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HumanShield said:
I've been really lucky with my ex partner. The split wasn't fun, but we agreed on a total 50/50 split in time (so I get 7 days out of 14) and finances etc. We weren't married so no divorce to worry about thankfully. The children took it well too which is the main thing.

I'm still finding it hard not seeing them every day, even after almost half a year. That'll probably not change! And i'm currently feeling super guilty for meeting someone new!
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Meh. A hand only lasts so long.
 
You can't allow yourself to feel guilty for finding someone new. My (ex) wife started living with someone else the day she split up with me, which she did via text. I didn't know she was living with him until she updated her Facebook relationship status for all to see.

You have to think of yourself as well as your kids.
 
It's been a long time since I've done all the baby stuff. Instant stepdad to a 1 1/2 year old with suspected (and subsequently confirmed) autism along with two boys of my own doing. Stepson is now 20 and my two are 15 and 17. If anything it was much easier when they were younger!
 
Spuj said:
Thanks, think I'm going to need the luck although I do have a friend who will be helping me out so that will help a bunch.

We will be doing the same, our friends dropped off the basket yesterday as a gift to us so plan is to keep them in with us for the first few months (and see how it goes).

Are you starting to get your little girl into a evening/sleeping routine now then if she has moved into a cot?
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We've been quite lucky tbh. She started sleeping through the night really early on. We had to wake her up in the middle of the night to feed her (midwife said we shouldn't leave her that long without a feed early on), but now she generally settles around 9 to 11 and sleeps right through to 6 or 7. She doesn't necessarily wake up and go through the roof either. We made a point of not watching TV in bed when we put her down so that dark and quiet = stfu and go to sleep time.

She's a very chilled out baby (says the guy whose daughter is still sleep crying next to him after throwing a random wobbly)

That said, I spoke to a woman the other day whose 10 month old still wakes up screaming 5 times a night!

So your mileage may vary.
 
Suppose I should engage with this thread!
New expectant dad here, due date is 20th Nov and today was the beginning of final trimester!
Pregnancy has been fine thus far with the missus just complaining of chronic back pain. Has got rather bad recently so been going to the chiropractor.

We went shopping recently for baby stuff and it shocked me at how expensive some of the stuff is. Do you really need 3 different types of prams (carry cot, normal seat, car seat) and 2 different car seats etc. Seems a huge waste of money!
 
skaif said:
Suppose I should engage with this thread!
New expectant dad here, due date is 20th Nov and today was the beginning of final trimester!
Pregnancy has been fine thus far with the missus just complaining of chronic back pain. Has got rather bad recently so been going to the chiropractor.

We went shopping recently for baby stuff and it shocked me at how expensive some of the stuff is. Do you really need 3 different types of prams (carry cot, normal seat, car seat) and 2 different car seats etc. Seems a huge waste of money!
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bloodiedathame said:
In short, no. Second hand is your friend when it comes to baby stuff.
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This man has it right.

I have one pram, and our car seat clips into the pram (with some cheap plastic adapters), and also clips into the car of course. Baby stuff goes for next to nothing second hand, but costs a bomb new. Just get the stuff you'll need for the first few months, and by then you'll have a good feel for what you do and don't need. Moses basket, loads of nappies and wipes, loads of little sleep suits/vests (again, accept donations with open arms as your mates will be desperate to shift theirs), loads of muslin squares, and formula (even if you plan on breast feeding as it doesn't always get going straight away if you end up having an emergency c section for instance). Car seat, cot and pram are the big ticket items, and all three can be had cheaply if you don't buy new.
 
if you think you have enough bibs and babygro's. Double them both.

I'd be wary of buying a second hand car seat unless you know it's provenance. If they've been in a accident there can be hidden damage making it substantially weaker while looking and feeling fine.
 
Devrij said:
This man has it right.

I have one pram, and our car seat clips into the pram (with some cheap plastic adapters), and also clips into the car of course. Baby stuff goes for next to nothing second hand, but costs a bomb new. Just get the stuff you'll need for the first few months, and by then you'll have a good feel for what you do and don't need. Moses basket, loads of nappies and wipes, loads of little sleep suits/vests (again, accept donations with open arms as your mates will be desperate to shift theirs), loads of muslin squares, and formula (even if you plan on breast feeding as it doesn't always get going straight away if you end up having an emergency c section for instance). Car seat, cot and pram are the big ticket items, and all three can be had cheaply if you don't buy new.
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These are sometimes refered to as a 'travel system' but iifc you're not supposed to put newborns in a carseat for more than an hour so not sure how it works for carseats in prams. Also we have 4 prams:( but hope to start getting rid of some of them next year, kids stuff takes up so much space.
 
theone8181 said:
These are sometimes refered to as a 'travel system' but iifc you're not supposed to put newborns in a carseat for more than an hour so not sure how it works for carseats in prams. Also we have 4 prams:( but hope to start getting rid of some of them next year, kids stuff takes up so much space.
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Yeah they get quite toasty in the car seats. It's more for when we need to pop into town to pick up a few bits and bobs it just means we can lift her out of the car and back in again without waking her. If we are going out for the day we bring the pram top which has better sun/rain protection and is comfier. In the house the pram doubles as a big moses basket since she outgrew that a while back.

4 prams! It must be like a motor pool in your house!
 
I have a near 4 year old and a 2.5 year old, both girls. And life is difficult and entertaining, its scary how quickly they grow up. Funny how at 3am when they are really little, it seems its never ending, but it does get a touch easier.

Only now are both my 2 sleeping through the night, so its been 4 plus years since i slept properly, but i wouldnt change it for the world (i dont always feel that way through).

On the topic of car seats, ive bought all mine secondhand over the years, having taken them apart for cleaning, I have no qualms whatsoever in buying second hand, a broken one is very easy to spot, theres not really much to them at all, a plastic base, some straps and some polystyrene.

Im just at the stage where i can take them to the park and actually have some fun, we even have meaning full conversations, and on occasion i have to be mad dad and tell them off!
 
My partner/wife of 10 years decided she preferred the other gender aand got involved with my gay (girl) friend .... Said girl was known for getting involved with married women, and it was tough at the time, but if there is one piece of advice I could give it's to be calm and civil and talk through everything and focus on the children, I have 2 sons and they are my world, was tough but we have a great routine now and the ex is fully out and settled with another girl friend of mine ..... Sounds messy but we are both happy now, I've remarried and have the boys every week and every other weekend, me and the ex get on fine and she's about to marry her girlfriend next year... Which is great as I'll only ever be the dad in this area :D

Have to focus on the positives :)
 
Parents of Multiples - Discussion thread

Are these sorts of threads allowed? I've got identical twin boys Alex and Lewis and they are almost 8 months old now.

Any other dads (or mums) on here that have multiples? Knowing now what I do, I'd buy you a pint if I was out with you. You need a medal to be a parent of multiples..... :D

The eldest twin has a hip problem and has a full body harness. Should be fine and he won't need the full body plaster cast they used to do a few years ago. Thank god.
 
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I got a 2.5 year old and 2 month old. Its tough but twins would be a whole different ball game. Saying that, the baby is often far easier than the toddler. Toddlers drive you insane: "I want X" , " Outside playhouse?", "I want go walkin", "I'm hungry", "Dirty hands, wash hands". Once they have their own opinion on how to dress, what to eat, when to eat, what to do, when to go to bed, whether to brush their teeth etc life be some a constant battle.
 
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