Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

[Richdog]

Well, it sounds like she got lucky then

If I'm moving on this easily and been walking around the whole day as if a weight have been lifted off my shoulders, it wasn't right in the first place. What have I really lost here? Someone who demands for me to change whilst doing nothing in HER turn to keep ME around. I could say 'typical women behaviour' but it'll set off the alarms around here and I can't be bothered debating uninteresting pointless issues.

She's unhappy with her life and was hoping I could change it for her. That was her words. Not once, but countless times. If all you hear is how boring this relationship is and how you're doing nothing to make it better for her, would YOU stick around?

Obviously I can't place all the blame infront of her door. I could've been more understanding and talked this thing to death more than we already had, but it always seemed to be about HER. Her unhappiness, her lack of an interesting and fulfilling life. If I'm honest, I was already over her and this relationship for at least a couple of months before last night. No wonder I'm itching to jump back in the game.

Lastly, at one point last night I asked her if there's ANYTHING good about me at all. Anything she appreciates. She just shook her head. If you asked me, she wanted this thing dead. She just waited for me to pull the trigger.

And I should've stuck around for that?

Good on you for making a decision that's leads to a happier you, she sounds like a bit of a nightmare and a very negative person to be around. If someone puts you down like that then there's no reason you should put up with it.

 

[theboyrob]

id wear one extra layer, just in case shes cold and you can do the gentlemanly thing!

I just updated the profile txt on my err profile... any better?
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=2939793

Good call

First date with girl number one was on friday, had a lovely time apart from needing to change meeting place because of the weather. Ended up in a nice pub near her, arrived at 7, left when we got kicked out at at 12:30! Met her again today for a walk round the park this aft, she's lovely We both have busy weeks ahead so the next date will be next sunday night for something to eat.

Was due to meet girl 2 sat night but weather called that off so we have rearranged for this coming friday, weather all being well!

 

[Xire]

Changed my display pic and ive now had like 4 dates, all 4 of them equally looney.

 

[sbi5ar]

Just out of curiosity...

When you guys go on these dates, do you pay for just a drink? a few rounds? a meal? or the entire thing?

Or, do you split everything with the lady?

 

[MisChief]

Just out of curiosity...

When you guys go on these dates, do you pay for just a drink? a few rounds? a meal? or the entire thing?

Or, do you split everything with the lady?

All guys are different..

Some feel it's a 'manly' thing to do. Most guys I've been on dates with insist on paying, except for the ones who earn much less than me. I always pay my own way though, or at least try to because I don't want to feel like I owe anyone anything. I've had many guys say "Let me pay this time and you can pay next time?" - I hate it when they say that because what if there is no next time

 

[unwashed potato!]

i like to pay, though i've only ever dated girls with much less money such as students. i also buy the condoms as i don't expect them to pay half for that either even though we both benefit. i do try to wait for the girl to rustle for her purse though before i offer.

thinking about it, have you ever been spooned by a girl, or if you're a girl have you ever spooned the guy (you're on the outside)? feels unnatural and that's what it feels like when a girl pays

 

[Kerplunk]

. i do try to wait for the girl to rustle for her purse though before i offer.

Wait a minute longer and you get your meal paid for

 

[MisChief]

^ spooning....! How random

I've paid a few times before. Some guys purposely take ages to get their wallets out or say "oh I don't have cash, need to go to the cash point"... I always get my purse out ready and always make sure I have cash or pay by credit card.

Either I'm dating the wrong guys or I'm too independent for my own good.

 

[kitkat9933]

^ spooning....! How random

I've paid a few times before. Some guys purposely take ages to get their wallets out or say "oh I don't have cash, need to go to the cash point"... I always get my purse out ready and always make sure I have cash or pay by credit card.

Either I'm dating the wrong guys or I'm too independent for my own good.

Dating the wrong guys. Guys should always pay during the first few initial encounters. It is part of the unwritten rules of courtship.

 

[Jambo]

Dating the wrong guys. Guys should always pay during the first few initial encounters. It is part of the unwritten rules of courtship.

I don't mind paying on the first date but I think really it should be 50/50. I've only dated one girl who expected me to pay for everything over four dates. All others have insisted 50/50.

