I think I found my problem.
It was neither Ram nor CPU but the GPU.
I switched my old gtx780 for a new gt1030 (still waiting for custom Navi cards) and so far no crashes even at 3600/1800 with 1.2V Dram.
I guess my 780 was beginning to die anyway and the OC added stress to the PCIe bus and that made the GPU crash even in a dedicated CPU benchmark.
It was neither Ram nor CPU but the GPU.
I switched my old gtx780 for a new gt1030 (still waiting for custom Navi cards) and so far no crashes even at 3600/1800 with 1.2V Dram.
I guess my 780 was beginning to die anyway and the OC added stress to the PCIe bus and that made the GPU crash even in a dedicated CPU benchmark.