Just had the worst phone call of my life

^TANK^ said:
I took a picture last night when we got back from the hospital of all the medication my mum takes daily :eek:.

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Mary & Joseph :eek:

I am sorry to read what has happened.

That picture brings back visions of what my Aunt had to take when she had lung cancer 4 years ago. I used to call her a walking pharmacy she had that many tablets.

I hope its as physically painless as it can be for her.

Poor thing :(
 
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My mum is one of those "don't beat around the bush type of people" and the district nurse said more than likely near the end she will pass peacefully, painless in her sleep.
 
Hi Tank,

My wife died on the 13/12/2010 from metastatic breast cancer. It would have been her 39 birthday last weekend. I understand what you are going through she fought it for 14 months before the end.

If you ever feel that you need to talk to someone about it the offers there. I don’t know you from Adam but I found it easier to talk to people that weren’t as close as family or friends. Sounds weird but it helped me.

Take it easy and spend as much time with her as you can. Say all that you need to say no matter how daft. Do it while you can.
 
Take it easy and spend as much time with her as you can. Say all that you need to say no matter how daft. Do it while you can.
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Good advice there.

Tank, my thoughts go out to you. I buried my parents 7 years ago, ages 63 & 64. My mother stayed with us before she died and we managed to have some time together and sort things out etc, still managed to have "barnies" too :) Anyway follow that advice, sometimes they can leave faster than one thinks.

Best to you and your family.

CatMangler, I'm sorry, I wish I could say it in person. Best to you.
 
^TANK^ said:
My mum is one of those "don't beat around the bush type of people" and the district nurse said more than likely near the end she will pass peacefully, painless in her sleep.
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My father died from Bowel & Liver cancer in August 2009 and towards the end he become so exhausted that he was almost constantly asleep. Falling asleep every few minutes when we came to visit him in the hospice. For the last 4 days he was asleep solidly and didn't move. We would hear the occasional groan and he would try to open his eyes but it was only the smallest of amounts and from what I could see his eye's didn't seem focused. I like to think that he was dreaming most of the time and probably having to time of his life judging from his over active eyebrows going all over the place! I'd stayed with him 2 nights on the trot as we thought his passing was going to be soon but he battled it out for a further 2 days. My dad didn't look my dad when he died as there was hardly anything of him left with his knee being the widest part all the way up his leg.

I wasn't with him when he passed but several nurses were which was a great comfort. We had the phonecall early morning but before we could get to the hospice he had already passed away. I can't describe how I felt and recalling it all puts a lump in my throat but knowing he passed peacefully made it easier and knowing that he was finally at rest and not suffering anymore was a relief.

Make the most of the time you have left. I wish you and your family all the best at this difficult time.
 
^TANK^ said:
My mum is one of those "don't beat around the bush type of people" and the district nurse said more than likely near the end she will pass peacefully, painless in her sleep.
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That's exactly how my Dad went, on the 15th December 2010. He went into hospital in November with agonizing back pain, which turned out to be cancer (Myloma) which was destroying his bones. They said it was a treatable cancer, not curable, and hoped he'd last quite some time, but it was obviously much more aggressive than they realised. He went very peacefully in the end, which was a big relief. I know what you're going through right now mate, so my thoughts are with you. My email is in my Trust if there's anything I can do.
 
^Tank^ I'm sorry to hear of this news- things must be difficult in many respects.

Cancer is an affliction upon many people, with the circle of affect ranging even wider. I have been dealing with numerous variations of associated problems directly since I was a child; I'm by no means a field expert, but have experienced a huge amount and would be more than happy to talk and listen if you wished to chat. (You'll find my contact details in trust if so).

In the mean time, I wish you the best of luck with the adversities both present and future.
 
A side effect of having a loved one fall seriously ill, is that you do more growing up in 1 month than you had in the 10 years previoulsy when they were fit and healthy..

Its the biggest wake up call most people will ever have......
 
Knowing what to say in regards to these things is hard, especially for someone like myself that hasn't experienced what you have yet, you want to be able connect in some way and share the pain or are say that your sorry to hear the news but I know it won't help, I think if a lot of us are honest we are just glad we are not in the same situation atm, I fear the day that this could ever happen to my mum as she is a like a sister to me, I do honestly wish you the best though mate, and hope that your mum doesn't suffer too painfully.
 
Really Sorry to hear the news, My Mum Passed away from Cancer about 16 months ago now. i was only 17, its Heartbreaking to say the least. Keep your chin up and best wishes to you and your family.
 
Chin up Tank, I glad your Mum is improving (as much as she can be). Best wishes mate, tell you Mum hi from the Forums, shes got several thousand geeks rooting for her....might make her smile at least.

If you want to chat email me if you want, sometimes it helps to vent to someone you don't see everyday.
 
Thank you all for taking the time for the kind words and sharing your personal experiences with me, my mum has managed to keep her food down today as generally she finds it a battle to eat the smallest of things.

Unfortunately my seven year old nephew has taken for the worst, he is currently on a life support machine in London as hes only breathing on half a lung :(. A chest infection combined with extreme asthma has caused this to the poor little guy, but he is unaware of whats going on as they have had to put him into a drug induced coma. About an hour ago my sister told me over the phone the doctors are giving him a fifty fifty chance of pulling through this.

They say these things come in threes what next...............
 
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