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Wait, whats going on now?
Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!
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Shall I chat with one person at a time on PoF? Just because I'm talking to several guys at once it doesn't mean I'm going to date all of them at once and lead them all on. These guys are doing the exact same thing on PoF.
Perhaps you should look through this entire thread and see what comments have been made about women.
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IT'S RAININ' SIDEWAYS
I don't know you, and I'm not offended by the above - at some stage it's been true of everyone, even if it's only for a moment.
What I would say is, if this is truely your perception of the men you've been close to in the past, then you should perhaps look at what attracts you to men like this and see if you can change that, or try something a little different. Arrange a date with someone you've previously written off, who doesn't fall within your usual selection criteria, and men may surprise you.
Nick, you did the right thing. You did the one thing that most lads don't and that was be honest, up front and clear. This is how I am 100% of the time and I get a lot of respect for it. I was banned from driving for 9 months as an extended fallout from my previous relationship and other personal issues but trying to date during this period. I was completely transparent about it and I was really taken back by how much being honest helped, not one person was put off by it.
It's a shame that was her reaction but when you meet someone for the first few dates it's easy to be overwhelmed and see the grass is very green. Her reaction says a lot about her not yourself. You clearly want something meaningful and don't want just just fumble around with someone, but after 3 months you can date and get to know people. Maybe keep people a little more at arms length, keep transparent about your feelings but don't shelve them and push them away. The right girl will understand... plus by the time you're over the initial dating a month or two has already passed.
I wouldn't dwell on it anyway, your heart is in the right place. That's all that matters!
It's a shame that was her reaction but when you meet someone for the first few dates it's easy to be overwhelmed and see the grass is very green. Her reaction says a lot about her not yourself. You clearly want something meaningful and don't want just just fumble around with someone, but after 3 months you can date and get to know people. Maybe keep people a little more at arms length, keep transparent about your feelings but don't shelve them and push them away. The right girl will understand... plus by the time you're over the initial dating a month or two has already passed.
I wouldn't dwell on it anyway, your heart is in the right place. That's all that matters!
Not saying by any means that you should only chat with one person at a time. You go to town on them. Just the two things you said were a little bit contradictory is all.
Most of the things they've said about women is true any way
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Thanks dude, appreciate the advice.
Got a message of a woman, bit too big for my liking and i just don't get anything from her pics. Then the next day she messaged me on another dating site, then she added me to favourites and finally clicked i want to meet this person.
Oh and finally a message " Why haven't you replied to my message? "
Oh and finally a message " Why haven't you replied to my message? "
Got a message of a woman, bit too big for my liking and i just don't get anything from her pics. Then the next day she messaged me on another dating site, then she added me to favourites and finally clicked i want to meet this person.
Oh and finally a message " Why haven't you replied to my message? "
Well... why haven't you... you fiend! You fiendish fiend!
Right my turn to post a bit of a relationship post. I'm 20 and been in and out of relationships since I was 15. I have had 3 relationships over 1 year which I do kinda class as being a proper long term relationship but nothing has never really lasted, broke up with my last girlfriend about two months ago, we were together 14 months.. I was at university (nottingham) and she had stayed at home. We stayed together whilst I was at university and it did kinda work but I came back for 4 weeks at easter and realised it just wasn't working. I was blinded a bit by this absolute hotty and was still in the 'honeymoon' phase when I went off to university which I guess didn't allot everything to settle. (man it feels good to get this off my chest). Obviously breaking up is never fun but its kinda done and dusted now and all in the past, we both made mistakes but it just wasn't working for both of us; and although she doesn't see it at the moment she will be happier without me.
I'm not after advice as I get over relationships in my own way by meeting new people and just getting out and about more than I would do. I would consider myself a relationship person, I prefer the company of having someone there to share everything with, don't get me wrong I enjoy being single but not for long periods of time.
I go back to university in September and plan to have a fresh start and meet someone who I can have a proper relationship with, I have done the fun and being single bit the past few months and plan to do so until September really. I wouldn't really say I go on the prow for relationships if something crops up then I go with it but I like to be a bit picky as well.
I don't really know where all this is going just good to get it off my chest a bit and talk about it in similar positions. As for the time being I'm meeting new people, and currently talking quite a bit with a girl from my uni but she lives in Liverpool and I'm in Essex so definitely won't see her until I'm back at uni which sucks as I have ended up speaking to her pretty much every other night but there we go!
Anywho feels good to say that, expect to see me on PoF if I'm still single in like 5 years time
I'm not after advice as I get over relationships in my own way by meeting new people and just getting out and about more than I would do. I would consider myself a relationship person, I prefer the company of having someone there to share everything with, don't get me wrong I enjoy being single but not for long periods of time.
I go back to university in September and plan to have a fresh start and meet someone who I can have a proper relationship with, I have done the fun and being single bit the past few months and plan to do so until September really. I wouldn't really say I go on the prow for relationships if something crops up then I go with it but I like to be a bit picky as well.
I don't really know where all this is going just good to get it off my chest a bit and talk about it in similar positions. As for the time being I'm meeting new people, and currently talking quite a bit with a girl from my uni but she lives in Liverpool and I'm in Essex so definitely won't see her until I'm back at uni which sucks as I have ended up speaking to her pretty much every other night but there we go!
Anywho feels good to say that, expect to see me on PoF if I'm still single in like 5 years time
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Well I decided to sign up for Plenty of Fish again after a bit of a dry spell (and losing some weight 
). Got my profile together with a decent (I think) picture, but I'm having the same trouble as before, I never know what to put in opening messages to girls who seem interesting, how long should the message be 
Any pointers from experience?
). Got my profile together with a decent (I think) picture, but I'm having the same trouble as before, I never know what to put in opening messages to girls who seem interesting, how long should the message be Any pointers from experience?
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Well... why haven't you... you fiend! You fiendish fiend!
It's cause she wants me body, innit!
Well I decided to sign up for Plenty of Fish again after a bit of a dry spell (and losing some weight
Any pointers from experience?
Just start typing as you think it, let it flow, allow yourself to type as much **** as your brain wants produce on the subject you are thinking about and then go back and edit it into something readable afterwards.
Even leave it unsent for a while and think upon whether you can re word anything...
Once it looks right, send it and prepare for "unread deleted" then POFrage for a while, cry a little inside whilst thinking you'll be #foreveralone
lol!
I'm saving myself the hassle by not bothering with women for an undetermined period of time.
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Had a REALLY good lunch date today with a girl at work (who is leaving in 2 weeks).
We talked about past relationships, asked me if i am looking, and asked me if my parents mind about certain race of gf i date (she is indian), so we went through white, black and then she said "what about indian?"
at which point i couldn't help but said "Why? you wanna marry me?" and nudged her. lol
We talked about past relationships, asked me if i am looking, and asked me if my parents mind about certain race of gf i date (she is indian), so we went through white, black and then she said "what about indian?"
at which point i couldn't help but said "Why? you wanna marry me?" and nudged her. lol
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