 

[Voltar]

I find it rude when a girl gets her purse our at the end of dinner as it comes across as though she's desperate to leave or in a hurry. Also if I ask someone out then I expect to pay, alternating or going halves after that's what I prefer

 

[MisChief]

I find it rude when a girl gets her purse our at the end of dinner as it comes across as though she's desperate to leave or in a hurry. Also if I ask someone out then I expect to pay, alternating or going halves after that's what I prefer

If the bill is asked for, then you get out your wallet/purse. Obviously I'm not going to get my purse out when the bill hasn't even been asked for. Perhaps you're thinking too much about it being rude? Whether or not I'm leaving to go home or leaving to go to another place to continue the date, I would still get my purse out. No relevance to being desperate to leave or in a hurry. I just hate it when people faff around that's all.

 

[elmarko]

Well, it sounds like she got lucky then

If I'm moving on this easily and been walking around the whole day as if a weight have been lifted off my shoulders, it wasn't right in the first place. What have I really lost here? Someone who demands for me to change whilst doing nothing in HER turn to keep ME around. I could say 'typical women behaviour' but it'll set off the alarms around here and I can't be bothered debating uninteresting pointless issues.

She's unhappy with her life and was hoping I could change it for her. That was her words. Not once, but countless times. If all you hear is how boring this relationship is and how you're doing nothing to make it better for her, would YOU stick around?

Obviously I can't place all the blame infront of her door. I could've been more understanding and talked this thing to death more than we already had, but it always seemed to be about HER. Her unhappiness, her lack of an interesting and fulfilling life. If I'm honest, I was already over her and this relationship for at least a couple of months before last night. No wonder I'm itching to jump back in the game.

Lastly, at one point last night I asked her if there's ANYTHING good about me at all. Anything she appreciates. She just shook her head. If you asked me, she wanted this thing dead. She just waited for me to pull the trigger.

And I should've stuck around for that?

You sound better off single.

It's not your responsibility to make someone else happy (Which she seems to want).

It sounds cliché, but it's a case of - if only I found X partner, or Y job, or B situation - when in reality the problem is deep set personality flaws.

Better to be single than anothers blaming board.

 

[Theophany]

If the bill is asked for, then you get out your wallet/purse. Obviously I'm not going to get my purse out when the bill hasn't even been asked for. Perhaps you're thinking too much about it being rude? Whether or not I'm leaving to go home or leaving to go to another place to continue the date, I would still get my purse out. No relevance to being desperate to leave or in a hurry. I just hate it when people faff around that's all.

Plus you're really rude.

 

[MisChief]

Plus you're really rude.

Only cos I dissed your 'brows

 

[Kimi]

Might be going sledging this afternoon with the girl i went dancing with last week. Only problem is we are both super competitive and it could get ugly

 

[Bluebook]

Back in the day I used Messenger, got talking to a Girl in America from Florida, met up after a year for a Holiday, then she came over and we got married and had a Daughter. Worked for 10 years but now is over!

 

[Richdog]

Just out of curiosity...

When you guys go on these dates, do you pay for just a drink? a few rounds? a meal? or the entire thing?

Or, do you split everything with the lady?

A girl who is expecting me to pay for everything on a first date turns me off quicker than picturing my Gran. If a girl offers to pay half during a date I take it as a very good sign of manners and good character... as then I get the choice whether I want to pay. If I'm not overly keen, I will suggest we split the bill (why would you pay for the meal of a near-stranger you're not interested in?), and if I really like her I will offer to pay all, and then be secretly even happier if she insists she pays her half. I like an independent woman.

 

[Skillmister]

Guys should always pay during the first few initial encounters. It is part of the unwritten rules of courtship.

No wonder there are those women that just bounce around dating sites for free dinners.

 

[Rexxar]

So "Fairly sure the answer is no" , i tweaked it a little, how does it read now?

I’m a laid back and easy going guy, working as a manager in the Logistics industry.

I wear my heart on my sleeve and have been told I have a great sense of humour. I love having fun and enjoy socialising with my friends.

I’m passionate about Photography and Motorsport, and I enjoy spending time on the track as well as spectating. I am a very active person and like to be outdoors, either on the bike trying some downhill tracks or climbing occasionally. I much prefer to be doing something as opposed to sitting in front of the TV, don’t mind the odd lazy evening relaxing after work though.

I also love spending time in the city, seeing the sights and taking in the atmosphere, or being by the sea, embracing the wind and spray to finish the day in a nice bar to warm up and have a few drinks.