Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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secretspy said:
- Bf who I met on pof dumped me about a month ago, I still feel quite upset by it, I know we were only together a few weeks but I guess I really did get my hopes up because all the boxes were being ticked and he seemed to be the one being more clingy then me
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Forget him. In short.

Long version. Well, I don't know the details but everyone gets rejection in their life and trust me, the longer you linger, the more you are wasting your time and life is short.


secretspy said:
- My dad has cancer of the bladder, he's getting treatment etc but no idea how it's going to go. I only found out yesterday from overhearing a conversation that the treatment won't get rid of it completely it's just going to hopefully give him more time
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I am sorry about this :( but times like these there is not much you can do for him but be there for him. Moral support and spend time with him, whether to keep his mind of things, keep his spirit up or worst case, just spend time with him in case the worst happens.

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- I've been really stressed with work with the other points getting to me as well so I started having anxiety attacks and for the past month have been on a real low.
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I guess you are already doing the right thing for this, which is see your GP for professional help. Work is work, don't let it take over your life. If you think it's too much, see your GP about taking some sick leave?

secretspy said:
- I still live with my parents while I frantically try to find a place to move to. I know most guys say this doesn't bother them but it bothers me and I think it secretly does annoy them as well.
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Don't worry about that, seriously. If a guy likes you, he likes you, it's nothing to do with who you live with.

secretspy said:
I'm now feeling a bit better about a few things, doctor is helping me with medication and counselling, I'm slowing catching up at work but I'm still getting the odd anxiety attack and feeling exhausted a lot.

I want to meet someone new but I don't know whether to get back into the dating world or whether to hold fire and carry on as I am :confused:

I know people will probably read this and think "wow she is ****** up" :
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Finally, you are not ****ed up! I have my problems too but I hide it well, may be too well. You are braver than me putting it all out in the open, where I just do what men do, suck it up and carry on mostly. (except one person whom I vent to about everything)

Keep seeing your GP, talk, it will do you good. Go to Counselling sessions, be open, and they will help you.

p.s. You will find someone one day, it might not be the next guy or the guy after that but he is out there :) I've met you only once but I can tell you are a nice person plus you are pretty hot ;)

Smile K :)
 
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secretspy said:
ok people I don't know what to do so I'm putting my dating life in your hands (so to speak)

Here's the low down

- Bf who I met on pof dumped me about a month ago, I still feel quite upset by it, I know we were only together a few weeks but I guess I really did get my hopes up because all the boxes were being ticked and he seemed to be the one being more clingy then me

so....

I'm now feeling a bit better about a few things, doctor is helping me with medication and counselling, I'm slowing catching up at work but I'm still getting the odd anxiety attack and feeling exhausted a lot.

I want to meet someone new but I don't know whether to get back into the dating world or whether to hold fire and carry on as I am :confused:

I know people will probably read this and think "wow she is ****** up" :(
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Nope they won't if you take the right steps. Because you are asking if you should or not, I would say no.

Simply put, get yourself back into your comfort zone whatever that maybe as meeting new people can be more straining for some than others.

I'll be your bf. :P
 
secretspy said:
ok people I don't know what to do so I'm putting my dating life in your hands (so to speak)

Here's the low down

- Bf who I met on pof dumped me about a month ago, I still feel quite upset by it, I know we were only together a few weeks but I guess I really did get my hopes up because all the boxes were being ticked and he seemed to be the one being more clingy then me

- My dad has cancer of the bladder, he's getting treatment etc but no idea how it's going to go. I only found out yesterday from overhearing a conversation that the treatment won't get rid of it completely it's just going to hopefully give him more time

- I've been really stressed with work with the other points getting to me as well so I started having anxiety attacks and for the past month have been on a real low.

- I still live with my parents while I frantically try to find a place to move to. I know most guys say this doesn't bother them but it bothers me and I think it secretly does annoy them as well.

so....

I'm now feeling a bit better about a few things, doctor is helping me with medication and counselling, I'm slowing catching up at work but I'm still getting the odd anxiety attack and feeling exhausted a lot.

I want to meet someone new but I don't know whether to get back into the dating world or whether to hold fire and carry on as I am :confused:

I know people will probably read this and think "wow she is ****** up" :(
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Firstly sorry to hear about your father, I cannot imagine what you are going through. I dread this.

Secondly your not messed up, your having a perfectly normal reaction to some very stressful situations. Anxiety is a normal emotion but it can just become controlling due to the fear.

I am going through anxiety attacks right now due to stress with many things and they suck so much. They get easier with time but make sure you get some help from the GP in form of therapy, drugs only mask them but give you the space to work on the problems.

Thirdly I have a date Thursday but I am seriously considering calling it off and taking a break. I am not ready for a relationship in current stressed condition and might scare people off! This is not the real me!

If you want a quick chat about anxiety or the medications give me a mail in trust. I don't normally speak to people on here but anxiety is something I feel very strongly about having experienced at horrible levels. I can point in the direction of some helpful info.

Hope your feeling better!
 
Thanks for the responses. I'm still a bit confused as to what to do. I guess it doesn't help that I'm impatient and want things to change quickly lol

I guess I'll give it a bit longer and see how I feel in a months time. Just didn't know if perhaps the distraction of meeting someone new would help or not.
 
secretspy said:
Thanks for the responses. I'm still a bit confused as to what to do. I guess it doesn't help that I'm impatient and want things to change quickly lol

I guess I'll give it a bit longer and see how I feel in a months time. Just didn't know if perhaps the distraction of meeting someone new would help or not.
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Facebook me and we'll arrange a shoot and make you look like a million dollars :D
 
secretspy said:
Thanks for the responses. I'm still a bit confused as to what to do. I guess it doesn't help that I'm impatient and want things to change quickly lol

I guess I'll give it a bit longer and see how I feel in a months time. Just didn't know if perhaps the distraction of meeting someone new would help or not.
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You sound so much like me :), just better looking :(

Hope your life improves and you find that special someone :) x
 
Met my GF about 6 weeks ago from POF.

Im pretty loved up to be honest!, we get on great, I fancy the pants off her and she is honest, genuine, and a bit mental at times too. Which is what I look for in a woman :)

Result!
 
And she was a copper until recently so she still has some uniform. Time for some Riot Role play next weekend. Oof!
 
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