I don't see the issue with this. Unless it wasn't in the invite. What they earn isn't about how much spare money they have and that's not a large amount anyway.
I would feel so awkward asking my guests to pay for their own meal. If I received an invite, had RSVP'd and was then told I had to pay I probably wouldn't go tbh.
Oh and I've now been married a week![]()
It will be a small affair.
They spend a fortune on holidays.
It isn't about the money, it is the cheek that has annoyed me. They are both still employed and have cheap rent from a relative. Being hard up is not the reason, it is ignorance.
I think it says something about how they value their friends
I personally think that it says something about the friends who seem to have a strong sense of entitlement when going to someone else's wedding.
I think if they can't afford it they should have a smaller guest list. If they were genuinely hard up it would be different but either way it should have been in the original invite. To spring it on people after the invites have been sent out which also seems cheap skate to have used instant messaging, is just crass.
It's funny, you say it's not about the money yet the rest of your statement seems to indicate it is actually about the money.
If it weren't about the money, why mention the holidays, rent of employment status?