for a genuine guy now, fed up of all the same guys" "you're all the same.." and any other I'm shallow type comments...
Anyway I've never looked back since, we've been offically together since 10th June and are now happily living together and about to spend our first Christmas together.
Some of the comments in here feel slightly shallow I have to admit, I didn't discount any profile based on weight or size only interests and hobbies. I did discount any profile that anything along the lines of "Just looking for a genuine guy now, fed up of all the same guys" "you're all the same.." and any other I'm shallow type comments...
I'm guessing those things come from lack of experience through your shyness, in which case sure then I guess you would not be as physically fussy, or "shallow" as you somewhat amusingly label it. However, for the rest of us in the real world who have the experience to know what we like, then of course there is nothing wrong with filtering based on what you are physically attracted to, and to think otherwise is just naieve in the extreme.
However, congrats on meeting your match, hope it lasts.
I think he was referring to not writing people off because they don't fit into a certain body shape.
Oh noes you're not a size 10 or under! Bye.
What if your perfect women, personality wise came along and was a 12? You would have missed out.
Being size 12 would mean they are not perfect.
But really, I agree to an extent, which is why I have a 'stretch' of size 12. I'm yet to find a size 14 I am physically attracted to, and that is the first hurdle of a relationship. I have good friendships with plenty of larger women, but they are friendships for a reason.
I know what he was saying... but I am now old enough to know with almost pinpoint precision what kind of girl I find physically attractive. I do not find girls with extra chub pleasing to look at... any perfect woman to me is not someone with a great personality and a bit of extra chub... it is a girl with a great personality and a slim 6-10 body.
Do I care if I slightly reduce my chance of finding "The One" by filtering based on bodytypes, in favour of making sure the girls I meet are sexually attractiuve to me? No, not one jot, life is too short to compromise and any relationship will flounder if there is imbalance in any area.
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Fair play, glad it worked out for you
As for me, I’ve never had the urge to try internet dating. I like meeting and chatting to people the old skool way.Agreed some of the comments on here are shallow but still, loads of people are asking to be simply honest on their dating profile which many are not, this seems to be mostly coming from women (no offence to the lovely ladies out there looking for someone
) according to people who I have spoken to about trying it.One of my friends who has been doing it for 18 months with Match and POF has had his fair few dates but he said the amount of women who clearly lie about their weight. Yes, you get the ones who “lets take loads of photos of my face at an angle so they can’t see my double chin but can see my cleavage”
He has been caught out on dates, meeting up with a women who were not what they looked like on their profile, to find out the photos were taken 5 years ago.
Finding certain physical features attractive isn't shallow its biology. Who am I to argue with millions of years of natural selection and evolution. Admitting the importance of physical attraction is just honest, burying that instinct in the pursuit of being a 'nice guy' isnt helpful to anyone.
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How is it considered shallow to have expectations of a potential partner?
For a start, physical attraction is a primal instinct, there's nothing shallow about it. For someone who you could potentially be with the rest of your life I hope to god you find them pleasing to look at. No one here has said they only go for someone because they're good looking, discounting the personality.
You know what is shallow? Being with someone you don't find physically attractive, being with them because you like their personality but not what they look like, because you're too lazy to go find someone who ticks both those boxes.
Not only do I think over-weight/chubby people are physically unattractive, I think it says a lot about their personality as well. If they don't respect their own body enough to look after it and take pride in it then what does that say on their outlook on other things?
I'm not saying you have to look like a pro-athlete to be attractive, but the actual action of working out, seeing a girl kicking ass jogging or on a cross-trainer is probably the most attractive things to see, it shows positivity, someone who cares about themselves. But hey if you'd much rather see a girl demolish a large pizza by herself every night that's down to personal preference.
For a start, physical attraction is a primal instinct, there's nothing shallow about it. For someone who you could potentially be with the rest of your life I hope to god you find them pleasing to look at. No one here has said they only go for someone because they're good looking, discounting the personality.
You know what is shallow? Being with someone you don't find physically attractive, being with them because you like their personality but not what they look like, because you're too lazy to go find someone who ticks both those boxes.
Not only do I think over-weight/chubby people are physically unattractive, I think it says a lot about their personality as well. If they don't respect their own body enough to look after it and take pride in it then what does that say on their outlook on other things?
I'm not saying you have to look like a pro-athlete to be attractive, but the actual action of working out, seeing a girl kicking ass jogging or on a cross-trainer is probably the most attractive things to see, it shows positivity, someone who cares about themselves. But hey if you'd much rather see a girl demolish a large pizza by herself every night that's down to personal preference.
Exactly, how can you spend the rest of your life with someone who clearly doesn’t look after themselves, when you do?
As someone said way back in this thread, looks get the attraction but personality keeps you there. If you fall at the first hurdle with looks then your options are extremely limited at finding someone.
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Some good advice there
made me reconsider this guy who keeps messing me about at the moment. I'm just going to leave it now 
Some people are just naturally skinny, some people put on weight more. I often have to watch what I eat as I put it on very easily.
I used to weight 15st and I now weight 13st, and that was for cutting out just crisps/biscuits/cake and going to the gym once a week. I have friends that eat crap all the time and just do no put weight on.
Obviously some people take it too far with their eating and it shows, but to say that they don't look after themselves is a bit silly in my personal opinion.
I find size 12-16 my ideal range, I literally don't see the attraction in anything below size 10 really. (except the obvious Mila Jovovich)
Some good advice there
Good girl, obviously the advice applies to both of the sexes.
I suppose in the same way some people just naturally find crisps/biscuits/cake magically making its way to their mouths
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Good girl, obviously the advice applies to both of the sexes.
Haha, thanks! Yeah, I'd been having second thoughts about him for a while (been 'dating' about 2 months) and something wasn't feeling quite right and if I'm feeling this so early on, what the heck is it going to be like later? Think I've made up my mind
I suppose in the same way some people just naturally find crisps/biscuits/cake magically making its way to their mouths
Now that is true, I'd often find cake in my mouth and wonder how it got there.
Sometimes it can be caused by anything though, while I do like to laugh about the fact I used to be a right chubber, it's sometimes hard to not eat crap. I've had arguments over it as I never buy really unhealthy food unless I'm out.
If it's there, it will get eaten.
I'm no biologist but I don't believe some people are naturally a certain way (of course there are certain medical conditions which are excluded), obesity isn't natural no matter what way you look at it. Look at the animal kingdom and find me an obese animal, you'll find a lot of obese domestic animals, because their owners have fed them too much. Same applies to humans, you'll find a lot of obese humans... because they feed themselves too much.
Fair enough if you find the larger ladies attractive, but I think it's more natural and nicer to see if these 'curves' are of muscle definition rather than sacks of fat (excluding breasts of course) par example;
Not sure if the pic is appropriate but I've seen worse on GD. But that for me is an awesome body for a woman.
Be still my beating heart.
Actually a little bit *too* fit for me if I'm honest. I would genuinely prefer it if she were slightly less muscley and slightly more chubstery.
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