Join the club, make me feel better?

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The profile seems to be saying, "Please don't send a message to me, I was made to join" or something. I don't know anything about internet dating but I'm sure someone might be able to help.
 
If you make out that your face looks of arse then people are going to think that.

I'd wipe the self-depreciation from your profile, I don't think it does any favours.
 
You look like an average Joe to me that should have no problems with women when it comes to looks :). There are a LOT of people who are uglier than you are and have found love. My advice is to hit your local gym (seeing the results after being there for a while will likely help with your confidence) and get talking to a few guys there. Sooner or later you'll get friendly with a few of the guys (Or girls) there and from there you can go out and meet people and build up your social skills.
 
Nitefly said:
If you make out that your face looks of arse then people are going to think that.

I'd wipe the self-depreciation from your profile, I don't think it does any favours.
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I know this. I know *exactly* the impact it will have.

But why lie? Why pretend that I'm some positive-thinking go-getter when I've accurately described myself as it is now?
 
FoxEye said:
I'm the one with glasses sitting next to the woman. If I uploaded a less grainy photo you'd see my face looks like my arse.
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**** sake stop talking about yourself like that.

If there is one thing I can be happy about when I go to bed tonight, is that I've given someone moral support, albeit on an internet forum.

Have you seen the official post a pic of your GF thread, there are people on here that look worse than you that have fit gf's.

You can do it!

Be yourself, if they don't like it **** them.

I would also advise getting suspended if you spend too much time on here.
 
Having looked at your photo I can tell immediately that the reason you've not has success with women is your attitude. You're a good looking guy! Stop being so bloody negative, everyone hates negativity.

Be positive, be happy, you'll be a better person for it, and people will like you more for it.

I read the first sentence of your profile and thought to myself "man up". Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
 
FoxEye said:
I'm the one with glasses sitting next to the woman. If I uploaded a less grainy photo you'd see my face looks like my arse.
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Take out the self-deprecating stuff in the profile and put in some stuff about your interests, your wish to expose yourself to new experience and... wait for it... the fact that you're a great listener.

Once you get on a date, you DON'T have to say much! Just let HER get on with the babbling, and agree with everything. Offer the odd humorous tidbit or query to the contrary that'll lead her on a further path. Women love to TALK. Just sit there and NOD.

JOB DONE.

This has been confirmed by my wife.
 
FoxEye said:
When I find the switch in my head labelled "terminally depressed / happy bouncy" I'll be sure to flip it to the "happy" position.

Until then....
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Do some exercise, doesn't matter what, but regular exercise will flip that switch.

And when you find yourself thinking negatively about yourself, stop. Think of something positive. Think of a mantra for the person you would like to be, keep it short & think of this when you feel bad.
The brain is easily tricked and re-wired, positive thoughts breed positive disposition. Psychobabble is not all ***** some of it is effective.
 
flibbage0 said:
I think you look better than your brother. (No homo)
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I think he's better looking than his brother, too. (Yes homo ;) :D )



Seriously, FoxEye, you're not a bad looking fella. I know plenty of men playing well out of their league (I'm talking Premiership Women going out with Jumpers for Goal Posts Men). Looks are not everything.
 
You are going about this totally wrong.

When you try and attract a member of the opposite sex, you need to present a certain side of yourself. This doesn't mean you have to lie, but it does mean to extents you have to blag those attractive qualities, or more accurately remove any negativity that is holding you back so you can present those qualities in their best light.

I worry and get sad about things on occasion. That doesn't mean I would ever want to tell a girl I was interested in those things, or even my geeky hobbies at first instance as they might detract from other aspects of my personality. Don't you know I'm a handsome, charismatic, fun and outgoing guy?

Sort out your attitude or you will get nowhere.
 
You look perfectly fine. I know vastly uglier people happily married. With all due respect, from this and your spec me a new job thread, you seem to be about the most negative person I've ever encountered! You'll never get anywhere in life/relationships with such a defeatist self destructive attitude. You may well be actually depressed and should really speak to a GP. Regardless, there are a lot of sources of help available for people in a bad place, and I genuinely think you may need some if you can't help yourself.

Hope things get better for you some day, but you gotta make it happen. Hell if I can find someone who'll marry me, anybody can!

P.S. Two of my closest friends are happily married through internet dating. Not by posting crap like that though. Put some effort in and it can lead to good things. Though as above I honestly think you need to work on yourself a little first.
 
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