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henry hoov3r said:
How is he’s ankle? Ive got the same injury from playing football but no break just a dislocation. Its a long recovery,the break will be healed well before anything else. Im 7 weeks in nearly and still on crutches im not in a cast now tho im in a boot.
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He's not long back from the hospital actually. Hard cast, now :) They said the doc in the ER who reset his ankle did a "remarkable job" and has saved him from needing multiple operations which im very grateful for. Now we wait. His mum has been asked to go in on her own to discuss long term ect so expecting a lot of physio to come. But overall, very happy so far :)
 
alchal said:
Our lass had a meltdown as I've been trying to get the little one to fall asleep in her cot by herself, it's working but it takes ages before I can leave her.

Never any tears, just needs reassuring I'm still there as she settles down at the moment.

Our lass seems to think kids will fall asleep on you, then one day, wham bang they want to go to sleep themselves in the cot.

She can't that it takes an hour for bedtimes.

Is it me who's wrong ? She's doing my head i !
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Well, let me tell you that it's well worth putting the time in now. Otherwise you'll be like muggins here who has to sit by the bed of his 7 year old because she won't go to sleep on her own. It's a lot harder when they can hop out of bed on their own and sit on your floor and flatly refuse to go to bed, understand the concept of losing face and therefore hold onto their position until the bitter end despite all punishments being leveraged and is actually strong enough to kick you in the danglies with some real force.

Can't wait until she's a teenager :rolleyes:
 
t2na said:
How old is your little one? We ended up doing what @dLockers did and got a sleep coach / sleep teaching guides.

Our daughter was a great little sleeper from when she was a few weeks old until about 4/5 months - then we had a few weeks where it was just a nightmare going to sleep and staying asleep. She'd take an hour + to get to sleep then wake up every few hours or just not go back to sleep at 4/5am.

We figured we had nothing to lose so just paid for some sleep training guides and support. It's really handy having a guide / support available on WhatsApp so you can just ask loads of questions and get guidance, even if it doesn't seem like rocket science it was so worth it to us.

Now she's 10 months old we can just put her in her cot for naps/bedtime and she'll chat to herself for a few minutes and then drop off to sleep!
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Coming up to two in a couple of months.

She sleeps by herself like a log when she finally gives in, it's just the journey to that point, sometimes it's quick other times not so.

Our lass seems to stress and moans about how easy other kids are ...I think the little one is fine and it's normal what she's doing.
 
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Been attempting to get potty training down with my daughter, and just discovered that she is infact, an evil genius. The potty’s one of those ones that has a removable inner pot that they do their business in. Just discovered as she was in the process of taking a dump as I sat her down, and far too late to do anything about it, that at some point during the day today, she’s took the removable pot out, without me noticing.

So now I’ve just had the rather unpleasant experience of scooping said dump out of the potty, and cleaning it out. :(
 
Just said goodbye to my eldest son who is on his way for a 6 week trip after GCSE's - three weeks tour then three weeks without. He was like "Bye" and deigned to give us a hug before marching off. 16.5y and already independent. Not sure whether to be happy or a little sad.

I remember jumping with him on a trampoline at 2.5y and breaking his leg with a greenstick fracture. He just had a bad bounce when we were jumping and after a little cry, sat quietly and not complaining until the swelling and bruising were noticeable (about 60 mins) and my wife took him off to A&E. She had to answer quite a few questions from hospital staff and then we both got questioned by social workers.

Any other war stories to share?
 
Our daughter (almost 3) is going through a bit of a phase of being extremely worried about everything which is proving to be quite debilitating and hard to deal with (mostly just frustrated for her really) - like we tried to go swimming last week (which admittedly we haven't done as often as we'd like) and she just could not deal with being in the changing room. I mean like full on screaming like she was being tortured throughout the whole process, totally inconsolable :( In the end we resorted to having her stood up on the change table in the room kind of cuddling me whilst her mum changed her etc. and at one point she was freaking out about the situation so much she bit me really hard right on the trap/shoulder which was super painful. And then naturally after that fiasco she was so worked up and exhausted by the whole thing that she didn't really enjoy the swimming either and started saying she wanted to leave after barely 10 minutes (and of course then was equally upset by the changing room on the way out too)

Anybody experienced anything similar? I'm unsure whether the right thing to do is just avoid that sort of situation for a little while and then try again and hope eventually she gets over it or can understand the situation better, or whether actually trying to keep going regularly will eventually work (and not just traumatise her!). It seems to be that she mostly doesn't like being in an enclosed space maybe, have noticed her getting upset if we ever need to go into a lift as well, or into a small baby change toilet - she hates it!!
 
Went to my sons U6s rugby match last night in an East Hull estate (for those of you not local it's a rough area). Saw some fantastic parenting, a mum letting her 2 year old drink a full 2l bottle of coke. It ight have been diet, but still shocking. I'm estimating the 2 year old as they were reasonable short.
 
The twins have now started toddling around which is fun! We had a week from hell last week where we were both ill, the twins were ill and the Mrs starting going into a bit of a spin.

Mother in law is with us for this week and my word does it make a difference.
 
On the topic of parents/in-laws.. it's great to see the differences in parenting approaching from another generation!

