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Spuj said:
Going to be a dad for the first time in October, heading into the unknown but I really cannot wait to meet them and start this new chapter.

Probably have 90% of the stuff we need now, just a few bits left to get like a monitor and bottles etc.

Start getting the Nursery ready this month. I was using the room for my mancave so moving all my stuff out then it's carpet out, put some coving up, re paint the room, fix the small leak from the radiator and then get the new carpet down.

Once that's all done I can build the furniture we have waiting and then that's it, although the cot isn't allowed to go up until after baby has arrived. Aiming to have it all done by the end of August so we aren't rushing around in September. Going to be another busy month!
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It's rad, you're going to love it. Good luck with all that work. We kept ours in her moses basket for the first couple of months (more convenient for those 3am feeds etc), but she's settled in the cot now. She did spend a few nights break dancing around her cot with all the extra space though which was fun. Might buy you some more time with your man cave!
 
Gilly said:
Thanks... have you been through similar? There's a silly amount of misinformation out there.
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5.5yrs of hell.

Currently trying to sue MoJ for negligence. Give regular advice to Dads on a range of issues including Court advice and help with letters (vs solicitors) and applications and advice on what to ask for plus other help.
 
RaohNS said:
5.5yrs of hell.

Currently trying to sue MoJ for negligence. Give regular advice to Dads on a range of issues including Court advice and help with letters (vs solicitors) and applications and advice on what to ask for plus other help.
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Sorry to hear that, it's already a tough enough time without having the legal minefield to navigate.
 
Gilly said:
No, we're not there yet, but it may well end up doing.
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Coming at the this from the other direction (instant step dad 15 years ago), I can't stress how important it is for you and your ex to agree all the roles/responsibilities/domestic arrangements/finances and get this agreement entered into the court records for your divorce.
 
Terminal_Boy said:
Coming at the this from the other direction (instant step dad 15 years ago), I can't stress how important it is for you and your ex to agree all the roles/responsibilities/domestic arrangements/finances and get this agreement entered into the court records for your divorce.
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I've been on both sides. The eldest of the two boys was from a previous relationship, but I've been Dad for 9 of his 12 years now.
 
Devrij said:
It's rad, you're going to love it. Good luck with all that work. We kept ours in her moses basket for the first couple of months (more convenient for those 3am feeds etc), but she's settled in the cot now. She did spend a few nights break dancing around her cot with all the extra space though which was fun. Might buy you some more time with your man cave!
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Thanks, think I'm going to need the luck although I do have a friend who will be helping me out so that will help a bunch.

We will be doing the same, our friends dropped off the basket yesterday as a gift to us so plan is to keep them in with us for the first few months (and see how it goes).

Are you starting to get your little girl into a evening/sleeping routine now then if she has moved into a cot?
 
glen8 said:
I once found a hot wheels car in the subwoofer
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My 2 year old keeps posting things in mine. There's lipstick and clothes pegs in there at the moment, I can barely be bothered to get it out as I might as well just hold off until more stuff is in there. I also have a 3 year old and he's probably the influence for just about anything bad.
 
Gilly said:
Oh yeah, that's where I was coming from. I don't think for one second that my (soon to be ex) wife has found any of it difficult, and everything seems set up for her and not for me. Especially with kids and finance.
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Its a sad situation and over the years I've heard some heartbreakers and some of complete unfairness.

A few:
This one I didn't deal with but heard from a colleague. Dad went to gain custody and ex made serious allegations. This resulted in contact stopping totally. Because of the nature of the allegations the said man couldn't reside in the family home (with his new wife and their child) and had to go to stay at his parents every night. A year later when attempting conviction ex broke down admitting it was a lie and she was "scared" of losing child. The Mum got.....

One I did help with, my partners brother. He has custody and tried get some maintenance. He called gave all details including where she was working. They couldn't take any money because she was working on maternity cover only thus its not a guaranteed job. I nearly hit the roof! Told not to shout etc but nothing they could do until she works full time perm. No reasoning with their policies and the law. She's been working maternity cover now for 5+years and even advanced onto manager while still covering maternity leave at the exact same place. I often beg him let me take CSA/CMS court but he doesn't want the hassle.
 
I've got a 4 year old, a 1 year old and another on the way.

Happy to exchange advice and hear tales from other Dad's, being a Dad is awesome and time really does go too quickly. My little girl is going to school this year, can't quite believe it.
 
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I've been really lucky with my ex partner. The split wasn't fun, but we agreed on a total 50/50 split in time (so I get 7 days out of 14) and finances etc. We weren't married so no divorce to worry about thankfully. The children took it well too which is the main thing.

I'm still finding it hard not seeing them every day, even after almost half a year. That'll probably not change! And i'm currently feeling super guilty for meeting someone new!
 
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