Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

[doodah]

I will tell you why......

I lived in rural Surrey for 16 years. I lived next door to a hair dressers and over the years it changed management. Each time they weren't that well equipped to do my hair - most of this was before the afro. The last time I had my hair cut was by a crossed eyed trainee (a couple of years below me at my school) who some how managed to give some weird curly bowl cut. Luckily I was off to Canada the next day so wore my beanie most of the time.

 

[Richdog]

Something like this.......

- both OcUK photoshops.

I haven't cut my hair for 9+ years - it stopped growing years ago. My natural (basically a result of not brushing after washing) hair looks quite a bit different and quite good. Not too keen with cutting it other than lobbing off some of the back and getting some growth back in the front. My excuse for not cutting was living in Surrey most of my life so no black hair dressers, I live near Lewisham now so no excuses.....so I do agree with you just reluctant

LMAO @ the Richard and Judy one.

But seriously dude, I think your hair would look awesome like the top picture I posted.

 

[gambitt]

I found this profile somewhere on the internet. I think it's hilarious and doesn't read like a series of factual statements at all. Enjoy!


I'm an English guy who has been living and working for an IT company in London for the last few months. I love the city and the people, and plan to stay here permanently.

So, about me. I think i'm not bad looking (people generally say I look 27), intelligent(!), with a sharp (though slightly dark and sarcastic) sense of humour(!!!). I love to go out and party, but i'm also just as happy curling up on the sofa with a good movie or book. I like to ski, mountain bike, scuba dive, go to the movies, read a good book, write about things that interest me, and listen to music among other things. I mainly listen to Rock, Pop, Britpop and Dance/Electro, and i'm not a big fan of rap or heavy metal. I'm also a nightmare when I get too hungry, I need to be fed quickly or I get very grumpy. Oh yeah, and i'm not such a bad cook and masseur either.

I'm looking for a girl who is sexy, intelligent with a good sense of humour, independent, who is confident about herself and her body (no super shy girls please, that's not my thing). Someone feminine with a little class and elegance, but who isn't afraid to let her hair down, have fun, and maybe break a nail sometimes. Skiing or Snowboarding is a definite bonus as like I said earlier, I love to ski in Winter!

While it says "Im looking for a relationship" on my profile... my philosophy is "take it as it comes". To start with I just want casual drinks and dates, and then if it progresses into anything else then that's fine; but I think the harder you look for something or the more you try to force it, then the less likely you are to find it. Best to relax, take it easy, and see what happens.

I could write more, but in my experience most people seem to look at the photos and then skim the rest... so if you want to find out more then send me a message!

 

[Richdog]

gambit, congrats on finally qualifying as a bonafide internet stalker, and good to see I was proved wholly right in my assumptions about that fragile little ego of yours. I'm kinda flattered.

 

[cork-spotters]

So chatting to a hot blonde on POF at the moment who seems intelligent and very chatty/confident. How in the name of God do you ask her out?!! She gives no indication of preferred first date and I doubt she wants something boring....

 

[krooton]

we're moving to Canada together on 19th March next year
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Awww, that's my and my POF's anniversary date

 

[WILD9]

So chatting to a hot blonde on POF at the moment who seems intelligent and very chatty/confident. How in the name of God do you ask her out?!! She gives no indication of preferred first date and I doubt she wants something boring....

2 things to keep in mind during this

1) Shes on there to meet people so just ask her to meet you for a drink, its not a big deal.

2) Dont get too worked up about where you go, if you hit it off you would have hit it off anywhere. Trying to impress her will put you on the back foot, I'm sure your a very cool guy so just relax and if she wants to meet up have a chat somewhere and see if theres chemistry. You can always plan that second date base jumping off off the Toronto tower while your there.

 

[Richdog]

So chatting to a hot blonde on POF at the moment who seems intelligent and very chatty/confident. How in the name of God do you ask her out?!! She gives no indication of preferred first date and I doubt she wants something boring....

2 things to keep in mind during this

1) Shes on there to meet people so just ask her to meet you for a drink, its not a big deal.

2) Dont get too worked up about where you go, if you hit it off you would have hit it off anywhere. Trying to impress her will put you on the back foot, I'm sure your a very cool guy so just relax and if she wants to meet up have a chat somewhere and see if theres chemistry. You can always plan that second date base jumping off off the Toronto tower while your there.

