Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!
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It is pretty hard to get used to, especially if you're naturally shy like me... but I think I'm starting to get used to it after a couple of days. I'm starting to treat it a bit like looking for a job, making sure that I come across well and seem confident and enthusiastic (although not too much)... and not getting offended if I don't get anywhere. I think maybe that's the key.
I don't know what I'm doing lately but whatever it is, its working...
Back in June I fixed a 44 year olds car and she fancied me so we ended up going out for 3 months.
Then a mate of mine left his 30 year old GF and moved away up north, his ex then showed an interest in me after he left and we spent up until New Year together..
So I get over that one as well and I'm feeling like "**** this **** I'm just going to forget women for a bit, get out there and socialise..
Well blow me down with a feather I have a 40 year old after me now.
No kids, (doesn't want any either) loves travelling, pretty good looker. Great job, well spoken, dresses nice, hangs out with the right crowd, after all that's how I met her, at one of the charity "supperclub" meetings I go to..
I was acting all like "yea we're just friends and she's only asked me out to her work mates birthday party just so she doesn't feel too left out" cue getting face snogged off...
OH
OK then.
WINNING.
Back in June I fixed a 44 year olds car and she fancied me so we ended up going out for 3 months.
Then a mate of mine left his 30 year old GF and moved away up north, his ex then showed an interest in me after he left and we spent up until New Year together..
So I get over that one as well and I'm feeling like "**** this **** I'm just going to forget women for a bit, get out there and socialise..
Well blow me down with a feather I have a 40 year old after me now.
No kids, (doesn't want any either) loves travelling, pretty good looker. Great job, well spoken, dresses nice, hangs out with the right crowd, after all that's how I met her, at one of the charity "supperclub" meetings I go to..
I was acting all like "yea we're just friends and she's only asked me out to her work mates birthday party just so she doesn't feel too left out" cue getting face snogged off...
OH
OK then. WINNING.
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I don't know what I'm doing lately but whatever it is, its working...
Back in June I fixed a 44 year olds car and she fancied me so we ended up going out for 3 months.
Then a mate of mine left his 30 year old GF and moved away up north, his ex then showed an interest in me after he left and we spent up until New Year together..
So I get over that one as well and I'm feeling like "**** this **** I'm just going to forget women for a bit, get out there and socialise..
Well blow me down with a feather I have a 40 year old after me now.
No kids, (doesn't want any either) loves travelling, pretty good looker. Great job, well spoken, dresses nice, hangs out with the right crowd, after all that's how I met her, at one of the charity "supperclub" meetings I go to..
I was acting all like "yea we're just friends and she's only asked me out to her work mates birthday party just so she doesn't feel too left out" cue getting face snogged off...
OH
WINNING.
I agree. Something is up this year. Don't know if it's still the New Year's resolution women kicking around and making them proactive, but I've never seen so many women so active on Match at least. I never mention it here lest it's seen as bragging but I'm knocking some back now and they're not exactly ugly either. I just don't have time dating and seeing this many women. Settled on three different applicants for the role of Regulus' Girlfriend 2013. The rest I had to cut loose.
Funny since the last time I was on, or the time before that, it was a barren wasteland and I couldn't pull for toffee. Or at least had to put in a shift to get their attention. Probably be the same again soon as they all get hooked up or lose interest, but for the moment it's a feast, and I've eaten as much as I can
I don't know what I'm doing lately but whatever it is, its working...
Back in June I fixed a 44 year olds car and she fancied me so we ended up going out for 3 months.
Then a mate of mine left his 30 year old GF and moved away up north, his ex then showed an interest in me after he left and we spent up until New Year together..
So I get over that one as well and I'm feeling like "**** this **** I'm just going to forget women for a bit, get out there and socialise..
Well blow me down with a feather I have a 40 year old after me now.
No kids, (doesn't want any either) loves travelling, pretty good looker. Great job, well spoken, dresses nice, hangs out with the right crowd, after all that's how I met her, at one of the charity "supperclub" meetings I go to..
I was acting all like "yea we're just friends and she's only asked me out to her work mates birthday party just so she doesn't feel too left out" cue getting face snogged off...
OH
WINNING.
Just out of interest, how old are you?
I agree. Something is up this year. Don't know if it's still the New Year's resolution women kicking around and making them proactive, but I've never seen so many women so active on Match at least. I never mention it here lest it's seen as bragging but I'm knocking some back now and they're not exactly ugly either. I just don't have time dating and seeing this many women. Settled on three different applicants for the role of Regulus' Girlfriend 2013. The rest I had to cut loose.
