Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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I've been on POF for a while now, talked to a few interesting women, met one after a few weeks of chatting, went on a few dates, everything was going well then..........she stopped talking to me completely. Weird thing was she was telling me how much she liked spending time with me and getting to know me. She even suggested meeting up the first, second and third times.

Meh.
 
DiscoDave said:
I've been on POF for a while now, talked to a few interesting women, met one after a few weeks of chatting, went on a few dates, everything was going well then..........she stopped talking to me completely. Weird thing was she was telling me how much she liked spending time with me and getting to know me. She even suggested meeting up the first, second and third times.

Meh.
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perhaps she was involved in a horrific car crash.
 
A lot of people have the impression these internet dating sites are full of rejects or people who can't pick up partners the old fashioned way. Is there any truth in this statement?
I don't agree with that by the way, in fact surely they facilitate the process nicely when you simply don't have the time to be going around looking for a partner.
 
Rosbif said:
Nothing special. That should lead to some firm leads if I'm knocking out 100 a week.

I reckon the best thing to do is to limit my convo's to 30 minutes, push for phone contact, another 30 minutes and then push for the meet. If its not on by then simply move on to the next lead, otherwise I can see it being a massive drain on my time.
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You sound like a double glazing salesman!!
 
scott212 said:
A lot of people have the impression these internet dating sites are full of rejects or people who can't pick up partners the old fashioned way. Is there any truth in this statement?
I don't agree with that by the way, in fact surely they facilitate the process nicely when you simply don't have the time to be going around looking for a partner.
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As with everything there's a scale, you've got your tabloid dating sites and your broadsheet dating sites, so to speak.

From what I've seen POF is very very much the tabloid end. Perhaps even the sunday sport. As in, lowest common denominator. Sure there may be some decent sorts on there, but the size of the sieve you'd need... bleh

There's the mainstream ones like match.com who have huge advertising budgets and attract mainstream people, so if you want an average mainstream person, go there :)

There's little community sites too like okcupid.com who tend to have different sorts of people on them and a lot of activity besides plain dating-focussed stuff.

Not that I've invested a lot of energy into this, or anything...

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theonebillygunn said:
You sound like a double glazing salesman!!
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LOL billy! Thanks ... not !! :D

Being deadly serious though .. I mean just take the example of DiscoDave who spent WEEKS talking to a girl and then she just disappeared! Sadly for the DiscoDave but it looks like all those hours he just put in were a complete waste of time since she has cleared off.

I just don't want that happening to me.

Ultimately I want to 'wrap things up' within about 4 hours.

Also just a little update I've realised I'm going to have to generate a spreadsheet to keep a track of all the emails I've sent out and to who. Don't want to be sending out emails to the same women twice. :D

I have to admit the approach I'm going to take is a bit .. erm .. 'Business like' and does not exactly conform to your Disney style of romance but that is just down to the nature of myself which is being results driven.

Cheers
 
Rosbif said:
I have to admit the approach I'm going to take is a bit .. erm .. 'Business like' and does not exactly conform to your Disney style of romance but that is just down to the nature of myself which is being results driven.
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Haha! Took me about five minutes to stop chuckling at that.

I've picked out a few that caught my eye and fired off some messages. It's weird sending messages to a total stranger on a website. :/
 
Rosbif said:
Ultimately I want to 'wrap things up' within about 4 hours.

Also just a little update I've realised I'm going to have to generate a spreadsheet to keep a track of all the emails I've sent out and to who. Don't want to be sending out emails to the same women twice. :D

I have to admit the approach I'm going to take is a bit .. erm .. 'Business like' and does not exactly conform to your Disney style of romance but that is just down to the nature of myself which is being results driven.

Cheers
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Yeah... er... good luck with that. *stifles a belly laugh*
 
Richdog said:
Yeah... er... good luck with that. *stifles a belly laugh*
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Hey Rich dont knock it until you've tried it. I say that because you obviously havent tried it. Otherwise your post would have been useful and factual instead of just sarcastic :D I havent got a clue what approach you're taking but you'd better make sure its a good one if you're gonna laugh my proposals down. :D
 
Rosbif said:
LOL billy! Thanks ... not !! :D

Being deadly serious though .. I mean just take the example of DiscoDave who spent WEEKS talking to a girl and then she just disappeared! Sadly for the DiscoDave but it looks like all those hours he just put in were a complete waste of time since she has cleared off.

I just don't want that happening to me.

Ultimately I want to 'wrap things up' within about 4 hours.

Also just a little update I've realised I'm going to have to generate a spreadsheet to keep a track of all the emails I've sent out and to who. Don't want to be sending out emails to the same women twice. :D

I have to admit the approach I'm going to take is a bit .. erm .. 'Business like' and does not exactly conform to your Disney style of romance but that is just down to the nature of myself which is being results driven.

Cheers
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Hmmm, the excel document could be a good idea ;)
 
Rosbif said:
Hey Rich dont knock it until you've tried it. I say that because you obviously havent tried it. Otherwise your post would have been useful and factual instead of just sarcastic :D I havent got a clue what approach you're taking but you'd better make sure its a good one if you're gonna laugh my proposals down. :D
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The only approach I need(ed) is a witty profile and a nice pic... your posts were quite frankly hilarious. I wish you luck and everything... but surely you can see the ridiculous element to them, whether it will yield good results or not. Good luck though, and report back. :D
 
Rosbif said:
Cool site! Just had a look and there seems to be a good amount of totage within 10 to 15 miles, which is all I'm prepared to travel to be honest.

Think the best approach to this is gonna be to put the numbers in. I reckon if I check for totty every evening, sorted by last online and by distance that I could knock out 100 emails a week. A simple 'Your profile seems interesting, message me back to chat' or something of that nature. Nothing special. That should lead to some firm leads if I'm knocking out 100 a week.

I reckon the best thing to do is to limit my convo's to 30 minutes, push for phone contact, another 30 minutes and then push for the meet. If its not on by then simply move on to the next lead, otherwise I can see it being a massive drain on my time. Definitely dont want to be spending any money or too much time at a real face to face either. Again, 45 mins tops I think. I reckon I could fit a few of those in a week after work.

Dunno what to put in the profile at the moment. I'll probably keep that short as well. Just havent got the time to be thinking about elaborate profiles and messages.

Having some good photos seems like a good idea though.

Also notice from reading the thread about munters messaging you. I think that can be stopped by just saying in your profile to dont bother messaging me, I'll message you. If they've got anything about them they'll message you anyway. I don't expect any initiations to be honest.

Anyway, I dunno why some people are knocking the idea of internet dating. To be honest I see it as being very efficient on a number of levels. Time being the #1 factor for me. The other major benefit I see is that its 1 on 1, and therefore you're not competing for their attention as you would be in a group of friends or at a club/bar. (well, once contact has been established I mean)

Think I'll trawl the 18 to 30 age range and see what happens. Who knows I could end up with a few girls in rotation? Better go build myself a harem !

Cheers
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Mate, you will need to put more effort in on the message front if you want any replies from the 'better' birds. Unless you are a stunner (post your profile and we will gay you up) they will just bin your messages thinking that you are a lame attempt. ;)
 
Oh what! Messaged some chick earlier, picture was pretty damn hot. Basically her lying on the beach in a bikini. She replied and now that pic has disappeared and been replaced with a load of others! Which are all, hmm, how shall I put it? Of a slightly lower quality?
 
ooooo chatting to a Girl.. well Lady (at our age lol)... at the mo on POF... She seems Looorverly!... we're looking to arrange a meetup...

Should I realy be this nervouse at 35 years old!?!...
 
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