Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

unwashed potato! · 22 Jan 2013 at 00:11

close but no cigar. anything i'd say to change would just be silly things i don't personally like but can imagine plenty others will so not really an issue, however just to say them, i don't like the laid back easy going guy thing as i can't imagine someone who would say the opposite e.g. i'm a uptight hard work guy. it wouldn't happen so it kind of goes without saying, it's kind of like just saying, i'm a guy, which is obvious, so it sounds like you're trying to fancify yourself more then you really are.

as mentioned perhaps just being picky here,

i'd remove the very active person line and just start with, i like to be outdoors, either...

rickjames · 22 Jan 2013 at 00:43

Hanging out with a girl on Thursday over burgers and buffalo wings. Her profile seems pretty chill and she likes Taylor Swift which is great. Been texting back and forth since last week after exchanging messages on OKC. Note I very very rarely if ever give my number out before a first date. And she asked me about hanging out which was also nice.

Any hints? I don't want to make it an evening purely dedicated to discussing Taylor.

Shashman · 22 Jan 2013 at 00:58

@robz21:
No offence, but your profile is very dull and unimaginative.
Add some quirk. Women love quirkiness. They love humour.
As it stands, your profile reads more like a section of your CV, and not a piece of writing that's there to capture a woman's attention.

NEVER use "laid back and easy going". Avoid generics. If your profile is well written and truthful, then you shouldn't need to categorize yourself in any way like that. It'll be obvious.

Stay true to yourself. Write the same way you would speak to a girl you were genuinely interested in.

MisChief · 22 Jan 2013 at 01:00

rickjames said:
Hanging out with a girl on Thursday over burgers and buffalo wings. Her profile seems pretty chill and she likes Taylor Swift which is great. Been texting back and forth since last week after exchanging messages on OKC. Note I very very rarely if ever give my number out before a first date. And she asked me about hanging out which was also nice.

Any hints? I don't want to make it an evening purely dedicated to discussing Taylor.

Hints on what? Things to talk about?! Or do's and dont's on a first date? No pervy looks or wandering hand

rickjames · 22 Jan 2013 at 07:34

Yeah, things things like that! Thanks!

ChroniC · 22 Jan 2013 at 08:35

Fairly sure the answer is no said:
close but no cigar. anything i'd say to change would just be silly things i don't personally like but can imagine plenty others will so not really an issue, however just to say them, i don't like the laid back easy going guy thing as i can't imagine someone who would say the opposite e.g. i'm a uptight hard work guy. it wouldn't happen so it kind of goes without saying, it's kind of like just saying, i'm a guy, which is obvious, so it sounds like you're trying to fancify yourself more then you really are.

as mentioned perhaps just being picky here,

i'd remove the very active person line and just start with, i like to be outdoors, either...

I thought the same, untill my now Gf who I met on POF told me recently, she didnn't even read my profile and that it was all pictures and first message.

unwashed potato! · 22 Jan 2013 at 12:36

ChroniC said:
I thought the same, untill my now Gf who I met on POF told me recently, she didnn't even read my profile and that it was all pictures and first message.

too true. after seeing a photo i like there is very little in the about me section that'd put me off a girl, even if i know she's not exactly my type from what she puts i'm still going to message her as the about me is very hard to tell, i know girls who'll put things like drinking in town as an interest, now this turns me off big time, however one girl in particular that i'm friends with that'd say this, only says it because she thinks she has to to fit in, when in reality she goes twice a year and only has 2 drinks, which is more my kind of girl.

rickjames said:
Any hints? I don't want to make it an evening purely dedicated to discussing Taylor.

if she's a good match for you, she'll find you cute even if you're shy and the conversation is only about a female singer that guys wouldn't generally admit to liking as much as you seem to.

Begbie · 22 Jan 2013 at 12:43

Richdog said:
Well, went out with her again today to an art gallery (I thought I wouldn't enjoy it but actually it was alright) and we had a great time... we get along well and our humour is really similar. However, once again I lost my cool when we said goodbye, and came out with some awkward rubbish. Still not 100% sure if she likes me (though were I watching objectively over my own shoulder I'd say the signs were there) and I haven't even mentioned it yet.

This is apparently what happens when I really like a girl (she is literally wife material), which hasn't happened on this scale in my living memory. It's like she slows my brain down to the point where I lose sync with my mouth, I'm just not used to it, and normally girls like me more than I like them, so I feel more in control. I need to man up and sort this out asap!

It's never too early to tell her you love her.

