Monogomy?

Piggymon said:
I had a very very bad experience between the ages of 17 & 22 .. .the very period that moulds your thoughts and views as you grow up
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That explains something, you seem to be a very complex lady Piggy.

I really should stop analysing people :o

Burnsy
 
nero120 said:
People of course do think differently, but there is also a commonality that all men share, and all women share. I am simply interested to know to what degree men share their monogomous sexual drive.
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Differing degrees obviously :p
 
burnsy2023 said:
In my last relationship, I saw other ladies in the street and thought about them in the sack, but they're just fantasies, and thats perfectly healthy in a relationship. I must admit, although I do still look at women in that way, when i'm in a relationship it certaily is a lot less, it must be subconscious.

I do strongly believe that there is a big difference between a fantasy and actually doing the deed. I would certainly not entertain the serious thought of attempting to cheat, there simply was no need. I was happy and the thought of anything other then sleeping with the missus just didn't happen.
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I talked to my boyfriend about this thread last night. We were laughing about how he tries to ogle women subtley but can never quite manage it! I trust him 100% and know that it will stop at him having a perv. He's very happy as it's summer so there's lots of half naked ladies to look at. I shall be using that to my advantage when he gets all hot and bothered! Hurrah!
 
burnsy2023 said:
That explains something, you seem to be a very complex lady Piggy.

I really should stop analysing people :o

Burnsy
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Complex ? Moi ? nah :)

Well I don't think I am anyway ... maybe I'm wrong :o
 
Roberta said:
I talked to my boyfriend about this thread last night. We were laughing about how he tries to ogle women subtley but can never quite manage it! I trust him 100% and know that it will stop at him having a perv. He's very happy as it's summer so there's lots of half naked ladies to look at. I shall be using that to my advantage when he gets all hot and bothered! Hurrah!
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Thats a good attitude to have, good for you!
 
Right I haven't replied until now since I have been too busy to get on OcUK this past week. Anyway here is how I see it...

When I have been single in the past I have looked at a woman and noticed her attractiveness. I will even admit to thinking "yes, I would" on occasion... But this was while I was single.

Also, I have been in relationships in the past where I have thought similar things. This was one of the reasons why I knew that something was wrong and ended them quickly.

However, this all changes when you fall in love. I can honestly state hand on heart, that while I can appreciate another womans attractiveness, the thought of having sex with them seriously doesn't enter my head in the slightest. Thats what happens when you fall in love. Slushy? Perhaps... But also completely true.


To summarise:-

Do I look at women and think "I want to have sex with them"?

Single - Yes
Bad relationship - Yes
In love - No, the thought doesn't even enter my head.

As far as I am concerned if you are actively considering sex with another person then the one you are with isn't right for you.
 
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So GordyR, you never ever see a woman and for the briefest second think 'phwoar' before moving on and forgetting about it? This is a genuine question by the way, I'm not trying to be smart. :)
 
Pebbles said:
So GordyR, you never ever see a woman and for the briefest second think 'phwoar' before moving on and forgetting about it? This is a genuine question by the way, I'm not trying to be smart. :)
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I know this ain't directed at me but I'll give my input.

I think 99% of straight blokes do that. The difference is the ones that act upon that thought.
 
See, now the thing is, I doubt many blokes at all (except perhaps the totally sex-obsessed ones) actually think 'I'd like to have sex with that girl' when they see an attractive girl, whether they are single or a loved up coconut.

However, if/when you look at another woman and think 'Hmm, she's fit' then what aspects make you think she's attractive? A great set of norks? A lovely pair of legs leading up to a cracking behind? Whilst I'm sure there is a capability for purely aesthetic appreciation, I would wager the thing that makes them catch your eye initially ain't the same thing that makes you think 'hmm that rose is rather beautiful' or 'what a lovely crisp winters morning'. I would say the base for attraction is more than likely going to be sexual regardless of your relationship status. Tis only natural after all and ain't something to be ashamed or angry about, unless of course you act further on it and go trying to get jiggy with the object of your initial attraction!!
 
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