Join the club, make me feel better?

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Buchanan0204 said:
save up £100. Book yourself an escort, no need to spend money on drinks, go into a night club... nothing. Saves a lot of hassle.

Seriously! at 30 and having never done anything that's what I would be doing. Once you've done it with one of them, you will have a bit more confidence to do it with someone else.

Plus the escorts probably going to be a lot better looking than someone you don't need to pay.
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Aw, rubbish!

Do not buy a bloody escort. Sex is the most natural act, if you can't navigate a womens body then there's something seriously wrong. Especially with the amount of internet sex tips, movies and so forth.

Confidence will come from other activities on the lead up to sex, not the act itself.
 
Tefal said:
The op would probably count in that group....
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1) Your sig greatly amuses me.

2) You are either claiming the op is a sad act for having never kissed a girl, or claiming he is in fact trolling. I'm unsure as to which really. I suspect the first choice.

There are a lot of reasons which are not a persons fault for why they may have found them selves in such a position. Especially if they have anxiety problems.

While I do not suffer from social anxiety, I do get anxiety pains which constantly mimic the early signs of heart attacks when I am stressed/angry. I also get them badly when I have long periods of depression, which sadly I am quite prone too and have lead me to being unable to physically lift my arm from pain which is 100% caused by my brain. Anxiety is a truely irrational thing that you cannot control so I would not put someone down untill I knew the reasons why they are in their position ;). Otherwise you are no better than the person you are putting down. It's like taking the mic out of someone who has parkinsons.

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What is their fault is not seeking help or refusing it. While I take pitty on those that need a push to get it. If they sit inside their shell I have no time for them unless their mental state is just that bad they can't do it. I have this problem with some of my closest friends who are strongly bi-polar.
 
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8igdave said:
2) You are either claiming the op is a sad act for having never kissed a girl, or claiming he is in fact trolling. I'm unsure as to which really. I suspect the first choice.
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the latter.

Not quite sure how you would think the first bit unless you think he deliberately never kissed a girl to bait people on the internet though :p
 
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Tefal said:
the latter.

Not quite sure how you would think the first bit unless you think he deliberately never kissed a girl to bait people on the internet though :p
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Mmm either you miss understood what I said or I just wrote it badly. I am very tired.

What I meant was you were either saying the OP is a sad act because he's never kissed a girl which is just harsh or saying that he is infact just trying to troll us. You've mixed them both together there :P.

Also I really need to go back to the black ocuk which you have in your sig!

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Anyway mass thread derail. Rather not derail this one, even though I manage it in most others.
 
Buchanan0204 said:
save up £100. Book yourself an escort, no need to spend money on drinks, go into a night club... nothing. Saves a lot of hassle.

Seriously! at 30 and having never done anything that's what I would be doing. Once you've done it with one of them, you will have a bit more confidence to do it with someone else.
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Same here.

Plus the escorts probably going to be a lot better looking than someone you don't need to pay.
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You always pay. To quote Chef/James Taylor, "a prostitute is like any other woman; they all trade something for sex and they do it well".


 
FoxEye said:
So yeah, I'm 30, never had a girlfriend, never kissed a girl. Starting to get worried about spending the remainder of my days alone :/
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Serious answer... firstly pay for sex, get down your local brothel or whatever's easiet where you are and do it. At 30 you've missed out on a lot.

Now you've popped your cherry you've got a lot of making up to do!, make the changes you need to to make it happen. New haircut/style, get fit, gym/bulk up, get out more, build up confidence etc etc. Only one life you get, only once chance at this you get, make it happen.
 
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Grow some confidence!

Honestly mate thats all. The early parts of my life i spent in front of the computer (ocuk post count as evidence) playing games etc and never going out. When I hit 20 I kinda slapped myself out of it and started to actually have a life and now whilst I dont have the biggest friend circle I can usually fill my time in keeping myself busy.

Start doing new things and youll meet new people then things will go from there. If you carry on with your life as it is then you might strike lucky or you might not. If theres once thing ive leant the hard way its that if you want something youve gotta go and get it, even if it means stepping on a few toes.
 
I dont know if it makes you feel any better but im 23 and only been in 1 relationship which lasted 6 months, when I was 16. I have no intentions to further this for religious purposes. I just thought id say there is no set way you should live your life, nothing is stone and just because the majority of people have relationships and kids doesnt mean that is the how life is supposed to be. Its your life, your freedom so just go out there and be confident and embrace the world the way you want to
 
Some good advice in here.. please don't listen to the trolls they will seriously ruin you if you post a picture even if your half decent looking... they wouldn't dare rip you then post a picture of themselves afterwards!
 
[TW]Fox;18745978 said:
I am a complete moron and generally very irritating.
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I can cancel my internet connection and retire from active life at this point. Thank-you.




OP, you've missed out on some valuable growth, certainly, but all is not lost.. Act, be positive; as mentionned earlier in the thread, there really are people out there for everybody. You could be an 18 stone WoW addict with acne and and one leg and someone out there will most certainly deem you to be a perfect partner. The trick is simply finding them.
 
You my friend, need a wingman! Its very difficult (Unless your gifted in the looks department) to go it alone on the prowl. Having a wingman means that you are never left to stumble over your own words and make a fool of yourself, your Wingman will always fill the gaps with something that seems even more silly by comparison. You never have to worry about awkwardly introducing yourself to a girl as he will find a way to get you talking and most of all, you have someone there to big you up to the girl, forcing her into making false, but beneficial first impressions about you.
 
To those urging for him to use prostitutes - I don't think this is about sex. In the OP he said he was interested in not being lonely, in the long term no amount of paid for meaningless sex will remedy this. It might even damage self confidence knowing you have to pay for your sex. As someone said, sex is the plateau, its the lead up that's the real climb. Once you're ready for sex its the most easy and natural experience.

My advice based on an assumption is to get out and get to know people face to face, make a wider circle of friends. Go for drinks, have fun and see what happens. Watch what people do and say and learn but be involved yourself. Don't be the grey man.
 
Yeah but tbh, if I was in that situation, I would never of let myself get to 30 without any sort of sexual experience.

The problem he faces now is that if he does meet a women, chances are she will of had sex before :P thus leaving him at a mental disadvantage.

Personally, I would go bone some hookers! Ive done it and Ive had lots of girlfriends!

Doing that might take the stigma out of sex for you, thus allowing you to be a bit more confident?

Either that or go online dating, find a 30 something who is also a virgin, get together, make a mess!
 
FoxEye said:
No, never been close to anyone.

I don't give myself a chance, because I can't talk to people face-to-face. I'm so focused on myself, what I'm saying, how I'm doing it all wrong, that after a minute of two of (extremely awkward) babble, I have nothing left to say. And what I've already said has probably given the wrong impression anyhow.

Seriously, there are times when I want to say something nice, and it comes out sarcastic, or gets mis-interpreted, or my body language is wrong or whatever.

It's my curse. Whilst I can type this and get my message across, my delivery in person is so bad it's routine that I'll come away from a conversation wondering how the hell it went so wrong.
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You need to have a TV series created about you, it would be hilarious!

Sure it sounds as if I'm mocking you but insta-celeb equates to insta-clunge.

Failing that you REALLY need to hire yourself a hooker, if you can wash and breath you'll be fine, just think of it as a business transaction.
 
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