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Ian_Eb said:
Reminds me of my two.

At Nursery one morning...
  • Daughter: "My Mummy Hurts Me"
  • Me: Err...
  • Nursery (eventually): "How does Mummy hurt you?"
  • Daughter: "Sometimes she pulls my hair when she brushes it :-("
Also,
  • Daughter: "I played hide the sausage with daddy"
  • Me: ...
  • Nursery: ...
  • Daughter: "I hide the sausage under the pasta and then eat the pasta first"
On both occasions, I was expecting to get a knock on the door (if not just bundled in a police van!)
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Got a genuine lol from me.
 
justbeats said:
Dads with daughters, what are your experiences in public toileting, especially in the absence of a disabled/baby changing cubicle?

Have had a fee run-ins with angry mums/women saying I shouldn't be anywhere near the womens toilets, but instead should be taking my girls (now 4 and 6) to the mens. They expect me to walk my girls past a line of men standing in front of urinals, sometimes turning around prematurely before putting their maggots away, and then sitting them on a seat covered in ****. I am absolutely defiant that this is not acceptable and girls should go to girls toilets and me being near is an acceptable thing to do.

Opinons/experiences?

Cheers.
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I always take my 5 almost 6 year old daughter in the mens cubicle. Just hurry her past the urinals etc. Only ever had one guy say i should take her into the girls and he was swiftly told to mind his own business.

I wouldnt feel comfortable going in the girls, and i dont feel comfortable letting her go on her own so she comes with me and it’s essentially tough for anyone not happy with it lol. Plus you always hear storys that the girls bogs are worse than the mens!
 
justbeats said:
Dads with daughters, what are your experiences in public toileting, especially in the absence of a disabled/baby changing cubicle?

Have had a fee run-ins with angry mums/women saying I shouldn't be anywhere near the womens toilets, but instead should be taking my girls (now 4 and 6) to the mens. They expect me to walk my girls past a line of men standing in front of urinals, sometimes turning around prematurely before putting their maggots away, and then sitting them on a seat covered in ****. I am absolutely defiant that this is not acceptable and girls should go to girls toilets and me being near is an acceptable thing to do.

Opinons/experiences?

Cheers.
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I just take my 4yo in the mens. I’d never even considered using the ladies, not surprised you got grief.
 
Devrij said:
On another note, I'm considering getting the snip. Anyone here done it? Thoughts? Any regrets?
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I've had it done, last year (was 32). You get asked a few questions about if you really want to do it and that sort of thing. Wan't too bad, but did make me twinge when they stick a needle in your testicles. Also if you have it done, don't look down. I did and i now know what the pipes look like lol. Oh my other piece of advice is wear tight underwear for the first week, gravity is not your friend lol.
 
theone8181 said:
I've had it done, last year (was 32). You get asked a few questions about if you really want to do it and that sort of thing. Wan't too bad, but did make me twinge when they stick a needle in your testicles. Also if you have it done, don't look down. I did and i now know what the pipes look like lol. Oh my other piece of advice is wear tight underwear for the first week, gravity is not your friend lol.
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I'm toying with the idea. I only have the one child and am 33, but the wife and I are firmly in the "pretty sure another kid would kill us" and she's 45 so I was thinking about just going for it. She is actually not so on board in case something happened between us and I ended up wanting kids with another woman. Very considerate of her to consider the possibilities, but I'm pretty confident that one is enough. Unless something happened to my daughter, God forbid, I can't imagine having another regardless.

That "what if" mentality, and the fear of chronic pain that some people get (I remember the old thread on this a few years back filled with some horror stories) are the only thing holding me back really.
 
theone8181 said:
I've had it done, last year (was 32). You get asked a few questions about if you really want to do it and that sort of thing. Wan't too bad, but did make me twinge when they stick a needle in your testicles. Also if you have it done, don't look down. I did and i now know what the pipes look like lol. Oh my other piece of advice is wear tight underwear for the first week, gravity is not your friend lol.
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That pretty much matches up with my experience. Mild discomfort for a week or so and avoid heavy lifting and probably sports that involve jumping around a lot.
 
Got to say what's annoying is the shear lack of baby changing facilities for men. I've seen independent units rarely but on the women doors a few have changing table signs but there's nawt in the mens.

Not that it makes a difference since most of the time the public toilets are locked due to vandalism or plumbing issues. It's not uncommon for parents to park outside and then find out they have to let their child wee in the street.
 
To the person who suggested a white noise machine for my recently born little boy, thank you so much I bought one and its become the most amazing tool for helping calm him (and me)
 
AhhBisto said:
Got to say what's annoying is the shear lack of baby changing facilities for men. I've seen independent units rarely but on the women doors a few have changing table signs but there's nawt in the mens.

Not that it makes a difference since most of the time the public toilets are locked due to vandalism or plumbing issues. It's not uncommon for parents to park outside and then find out they have to let their child wee in the street.
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Luckily most wetherspoons have a disabled/baby changing toilet, the only annoyance with this is that you need to request the key from the bar which can be tricky when lots of people are ordering and you have a screaming/wiggly child, also disabled people tend to not be the fastest of movers
 
It's funny the things you notice when you have children.