It's been quite odd seeing the differences between my parents and my in-laws in how they are with our son. My parents are quite happy to leave him be for the most part but obviously play/interact with him a bit. Whereas my in-laws won't leave him be, like will just play with him 24/7 rather than letting him doing anything by himself (to the point he kept yelling 'nana' at me when he couldn't figure something out himself :p). No amount of me being like 'oh he can do that himself if you want to help me make dinner or whatever' seems to be listened to which is starting to get a bit grating with me/my wife. There's been a whole bunch of other stuff with her parents since we've had our son which has exposed a lot of difficulties in their relationship, I can almost understand now how families fall out and don't talk to eachother forever more :D
 
It's amazing how quickly they grow up. My daughter at 17 sorted out 6 weeks au-pairing in Barcelona for herself. The family she's with think she's amazing. I'm just in awe she has so much confidence. I'd have been terrified of doing the same thing at her age.

Son has just finished GCSEs so we let him choose a few days away. He chose Tenby where my dad had a house before he died, we spent many summers when the kids were little. We spent today at Manobier beach crabbing.

So daughter 17 going on 20, son 15 going on 6.

Love it. Just so glad I haven't aged as far as they have since birth. Sheesh that would make me 55 and I'd be furious about it.
 
Any fathers (or families) here considering private or independent schooling for your children?

This is suddenly being foisted upon us. While my daughter is only 3 years old, the local public school is already looking at their future numbers, and as such, the question is something I've been kicking around since her birth.

All my contemporaries at work are big advocates for private schools, but, I can be convinced either way. I certainly prefer to save on the cost ..
 
I had my IVF daughter smack bang in first lockdown.

She's NEVER been able to sleep on her own, in her own bed. Literally tried everything. She will just cry and cry until shes physically sick, then I just can't leave her alone any longer.

Any one else had this? A few others have said their child with IVF has been very similar and very difficult.
 
uncle_rufus said:
Our daughter (almost 3) is going through a bit of a phase of being extremely worried about everything which is proving to be quite debilitating and hard to deal with (mostly just frustrated for her really) - like we tried to go swimming last week (which admittedly we haven't done as often as we'd like) and she just could not deal with being in the changing room. I mean like full on screaming like she was being tortured throughout the whole process, totally inconsolable :( In the end we resorted to having her stood up on the change table in the room kind of cuddling me whilst her mum changed her etc. and at one point she was freaking out about the situation so much she bit me really hard right on the trap/shoulder which was super painful. And then naturally after that fiasco she was so worked up and exhausted by the whole thing that she didn't really enjoy the swimming either and started saying she wanted to leave after barely 10 minutes (and of course then was equally upset by the changing room on the way out too)

Anybody experienced anything similar? I'm unsure whether the right thing to do is just avoid that sort of situation for a little while and then try again and hope eventually she gets over it or can understand the situation better, or whether actually trying to keep going regularly will eventually work (and not just traumatise her!). It seems to be that she mostly doesn't like being in an enclosed space maybe, have noticed her getting upset if we ever need to go into a lift as well, or into a small baby change toilet - she hates it!!
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Really needs to be nipped in the bud before turning into full on claustrophobia.

Maybe, try different fun activities in an enclosed area...for example having a tea party in the pantry/under the stairs, even in a large wardrobe (if there is one large enough- maybe she sits in it and you sit outside with the door open).

Another way may be to try get her to imagine a fun place she has been too or an event attended or even one of her favourite toys. In her bedroom for example, get her to close her eyes and describe said place/event/toy in extreme detail. I know for a(n almost) three year old language may be more limited so maybe you take the lead.

"We are at Tommy's birthday party. Do you remember everyone there? Do you remember your dress? What did the cake look like? What snacks are on the table? Which ones were your favourite? Do you remember any smell that you loved/hated? What do you think it was?"

Mix up character names in her favourite TV show. Is Upsy Daisy the blue man? What does Iggle Piggle do with his Uff Uff etc

So, when you approach enclosed spaces, you can rehash that conversation or engage in a similar one with a different focus. That way, she is more focused on the memory and articulation than the place she is stood in.

As she gets older, you can get her to use her imagination and use things like:
"Where would you go on holiday? Describe it."
"If you were to get a pet horse, what would it look like?"

Hopefully, that will help
 
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regulus said:
Any fathers (or families) here considering private or independent schooling for your children?

This is suddenly being foisted upon us. While my daughter is only 3 years old, the local public school is already looking at their future numbers, and as such, the question is something I've been kicking around since her birth.

All my contemporaries at work are big advocates for private schools, but, I can be convinced either way. I certainly prefer to save on the cost ..
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It entirely depends on what your local schools (both public and private) are like.

My local secondary is outstanding (and a school both myself and my wife attended), and I see no reason at all to push my kids into a private school.

I have a number of friends who teach at 6th form and they give scathing reviews of children that have been taught at some of the local private schools. They just aren't equipped to actually deal with the world and are utterly useless on their own.
 
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james.miller said:
He's not long back from the hospital actually. Hard cast, now :) They said the doc in the ER who reset his ankle did a "remarkable job" and has saved him from needing multiple operations which im very grateful for. Now we wait. His mum has been asked to go in on her own to discuss long term ect so expecting a lot of physio to come. But overall, very happy so far :)
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I was at the hospital on Monday and the doctor told me it can take a year to fully recover. Not the best news ive had!
 
Had a call from school today, my 6 year old son has slapped somebody and they needed an ice pack to soothe it. I'm going to give him a telling off, but now the Mrs is flapping about some way of getting rid of his aggression. Any thoughts? I think he's just going through a phase and hopefully he won't do it again. Might have to slap him so he knows not to do it /s (semi sarcastic :p ).
 
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