This, 100%. Just stick to a nicely located winebar or similar for the first date. All she wants to do at this point is assess chemistry, and doing something too big on a first date can lead to disaster. Aim to keep it relatively short and sweet (couple of hours) and then play it by ear from there. Don't worry about a potentially awkward kiss on the first date either, at the end play it cool and tell her you like her (presuming you do, of course) and want to see her again. If she wants a kiss (or more) she will let you know, if one doesn't happen don't sweat it because if she really wants a second date then you're good to go.

 

[doodah]

Well it's working. Two messages in less than 24 hours........expect they are mass event invites; one in Stevenage, not sure where the other one is as I stopped reading after seeing "Mad Andy's karaoke".

LOL.

 

[ScarySquirrel]

Awww, that's my and my POF's anniversary date

Awesome!!! Will it be 1 year, or more?

 

[Voltar]

I tried it. Messaged many girls, had several replies in the first week. Lead to two dates which both went well, although they weren't as good looking as their pictures. Had a second date with one which went very well Not sure if I want to go out with her but will see what happens.

I think you've got to treat it like a job application. Tailor each message to each person. Don't make up stuff you like that they do (because you may well end up looking a prat on a date when they wish to discuss Swan Lake in depth with you...) . Be honest. Helps to think when reading your profile "why would I go out with me?". If you've written a bad one then no one will message back. Add a recent photo or two of you. Also it helps to think when you read a persons profile and you're about to get in touch "why?". Often it's because they've written their profile well. There is also no shame in plagiarising if you're struggling with your phrasing.
I'm going to add some new photos to mine and tweak a couple of things and see if I can't snag a few more dates after not doing so for a bit.

 

[gambitt]

gambit, congrats on finally qualifying as a bonafide internet stalker, and good to see I was proved wholly right in my assumptions about that fragile little ego of yours. I'm kinda flattered.

You posted most of your profile on here a few pages back anyway. I was so taken in by the sharp wit that I was compelled to share the rest.

I'm off to "stalk" some celebrities by reading their twitter posts.

 

[krooton]

Awesome!!! Will it be 1 year, or more?

4 year

 

[Richdog]

Indeed.

 

[Stolly]

You should probably sue her for false advertising. I'm very very suspicious of undated photos.

 

[krooton]

Ha, it's like she purposely cut off the end of the year

 

[Richdog]

Ha, it's like she purposely cut off the end of the year

Hah I didn't even notice the date stamp before now!

 

[doodah]

Started sending some messages out on PoF. Does PoF tend to have more 'slapped up/caked on' women than say OK? It's a treasure trove of women who might appear as an extra on a fly on the wall cop show set in town on a Friday night

 

[Charlotte1988]

I was messaging a guy the other week for about 5 days and then he suddenly stopped so I was a bit bummed. I was hoping he might just have not had internet connection for a few days, but alas I saw that he came online several times. BUT THEN he wrote to me again 2 days ago (after not being in contact for a week) and just continued on from the last message I'd sent. I was happy he'd written again, but also a bit annoyed because he must have been writing to other people in that week who he preferred to me otherwise he would have written back to me, don't you think?
Ahhh, I know I over think things! This online dating is making me paranoid! I guess I'll reply to him, but I just don't want to be someone's second choice!

 

[Richdog]

I was messaging a guy the other week for about 5 days and then he suddenly stopped so I was a bit bummed. I was hoping he might just have not had internet connection for a few days, but alas I saw that he came online several times. BUT THEN he wrote to me again 2 days ago (after not being in contact for a week) and just continued on from the last message I'd sent. I was happy he'd written again, but also a bit annoyed because he must have been writing to other people in that week who he preferred to me otherwise he would have written back to me, don't you think?
Ahhh, I know I over think things! This online dating is making me paranoid! I guess I'll reply to him, but I just don't want to be someone's second choice!

Yeah... if you know he's been online all week but still not replied to you then it's a pretty good sign that he using you as a safety net. Don't worry, there are plenty of other guys out there who will be more worthy of your attentions.

However if you really like him and are annoyed, then just outright ask him why it took him a week to reply when he's been online? He will undoubtedly be surprised by the question, but his answer should tell you a lot. Who knows, maybe there's a slim chance he had a valid reason.