Funny since the last time I was on, or the time before that, it was a barren wasteland and I couldn't pull for toffee. Or at least had to put in a shift to get their attention. Probably be the same again soon as they all get hooked up or lose interest, but for the moment it's a feast, and I've eaten as much as I can
quite the opposite in my case ;D its either i got ugly or my reply rate scares them off.. it used to be 80-90% now it sits at 30% because i dont reply.. but it still isn't as bad as some of the girls with 300+ messages received and 2% reply rate lol
39 until November.
Woman on POF started messaging me the other day and we've since exchanged numbers. Now were talking about going out on a date.
On her profile shes said for a first date she wants to do something "fun"
Ideas so far are:
Ice skating
Bowling
Did think of a theme park but not really the ideal time of the year. any suggestions folks?
On her profile shes said for a first date she wants to do something "fun"
Ideas so far are:
Ice skating
Bowling
Did think of a theme park but not really the ideal time of the year. any suggestions folks?
Sent out a couple of messages, no replies yet 
I have got a message from a random, but she's not really doing anything for me. I know I should just reply and try to have a conversation, go on a date etc., but I really can't get enthusiastic about it.
I have got a message from a random, but she's not really doing anything for me. I know I should just reply and try to have a conversation, go on a date etc., but I really can't get enthusiastic about it.
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You're gonna need to send out more than a couple of messages boyo
Disregard the above if you are a 10/10
Disregard the above if you are a 10/10
Someone has asked to talk on the phone already but I don't want to talk on the phone
Kinda feeling like I cba with online dating again.... So much effort
Damn it, I knew I shouldn't have gone with the 'let's talk on the phone' approach
Seriously though, I'm not sure why someone would see the benefit of this - it's much nicer talking to someone in person I find.
Someone has asked to talk on the phone already but I don't want to talk on the phone
Kinda feeling like I cba with online dating again.... So much effort
Just do what I do and dont bother.
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Someone has asked to talk on the phone already but I don't want to talk on the phone
Kinda feeling like I cba with online dating again.... So much effort
i don't like this idea either, and i'm willing to bet neither does he, however he probably feels like he has to ask it to appear confident etc. reply saying i'd rather meet you then talk on the phone, when you next free
or if you don't want to meet yet be confident yourself and tell the truth, which is you don't want to talk on the phone yet as you find it difficult before meeting up, but thanks for asking. ask again in a few weeks maybe
etcSomeone has asked to talk on the phone already but I don't want to talk on the phone
Kinda feeling like I cba with online dating again.... So much effort
haha.. i hate talking on the phone.. its either texts or face to face..
but yeah same here i cant be bothered.. i cant even reply to messages and i know i need to but i just can't be bothered..
Just do what I do and dont bother.
It just seems like so much effort. Both the dating thing *and* the trying to keep someone else happy in a relationship.
I definitely have to at least give some form of dating a chance next year though, maybe I should try to get out of this routine; I'm far too used to being single now and am not sure if it's a good thing or not. I just don't like the idea of someone being dependent on me so I suppose unless the other person is fiercely independent, I'm foreveralone.jpg.
I'm going to treat myself to a few really expensive things this year while I have no real worries (and no-one to justify the cost of things to!). Then I'll see how it goes...
Good luck, Mischief, try to avoid the text-every-5-minutes-stalker types though as you seem to attract them, LOL!
^ thanks
Maybe these guys are normal... But I'm just not used to the clingyness...!? Like you, I'm so used to being single now that any bit of clingyness just freaks me out.
There are a few guys who messaged me and that I've ignored.. But they keep viewing my profile... Weirdos
Maybe these guys are normal... But I'm just not used to the clingyness...!? Like you, I'm so used to being single now that any bit of clingyness just freaks me out.
There are a few guys who messaged me and that I've ignored.. But they keep viewing my profile... Weirdos
It just seems like so much effort. Both the dating thing *and* the trying to keep someone else happy in a relationship.
I definitely have to at least give some form of dating a chance next year though, maybe I should try to get out of this routine; I'm far too used to being single now and am not sure if it's a good thing or not. I just don't like the idea of someone being dependent on me so I suppose unless the other person is fiercely independent, I'm foreveralone.jpg.
Up to you to find someone that's not clingy. Get yourself an educated woman with a great job. They're usually quite independent and don't bother you every hour with a text or stupid question. Or if you're comfortable being alone and it has 'become you', more power to you my friend!
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