Sometimes I tell them I love them early on on a first date just to get things off to a good start.

Kimi · 22 Jan 2013 at 14:23

So we didn't get to go sledging yesterday as we both got stuck at work, meeting up tomorrow night now, anyone got any cool ideas of where to go/do around Berkshire area?

Dem2k · 22 Jan 2013 at 14:24

Begbie said:
It's never too early to tell her you love her.

Sometimes I tell them I love them early on on a first date just to get things off to a good start.

Not sure if serious :eek:

Street · 22 Jan 2013 at 14:33

Fairly sure the answer is no said:
i know girls who'll put things like drinking in town as an interest

That seems to be most girls favourite interest near me, along with "getting drunk" unfortunately. I must be getting old!

NeoReloaded · 22 Jan 2013 at 17:28

rickjames said:
Hanging out with a girl on Thursday over burgers and buffalo wings. Her profile seems pretty chill and she likes Taylor Swift which is great. Been texting back and forth since last week after exchanging messages on OKC. Note I very very rarely if ever give my number out before a first date. And she asked me about hanging out which was also nice.

Any hints? I don't want to make it an evening purely dedicated to discussing Taylor.

Ask her at the end of the date if she would like to come back to yours for some "coffee". If she says no bin her off she's not worth the effort mate!

Seriously though just go with the flow and try not to lead a conversation down a dead end that could result in awkward silence. Talk about work, life style, recent weather(snow), family etc...

sbi5ar · 22 Jan 2013 at 22:47

Great response from everyone RE: who pays! But I think Richdog sums up how I feel.

Richdog said:
A girl who is expecting me to pay for everything on a first date turns me off quicker than picturing my Gran. If a girl offers to pay half during a date I take it as a very good sign of manners and good character... as then I get the choice whether I want to pay. If I'm not overly keen, I will suggest we split the bill (why would you pay for the meal of a near-stranger you're not interested in?), and if I really like her I will offer to pay all, and then be secretly even happier if she insists she pays her half. I like an independent woman.

Pawnless Endgame · 23 Jan 2013 at 03:54

kitkat9933 said:
The problem is the ratio of Girls:Boys is about 10:1 online. So you have to go out of the way to be noticed.

I didn't know that there are girls on the internet anyway. I tried the dating game back in 2005, and some 'girl' attempted the travel and VISA scam on me. Put me off dating sites forever.

Jambo · 23 Jan 2013 at 04:06

Dem2k said:
Not sure if serious

Not sure if 'not sure if serious' is serious.

Name · 23 Jan 2013 at 08:48

Since my pc is well and truely broken. I may as well occupy with something else other than video games.

All the girls in video games flock to mefor my humongous KDR. Im sure i can impress them with something on POF.

rickjames · 23 Jan 2013 at 09:42

Cheers for the few hints so far LADS.

Also I've noticed a trend, either everyone on OKC is normal or weird, with apparent trends such as

"I like to travel, I'm sarcastic and kind of a nerd. I also like sushi and coffee"

"I'm really bad at these self summary things"

"I have an eclectic taste in music"

"I only made this because my friend made one too."

"Now here is 4 pictures of me in exotic locations, because they are totally representative of me the other 51 weeks a year"

You should message me if:
you want to

On a typical Friday night I am
out with my girls or watching a movie in sweats

"I'm a bit of a cat lady" -- owns 1 cat

"I love tattoos! I have 4 of them now and thinking of what I want in the future. Brownie points if you have a beard and/or tattoos!"

Six things I can't live without:
1. Family
2. Friends
3. Food
4. Cellphone
5. Computer
6. Music

"Don't message me if you don't know the difference between there/they're/their and your/you're."

"You are curious, enjoy a challenge, are interested in intellectualism and embracing other cultures. If you have a picture showing off your abs and car I will not ignore you"

"I'm shy at first but once you get to know me I'm super loud!"

alexthecheese · 23 Jan 2013 at 09:44

Begbie said:
It's never too early to tell her you love her.

Sometimes I tell them I love them early on on a first date just to get things off to a good start.

Dem2k said:
Not sure if serious

Jambo said:
Not sure if 'not sure if serious' is serious.

Err, yes - that is a serious 'not sure if serious'.

You must be joking? You tell them you love them right up front? Even if it's in a joking way, that is weird. :confused:

Kimi · 23 Jan 2013 at 09:49

Seriously?

unwashed potato! · 23 Jan 2013 at 10:56

fairly sure the answer is no