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It sure does. Poor buggers - but at least it gets it done (for most children) and shouldn't disrupt them too much moving forward and they can focus on being at school and learning.
Whilst I don't wish the time away, and prefer enjoying the time with my kids, I'm kinda glad that school reduces the costs for a bit, even with the 30 free hours (15 in my case) helps a lot but still leaves you with a dent in the pocket though it's also quite "sad" (not sure what the word is) to see the kids so grown up and at school...
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That's what you want though then it's over and done with. As a side note my 6 year old has decided he can dry himself/dress himself after swimming which is fine by me as the cubicles are clearly designed for 1 person and there were times when drying him he'd should "daddy stop touching my willy" which you can imagine how that must have sounded.
Edited to add I'm really surprised that word doesn't get asterixed out.
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You still have to pay for those??
Yep. And we're taking her out in May to avoid school holiday tax - that'll also come be paid for.
Contract is 4 days a week Mon-Thurs. You reserve capacity for 52 weeks and basically pay their holiday wage. Nuts but that is how it is down here.
The reason I ask is our boy is in on every Monday currently, and my mrs asked about bank holidays and they told her it's still billable. I was gobsmacked and thought it might have been a mistake but reading this apparently not. They really have parents by the balls.
Hardly - it’s just 12 equal monthly payments. If you are paid 12 equal monthly salary payments its the same thing - work don’t pay me less in months with bank holidays.
Pretty sure most have a day rate of £x which you pay regardless of day so yes he will be paying for BHs
I pay for the eligible days in a month, so your answer is wrong for lots, and doesn't make sense commercially for the nursery.
Why should I pay when my boy is only in on Mondays? I’m paying a day rate for a service, not a salary. They should not be able to charge me for a day when they are not providing that service.
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I know through covid sone nursery's were still charging (no doubt while getting money from the government 
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Yeah and threatened to revoke kids places. That'd be torture here as it was like a 1.5 year wait list.I know through covid sone nursery's were still charging (no doubt while getting money from the government
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That doesn't seem fair or right in the slightest.
Some of my family have a crèche at or near their work place. They go and spend time with their children at lunchtime or at least are nearby if they get a pang of "I need a cuddle". I think it's a great idea.
As I said before whilst I'm not one to wish my life away or see my kids grow up too quickly being free from those expenses has been welcomed.
Just make sure you get your tax free child care support and 15-30hrs too. Everyone is entitled to 15hrs regardless of your earnings (as long as you're earning the national minimum wage).
Some of my family have a crèche at or near their work place. They go and spend time with their children at lunchtime or at least are nearby if they get a pang of "I need a cuddle". I think it's a great idea.
As I said before whilst I'm not one to wish my life away or see my kids grow up too quickly being free from those expenses has been welcomed.
Just make sure you get your tax free child care support and 15-30hrs too. Everyone is entitled to 15hrs regardless of your earnings (as long as you're earning the national minimum wage).
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Hi all, I don't yet have kids but my wife and I considering trying soon - dumb question but is there a good time of year to have children e.g. To avoid kid being the youngest in school year (i understand that's August 31st in England?) or to gain advantages with childcare?
I would continue working full time, and wife 30 hours with both having flexible jobs, so would need paid for childcare.
I appreciate this is looking like a very practical assesment of the issue, and timing conceiving might not work!
I would continue working full time, and wife 30 hours with both having flexible jobs, so would need paid for childcare.
I appreciate this is looking like a very practical assesment of the issue, and timing conceiving might not work!
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Sadly, there's no way of guaranteeing of when your wife will get pregnant. This isn't like ordering something on Amazon. I also don't believe there are particular advantages to the time if year etc. You're also kidding yourself to think you can plan for all eventualities. Having a kid will change everything in ways you can't yet fathom. That said, despite everything I'm going through now with my daughter I wouldn't change being a Dad for anything!
Just pray that if you are lucky enough to become parents that your child is healthy!
Just pray that if you are lucky enough to become parents that your child is healthy!
If I've worked it out correctly, a birthday some time between 1st September and 1st January will give you 5 terms of 30 free hours when they turn 3, between 1st Jan and 1st April will give you 4, and between 1st April and 1st Sept will give you 3 terms. Depending how much your childcare is, that's ~£6k difference.
Bit of a sore spot here as we got our code 2 months ago, but he's only turned 3 today, so we've missed the cutoff by just under 2 weeks, so have to wait till September.
However seeing how much some of you are paying for nursery, I don't feel so hard done by, we're lucky to have a great childminder who hasn't put her fees up since she had our 11 year old when he was just starting school, so we only pay £175 a week, and don't have to pay for holidays/bank holidays. With the 20% off from tax free childcare, it averages less than £600/month
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If I've worked it out correctly, a birthday some time between 1st September and 1st January will give you 5 terms of 30 free hours when they turn 3, between 1st Jan and 1st April will give you 4, and between 1st April and 1st Sept will give you 3 terms. Depending how much your childcare is, that's ~£6k difference.
Bit of a sore spot here as we got our code 2 months ago, but he's only turned 3 today, so we've missed the cutoff by just under 2 weeks, so have to wait till September.
However seeing how much some of you are paying for nursery, I don't feel so hard done by, we're lucky to have a great childminder who hasn't put her fees up since she had our 11 year old when he was just starting school, so we only pay £175 a week, and don't have to pay for holidays/bank holidays. With the 20% off from tax free childcare, it averages less than £600/month
How did you work it out? Forgive me for the dumb question...
I guess I just heard from my brother that he got his Mrs pregnant almost immediately and was wondering if the same might happen. Of course healthy kid and parent is the most important thing..
In terms of cost, I haven't really worked it out but we're doing pretty sound financially and earn about 6to 7k a month net and would only go down to 5 to 6k. I have heard childcare is about 50 to 80 quid a day but not sure on down low of it.
Only thing that's worth me considering is me upping pension contributions so I earn under 50k ? To get child benefit?
I'm also considering taking a new job with a longer commute twice a week, I'm sure that's a bad idea with a new kid
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