I've never been a git with parking in parent and child spots before I was a parent but now more than ever do I realise how damned useful they are. The usual **** retort is "we got by in our day" or "why should you have more right over us without kids". Empathy, none! Sad people. But one day, I couldn't get into the car because it was so tight and I had to reverse the car out whilst the boy was left unnattended, in his pram, in the path of vehicles. Ridiculous really.

I've also noticed how geared towards mum everything is, like the baby change example above that @AhhBisto mentions. Products essentially named "mum and baby" or "for mums" and then baby groups that are exclusively for mums and not dad's leave me wondering what single dads do. Neither of it really effects me, I'm not upset or the least bit care (mums are heroes and should be lauded as such), it just makes me think, if it was the other way around...
 
RoboCod said:
It's funny the things you notice when you have children.

I've never been a git with parking in parent and child spots before I was a parent but now more than ever do I realise how damned useful they are. The usual **** retort is "we got by in our day" or "why should you have more right over us without kids". Empathy, none! Sad people. But one day, I couldn't get into the car because it was so tight and I had to reverse the car out whilst the boy was left unnattended, in his pram, in the path of vehicles. Ridiculous really.
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My partner is a blue badge holder, tbh with the state of parking and size of vehicles it doesn't really help. However it is hilarious watching the elderly tutting and inspecting the badge. Apparently you can only suffer from life limiting diseases at an old age and can't have a baby.

And don't get me started on the looks the bus driver gives her in priority seating.

And I agree, dads need more aimed towards them. A nice changing bag that fits comfortably on the back of a adult male would be nice!
 
Devrij said:
I take my 3yr old into the gents. I think at 6 I'd let her go into the ladies by herself and wait outside the door, but I'm not there yet so can't comment really.
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I wait at the door too, but apparently this seems unacceptable.

NoobCannon said:
I always take my 5 almost 6 year old daughter in the mens cubicle. Just hurry her past the urinals etc. Only ever had one guy say i should take her into the girls and he was swiftly told to mind his own business.

I wouldnt feel comfortable going in the girls, and i dont feel comfortable letting her go on her own so she comes with me and it’s essentially tough for anyone not happy with it lol. Plus you always hear storys that the girls bogs are worse than the mens!
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I think that's an old wives tale, the mens are the worst, unless someone can point out how a female can soak a seat and the floor so bad...

Minstadave said:
I just take my 4yo in the mens. I’d never even considered using the ladies, not surprised you got grief.
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I check there's nobody in there and wait by the door. Ladies toilets have private cubicles so I don't see the problem?

My most recent run-in saw a mum who took her little lad into the mens, and then made a complaint that I had taken my daughter into the ladies... Double standards, hence my annoyance...
 
Went to the hospital yesterday for an ECV. Wouldn't work, as she was bum down, legs up, and fully engaged in the OH's pelvis. So they booked a C-Sec in for the 22nd.

Got home from work at 2:30am and my missus was up, complaining she felt odd and kept needing the loo. By 6am she was on the phone to the hospital; turns out her waters had broken. We got to the hospital at 7:30am. But it was a bit of a hectic day for the staff there, so we had a long wait. Our daughter was born by C-Sec at 17:08 this evening. So happy as she's lovely and perfectly healthy :D Mum is doing alright too considering the surgery.

Time for some sleep :o
 
satchef1 said:
Went to the hospital yesterday for an ECV. Wouldn't work, as she was bum down, legs up, and fully engaged in the OH's pelvis. So they booked a C-Sec in for the 22nd.

Got home from work at 2:30am and my missus was up, complaining she felt odd and kept needing the loo. By 6am she was on the phone to the hospital; turns out her waters had broken. We got to the hospital at 7:30am. But it was a bit of a hectic day for the staff there, so we had a long wait. Our daughter was born by C-Sec at 17:08 this evening. So happy as she's lovely and perfectly healthy :D Mum is doing alright too considering the surgery.

Time for some sleep :o
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Congrats dude! My wife was up and about fairly quickly after her section, although sleeping was a nightmare for a couple weeks after. Not that you get much anyway! Hope your missus recovers quickly.
 
satchef1 said:
Went to the hospital yesterday for an ECV. Wouldn't work, as she was bum down, legs up, and fully engaged in the OH's pelvis. So they booked a C-Sec in for the 22nd.

Got home from work at 2:30am and my missus was up, complaining she felt odd and kept needing the loo. By 6am she was on the phone to the hospital; turns out her waters had broken. We got to the hospital at 7:30am. But it was a bit of a hectic day for the staff there, so we had a long wait. Our daughter was born by C-Sec at 17:08 this evening. So happy as she's lovely and perfectly healthy :D Mum is doing alright too considering the surgery.

Time for some sleep :o
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Massive congrats!
 
My twins were born in the early hours of this morning, boy at 1:30am and girl an hour later, girl was breach bum first, wife managed to have natural birth and avoided c section, but only after I made it clear there was no need, doctors love to give sections for the tiny risk like 2 % refused basically and within 5 minutes after they insisted she was born absolutely fine, wife was out of bed within 30 minutes ! 7 pound for the boy, 6 13 for the girl!
 
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