**The Mental Health Thread**

MOOGLEYS said:
I can relate to the lack of positivity it just seems no matter what I achieve whilst dealing with Anxiety it all just feels a bit meh. I get good days where I can feel pretty normal whatever that is… lol. But when the anxiety is high usually for no reason I struggle to see anything positive and anything I usually enjoy just seems pointless.
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For sure. When mine is bad like it is now it seems to hook up with the depression that's deep down in me.

Anxiety creates fear. And fear paralyses me.
Then I stop doing things because "what's the point".. Basically the momentum I've been building up falls apart. And that deep negative side manifests.

In normal times (ie nothing going bad in life) I seem to recently be able to keep the momentum up. Especially when I make commitments. (ie signing up for a group walk). The last 12 months have been good following a very bad (family loss + the sadness it caused) 8 months.

But when one of these life events + anxiety attacks it's like my resistance to that deep depression breaks down.

I know from the past this weekend/week is likely to be the peak.

Work well suffer, diet will suffer, I'll stop socialising (both on apps and on person) I don't even know right now if I can mentally do anything this weekend like a walk or a kayak. But I also know if I don't.. I'll be even worse.

Such are the internal fights in my head.

I really hate my brain.

Just wanted to vent as not really something I want to burden anyone with at the moment.
 
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413x said:
For sure. When mine is bad like it is now it seems to hook up with the depression that's deep down in me.

Anxiety creates fear. And fear paralyses me.
Then I stop doing things because "what's the point".. Basically the momentum I've been building up falls apart. And that deep negative side manifests.

In normal times (ie nothing going bad in life) I seem to recently be able to keep the momentum up. Especially when I make commitments. (ie signing up for a group walk). The last 12 months have been good following a very bad (family loss + the sadness it caused) 8 months.

But when one of these life events + anxiety attacks it's like my resistance to that deep depression breaks down.

I know from the past this weekend/week is likely to be the peak.

Work well suffer, diet will suffer, I'll stop socialising (both on apps and on person) I don't even know right now if I can mentally do anything this weekend like a walk or a kayak. But I also know if I don't.. I'll be even worse.

Such are the internal fights in my head.

I really hate my brain.

Just wanted to vent as not really something I want to burden anyone with at the moment.
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It's not a burden at all. That's the idea really, sharing is healthy. I relate to all your points TBH. I think you generally have quite a high level of keeping active and being motivated. I spend most of my life between the "why bother" and "hard to get moving" zones. Momentum is part of it, but so is the flow I think:

I think for long term depression/depressive tendencies (and anxiety), we need to be mindful that it's a rhythm and there are good and bad periods. We develop coping skills and systems to keep the hard times shorter and less intense. But it's not always the case we can dispel them altogether. Recognising a bad patch and knowing it, is halfway to overcoming it and letting it pass.
 
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LuckyBenski said:
It's not a burden at all. That's the idea really, sharing is healthy. I relate to all your points TBH. I think you generally have quite a high level of keeping active and being motivated. I spend most of my life between the "why bother" and "hard to get moving" zones. Momentum is part of it, but so is the flow I think:

I think for long term depression/depressive tendencies (and anxiety), we need to be mindful that it's a rhythm and there are good and bad periods. We develop coping skills and systems to keep the hard times shorter and less intense. But it's not always the case we can dispel them altogether. Recognising a bad patch and knowing it, is halfway to overcoming it and letting it pass.
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I certainly try.
Half is because I enjoy it. Half is for mental health. (ie holding it back).

That last part is what I tell my mum (who has it so bad). There are good and bad periods and that's OK. Of course we want it to be "great" all the time. But can't beat yourself up about it.

Recently mine is very event driven. Day to day they're are ups and downs. But it doesn't control me. The event that has triggered this has overpowered that.

I'm hoping I can get something out of this weekend. But I'm aware it's going to be harder than recently to do that.


What you say about "hard to get moving" is all so true. It's too easy to not. Especially when have to get changed, drive, etc etc. The "what's the point" voice is always there. I try to counter it with "what's the point in not doing it?" and such things. As said, recently I've been winning. But this weekend.. We shall see


The mind is crazy. I envy people who don't have these burdens.
 
Ayahuasca said:
Yes, I often wonder what it must be like to live a life without any mental or physical health problems. That's why I'm often reluctant to take advice from those in that position.

Of course, everyone has moments of anxiety or low mood, but it's often for good reason.
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Yeah same. I genuinely don't think you can understand unless you've been there. Some things in life can't be understood first hand experience.

You'll always get someone who's says "cheer up".

Its made me more empathetic as well. You know not blaming an alcohol addict because they "can just stop drinking". No way I want to be like this. Just not as easy as choosing not to be sad.

Blessing and a curse having it in the family. Means everyone understands. But it also means we all have to deal with it.
 
Going through mental illness, being ill and then recovering, gave me new perspectives and behaviours on several things, it's one of the few positives to come from all of it. I'm a better person now I'm out of it but jesus I went through some **** to get here, shame it took that but it is what it is.
 
