Splitting Up with Misses

Rich_L said:
My advice to AthlonTom if he's gonna do it over the phone is simply don't leave any doors open, be blunt and honest and don't string it on with heart-felt chats for the next x months until you might see her, don't prolong the agony after the inital break-up by having long heart-felt chats, tell her it's over and you have nothing more to say. Make her realise there isn't a glimmer of an open door, the relationship is finished and there's no chance of getting back together - that way she won't waste months of her life hoping that you'll have a change of heart and come knocking on her door one day with flowers, which later down the line she may even come to appreciate.
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Sounds like a plan, she's an attractive girl from a wealthy family so I think she'll just start following up all the attention she gets when she goes out as opposed to ignoring it
 
AthlonTom said:
I agree - but how can I lie to her for a few months? How is that in anyway more "noble"?
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You don't you explain to her your not happy on the phone and she will probably get the right idea that it will be over when you get back.

KaHn
 
Is there no way you can make the trip to tell her within the week or so, spend an evening to go talk to her? What is it you do as a job, it sounds way harsh.
 
platypus said:
Hmm, can't say I'd want one of those, but whatever floats your boat :)
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When you drive a relatively slow nasty palsticcy company car all week, nothing beats getting in a sports car at the weekend :)

Lotus is for me as I grew up round them, my dad used to take factory finnished cars and get them stripped and modified ready for the track, and hopefully he'll let me swap cars with him once in a while for a weekend or so :)
 
Sounds like a plan, she's an attractive girl from a wealthy family so I think she'll just start following up all the attention she gets when she goes out as opposed to ignoring it
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Can I have her number? :p :D
 
Skyfall said:
Is there no way you can make the trip to tell her within the week or so, spend an evening to go talk to her? What is it you do as a job, it sounds way harsh.
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I'm a consultant - but I'm theres a reasonable amount of change taking place within the business, working really hard for the last few months to cope with the changes and win us extra business. If I wanted to I could just do 9-5 everyday but it just doesn't seem right to get a job like this straight from uni and them not throw yourslef at it. I'm not under pressure from my boss to do what I do, but I can do it - and it seems more productive than sitting in a hotel in my evenings anyway.
 
I think it's safe to say you can ignore a large portion of these do it to her face posts because they haven't paid any attention to the fact you're not going to see her.

I do think you could do with actually telling her exactly what you've posted here, and that all she does it make decisions for you, spend your money and so on.

Just tell her No and get a bit of a spine instead of just taking the easy way out and breaking up. You never know, this girl you apparantly love might change.....

On the other hand she might not, but if you love her like you say (I doubt it to be honest) then surely it's worth the effort?
 
Wardie said:
I think it's safe to say you can ignore a large portion of these do it to her face posts because they haven't paid any attention to the fact you're not going to see her.

I do think you could do with actually telling her exactly what you've posted here, and that all she does it make decisions for you, spend your money and so on.

Just tell her No and get a bit of a spine instead of just taking the easy way out and breaking up. You never know, this girl you apparantly love might change.....

On the other hand she might not, but if you love her like you say (I doubt it to be honest) then surely it's worth the effort?
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Shes been treated like this all of her life - I honestly don't think shes got it in her to change, most of her friends are posh and protencious (sp?!!) and exactly the same way - luckily they all hate me with a passion though (I look a bit scruffy and alternative).

The financial compromises we've made so far have taken a long while to even get her to put up with never mind like.
 
AthlonTom said:
Make sense or am I a selfish ****?
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Just bringing this up from awhile back, but I dont think you are at all, fair play in fact. You sound like you could feel allot happier and freedom will make you feel great, I was in very similar circumstances.

Good luck with it, I'v always been of the opinion that breaking someones heart is harder than having your own broken, but then im yet to experiance the latter.
 
AthlonTom said:
Shes been treated like this all of her life - I honestly don't think shes got it in her to change, most of her friends are posh and protencious (sp?!!) and exactly the same way - luckily they all hate me with a passion though (I look a bit scruffy and alternative).

The financial compromises we've made so far have taken a long while to even get her to put up with never mind like.
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Well just tell her that then, if she doesn't change/put up with them then that it is.

I do have to admit though, she does sound like an absolute pain in the arse. I'd be out of there.

Good luck tonight. Let us know?
 
Wardie said:
Well just tell her that then, if she doesn't change/put up with them then that it is.

I do have to admit though, she does sound like an absolute pain in the arse. I'd be out of there.

Good luck tonight. Let us know?
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I have - and this is why we have reached the current cross roads.

*Jimmy Carr On*
"Tom, were aproaching a crossroads in our relationship, down one road is pain and hardwork but ultimately happiness, down the other is seperation."

"I think you'll find thats a T-Junction darling"
*Jimmy Carr Off*
 
AthlonTom said:
When you drive a relatively slow nasty palsticcy company car all week, nothing beats getting in a sports car at the weekend :)

Lotus is for me as I grew up round them, my dad used to take factory finnished cars and get them stripped and modified ready for the track, and hopefully he'll let me swap cars with him once in a while for a weekend or so :)
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The Exige is great fun. I had one for a year or so and used to take it on track days to Snetterton. I've never driven a better handling car.

Ironically, I now have a live in girlfriend who costs a fair amount of money and thus I now drive a Golf!
 
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