Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

Richdog · 2 Jan 2013 at 09:29

NeoReloaded said:
To be fair Richdog is an absolute master in this department so he's right

Master of disaster more like.

bakes0310 said:
yep were just friends, just got the reply
Im not upset or bothered, i sorta knew. But good news were still friends so i can still have a laugh with her at work.

Eek... you work with her? Could be a bit awkward then.

Howard · 2 Jan 2013 at 09:34

Blimey, poor old Mark doesn't seem to take a hint does he?!

Online dating either happens or it doesn't, but many people just "want" something to work and so they believe in trying to make something of nothing when really they're just part of a big old marketplace.

Anyway, to put a happy spin on things, I've been with my gf whom I met online for almost a year now.

MisChief · 2 Jan 2013 at 11:36

Howard said:
Blimey, poor old Mark doesn't seem to take a hint does he?!

Maybe he's that desperate he thought he'd give it another go hoping I'd forget what a crazy person he is

Howard said:
Anyway, to put a happy spin on things, I've been with my gf whom I met online for almost a year now.

Congrats

I still have no plans to get back into online dating. It's just so much effort

Howard · 2 Jan 2013 at 11:44

Thanks

I totally know what you mean in regards to the effort. I was this close to giving up. She messaged me actually!

doodah · 2 Jan 2013 at 11:48

Stolen from the relationship thread but just joined Meet Up, seems good on paper. I will try a singles night at Tiger Tiger this Friday.

mrk · 2 Jan 2013 at 12:18

Howard said:
Thanks

I totally know what you mean in regards to the effort. I was this close to giving up. She messaged me actually!

That and having read this thread from time to time, realising the effort is most often wasted due to the amount of weird people on those sites has been the off putting thing as mentioned once already

That meetup groups site looks really good though^^

Stokesy · 2 Jan 2013 at 13:34

I met a girl from POF just before Christmas, thought it went pretty well.

A couple of days later I got a message from her saying that she was deleting her profile but that I was welcome to give her a call in the New Year. Only problem is she hadn't given me her phone number. I was inclined to believe that it was a genuine mistake, if she wasn't interested she could have just deleted the profile.

90 seconds mucking about with google was more than enough to find her Facebook page. Is it creepy to send her a message saying " Hi, couldn't text you as you didn't give me your number. If you want to meet up again send me a message. If you don't feel free to ignore me"?

Name · 2 Jan 2013 at 13:40

I told my best friend whilst drunk that i could kiss her and it would be fine.

We dont talk anymore.

Richdog · 2 Jan 2013 at 13:45

Stokesy said:
I met a girl from POF just before Christmas, thought it went pretty well.

A couple of days later I got a message from her saying that she was deleting her profile but that I was welcome to give her a call in the New Year. Only problem is she hadn't given me her phone number. I was inclined to believe that it was a genuine mistake, if she wasn't interested she could have just deleted the profile.

90 seconds mucking about with google was more than enough to find her Facebook page. Is it creepy to send her a message saying " Hi, couldn't text you as you didn't give me your number. If you want to meet up again send me a message. If you don't feel free to ignore me"?

Never write anything about her "feeling free to ignore you", it just screams of lack of confidence and insecurity. Why would you message her if you felt she was free to ignore you? There's no need for it.

Just write the part about her asking you to call her then you realising you didnt have her number so are contacting her through Facebook, and would love to meet up for a drink. Job done, and she then either goes for it or not..

Skillmister · 2 Jan 2013 at 13:51

name89 said:
I told my best friend whilst drunk that i could kiss her and it would be fine.

We dont talk anymore.

Knowthefeel.

Although we did actually kiss (so i'm told, i don't remember

) and we got over it after a while.

Stokesy · 2 Jan 2013 at 13:53

Richdog said:
Never write anything about her "feeling free to ignore you", it just screams of lack of confidence and insecurity. Why would you message her if you felt she was free to ignore you? There's no need for it.

Just write the part about her asking you to call her then you realising you didnt have her number so are contacting her through Facebook, and would love to meet up for a drink. Job done, and she then either goes for it or not..

I feel uncomfortable about contacting her through Facebook. I want to make it clear that I not going to harass her if she doesn't respond.

Skillmister · 2 Jan 2013 at 13:54

So just don't harass her if she doesn't respond? You don't need to make her second guess the fact you might be a creep.

Richdog · 2 Jan 2013 at 13:55

Stokesy said:
I feel uncomfortable about contacting her through Facebook. I want to make it clear that I not going to harass her if she doesn't respond.

Why would she even think you would harrass her? Why are you even bringing up the subject of harrassing her?

Seriously, I'm always amazed how much people are so often unecessarily their own worst enemies.

Gamefreak501 · 2 Jan 2013 at 14:12

On dating web sites, I message a girl once and if I get no reply, I leave her alone after that.

The girl I have been messaging hasn't got back to me yet and she had an issue with our distance from one another (Bedfordshire to London) so that might give her an excuse to not want to meet up!

But I'm out this Saturday seeing a friend DJ, so perhaps I should use that as an opportunity to actually approach some girls. It is the New Year and it's one of the things I need to sort out!

Cheers,

David

Name · 2 Jan 2013 at 14:15

Richdog knows all,

Please teach me, Master.

Richdog · 2 Jan 2013 at 14:19

name89 said:
Richdog knows all,

Please teach me, Master.

Trust me when I say I am great at sorting out other peoples problems, and absolutely **** at sorting out my own.

Stokesy · 2 Jan 2013 at 14:23

Richdog said:
Why would she even think you would harrass her? Why are you even bringing up the subject of harrassing her?

Seriously, I'm always amazed how much people are so often unecessarily their own worst enemies.

Fluttershy said:
So just don't harass her if she doesn't respond? You don't need to make her second guess the fact you might be a creep.

Point taken

mrk · 2 Jan 2013 at 14:26

"Hi, couldn't text you as you didn't give me your number."

This bit also makes it sound like it's her fault for not giving the number (even if it is!). you prob don't want to go that direction either

Skillmister · 2 Jan 2013 at 14:31

mrk said:
"Hi, couldn't text you as you didn't give me your number."

This bit also makes it sound like it's her fault for not giving the number (even if it is!). you prob don't want to go that direction either

You have to make her feel as guilty as possible :mad:

DiscoDave · 2 Jan 2013 at 14:33

Fluttershy said:
You have to make her feel as guilty as possible

Aye, not exactly smooth..