Son excluded from school!

Marff · 13 Oct 2010 at 21:30

Home education is alright i suppose but i does have it's downsides. When i started college it became apparent that my social life compared to other people (who went to school) was non-existent. I came out of home education with 0 qualifications, this made my education situaution a little more difficult. So if you were to go down the route i'd consider the social skills aspect. He can get gcse's like a normal student so that's not really a problem.

Tefal · 13 Oct 2010 at 21:31

jon.bda said:
Nope, has he got kids?

4:30 onwards tbh.

Skeptic · 13 Oct 2010 at 21:32

jon.bda said:
Nope, calm your temper dear. My eldest hit back once, kept it all in for a while but hey. He flattened the bully once, and once only. He got loads of detentions, but...he never got bullied again.

Wow, great, so now he thinks that the best way to deal with problems is to be physically violent? Is that good? Was it successful? What about his record now, who's the bully? The one that's taken the violence to another level? Etc etc

I'm playing devils advocate, of course, but once again, there are many perspectives to a situation and its not all cut and dry.

Now, do you think we can leave it there? Some good advise has been given in the thread, op will either take it or leave it, end of?

jon.bda · 13 Oct 2010 at 21:34

Freefaller said:
Can you drop it please matey?

Not a problem with me mate, i offered advice, i think due to what my wife does for a living, i CAN offer advice...plus a bit from me...

Uther · 13 Oct 2010 at 21:35

I think its extremely odd for him to be excluded for a 'minor incident',but that is what appears to have happened! He turned down a place at a grammar school to go to this school,as he liked the place so much.
As for all the 'there must be more to it' responses,we shall see on Friday,but I believe my son much more than the new supply teacher who was in charge when it happened!
As said,the exclusion can not be overturned.The best we can hope for is a note from the governors in his record.We WILL take it that far.

jon.bda · 13 Oct 2010 at 21:37

fus said:
Wow, great, so now he thinks that the best way to deal with problems is to be physically violent? Is that good? Was it successful? What about his record now, who's the bully? The one that's taken the violence to another level? Etc etc

I'm playing devils advocate, of course, but once again, there are many perspectives to a situation and its not all cut and dry.

Now, do you think we can leave it there? Some good advise has been given in the thread, op will either take it or leave it, end of?

That was a couple of years ago, never got bullied again, got very good grades in his gcses when he left this year thank you. But ffs can we please just get back on topic here...

Tefal · 13 Oct 2010 at 21:39

jon.bda said:
But ffs can we please just get back on topic here...

it was on topic till you dragged it off ranting on about people having BMW logos in their sigs.

Skeptic · 13 Oct 2010 at 21:39

Uther said:
I think its extremely odd for him to be excluded for a 'minor incident',but that is what appears to have happened! He turned down a place at a grammar school to go to this school,as he liked the place so much.
As for all the 'there must be more to it' responses,we shall see on Friday,but I believe my son much more than the new supply teacher who was in charge when it happened!
As said,the exclusion can not be overturned.The best we can hope for is a note from the governors in his record.We WILL take it that far.

No point in getting a note from governors, will not affect anything. Also, the head will have to agree to an exclusion, so the supply will not be responsible.

It may be a case of the straw that broke the camels back, wait until you now more, and then more advice can be given.

RDM · 13 Oct 2010 at 21:40

Uther said:
As for all the 'there must be more to it' responses,we shall see on Friday,but I believe my son much more than the new supply teacher who was in charge when it happened!

Just make sure you don't go off half cocked, it is still quite possible that there is more to it than you know and that your son may not be telling the whole truth.

Skeptic · 13 Oct 2010 at 21:41

jon.bda said:
That was a couple of years ago, never got bullied again, got very good grades in his gcses when he left this year thank you. But ffs can we please just get back on topic here...

I shall hold my tongue. I'm happy for him, and you.

Dave M · 13 Oct 2010 at 21:44

jon.bda said:
Nope, has he got kids?

Some people would say he is one

I don't see what changing nappies has to do with knowing kids lie - unless you're telling us you, as a parent, can tell?

Because that's rubbish.

Dave M · 13 Oct 2010 at 21:45

Tefal said:
4:30 onwards tbh.

Excellent youtubing - I saw the same thing a few weeks ago but couldn't remember who it was

jon.bda · 13 Oct 2010 at 21:49

Telescopi said:
Some people would say he is one

I don't see what changing nappies has to do with knowing kids lie - unless you're telling us you, as a parent, can tell?

Because that's rubbish.

My kids don't lie, they have something to say, they say it,, they want something they ask for it. We've bought them up better than to think that lying will get them what they want. How hard is it for people to believe that kids can be good kids?, its no wonder teens are so misunderstood.

Uther · 13 Oct 2010 at 21:50

RDM said:
Just make sure you don't go off half cocked, it is still quite possible that there is more to it than you know and that your son may not be telling the whole truth.

True,hopefully we will know the reason on Friday at the meeting.Seems more than a bit harsh for a first 'offense'.We have never been contacted by the school about his behaviour,and he always gets glowing reports off all his teachers.Just really disappointed right now.He's gutted.

RDM · 13 Oct 2010 at 21:51

jon.bda said:
My kids don't lie, they have something to say, they say it,, they want something they ask for it. We've bought them up better than to think that lying will get them what they want. How hard is it for people to believe that kids can be good kids?, its no wonder teens are so misunderstood.

Because even good kids, on occassion, lie to their parents?

Strife212 · 13 Oct 2010 at 21:52

Exclusion is taken very seriously by schools and is a last resort.

I was excluded for a day because someone stole a memory stick with everyones school records on (some really dodgy stuff was on there), and he sent me a copy. I then sent someone else their entry, which is what got me in trouble ._.

They seriously went crazy. To be honest, I don't think they should have left such data lying around unencrypted on excel spreadsheets in the first place

Now that I'm older I actually think they were just trying to cover themselves to be honest.

Dave M · 13 Oct 2010 at 21:52

jon.bda said:
My kids don't lie

Everybody lies.

Are you saying you have never told a lie?

Xordium · 13 Oct 2010 at 21:53

See what they say. If it is a first offence then it sounds harsh if it is not then they should have contacted you about any other incidents.

oli356 · 13 Oct 2010 at 21:56

Telescopi said:
Everybody lies.

Are you saying you have never told a lie?

You're lying!

Haha, everyone lies - true

Some better than others..
Well everyone HAS lied. If they still do, is a different question.