Tykey said:
Going through mental illness, being ill and then recovering, gave me new perspectives and behaviours on several things, it's one of the few positives to come from all of it. I'm a better person now I'm out of it but jesus I went through some **** to get here, shame it took that but it is what it is.
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Going through tough times, yeah there's nothing like coming out the other side. Make the most of time!
 
Still here but somehow stopped getting notifications for this thread :confused:

Doing fine but mood is heavily dependant on how tired I am. Too much physical activity seems to wipe me out for days at a time needing to nap a lot and sleep 12 - 14 hours a day which is just ugh. Then one day I'll wake up completely fine which is just irritating due to it's randomness. Still awaiting a competent doctor to work out what's wrong with me :cry:
 
First time poster here, i think? For several months i've tried to post something. I've just kinda dealt with things as i've always worked at trying to fix the problems and felt there was direction, but i think i've had enough now as i can't really figure it out. My goal was just to try and be not unhappy as that seemed the most plausible. I've had a few occurrences of just standing and staring into nothing now. I don't know who i'm supposed to talk to, or how really. There's more to say but that's where i don't end up posting, the amount of times i write something out and then just delete it.
 
The_Arbiter said:
First time poster here, i think? For several months i've tried to post something.
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Honestly fair play for posting - it takes a lot of balls to post in here, let alone admit that something is wrong.

The_Arbiter said:
I've just kinda dealt with things as i've always worked at trying to fix the problems and felt there was direction, but i think i've had enough now as i can't really figure it out.
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It works and works and works, until it doesn't (as you've found out). No shame in reaching out

The_Arbiter said:
My goal was just to try and be not unhappy as that seemed the most plausible. I've had a few occurrences of just standing and staring into nothing now. I don't know who i'm supposed to talk to, or how really.
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There is no right or wrong answer as to who to talk to, how or why. What works for one might not work for others.
If you've got family or friends who you can talk to it's normally best, but again speaking to impartial strangers (like on here) can also help.

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There's more to say but that's where i don't end up posting, the amount of times i write something out and then just delete it.
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There's no rush, just reply when you are ready.
 
My Anxiety is so up and down at the moment one minute I’m fine then I’m whacked with feeling horrible, intrusive thoughts and just feeling rough. I feel like I’m getting a cold of flu and then it can just go away.

I’m trying to slowly up my Escitalopram to see if it helps but that causes a whole new anxiety about meds it’s a tough race to try and win.

My advice to anyone suffering is to reach out and talk to someone. You can self refer to talking services which can be so helpful. Even chatting on here knowing you are not alone can help. This can be hard and if anyone struggles there are anonymous talk lines available that you can call to talk. Even a chat with your GP can be helpful.

I struggle quite a bit at times especially the intrusive thoughts they really hit me hard talking about it has really helped for me it’s still horrible but knowing I’m not alone has helped considerably.
 
Beans on toast Dave said:
Well today is pants. I've felt it coming for the last few days with initial anger and annoyance at everything. Now I've got no energy and want to sleep or just not be here anymore. I'm not interested in anything and just want to not exist anymore I'm craving somthing to take the pain away. Drugs/alcohol would only help in the very short term and it's been many years since I had any and I know I want to but won't as it will only get worse. Hate feeling like this
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Keep going mate it will pass keep reminding yourself of this and ride it out. Accept that you might feel **** for a bit and take it easy on yourself.
 
Beans on toast Dave said:
Well today is pants. I've felt it coming for the last few days with initial anger and annoyance at everything. Now I've got no energy and want to sleep or just not be here anymore. I'm not interested in anything and just want to not exist anymore I'm craving somthing to take the pain away. Drugs/alcohol would only help in the very short term and it's been many years since I had any and I know I want to but won't as it will only get worse. Hate feeling like this
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I can relate to this 100%, i could feel this coming for a few days now, (Nothing really wrong, but just a feeling of "meh") but yesterday afternoon, I just spiraled into depression, then the realization of having depression again made me feel worse. But worse than any of that is being like this around my kids and wife.
 
Wayne~ said:
Started visiting my local Andy's Man Club few months and must say it's a breath of fresh air. Not going to be the be all and end all to struggles but it's been helping no end. Highly recommend to anyone considering it.
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Plus one on this recommendation, I've just had a year off work with Depression and Anxiety and got into this club online as I wasn't brave enough to go to the face to face sessions. The group has really helped me over the last 6-9 months and together with the one to one counselling I've had, I'm proud to say that I'm back working in IT again (5 weeks in) with a great little team and feeling more confident than I have in years. I know the issues don't go away but I can deal with it better than before.
 
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khevolution said:
I can relate to this 100%, i could feel this coming for a few days now, (Nothing really wrong, but just a feeling of "meh") but yesterday afternoon, I just spiraled into depression, then the realization of having depression again made me feel worse. But worse than any of that is being like this around my kids and wife.
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I feel like this today just feel very meh and down which makes my intrusive thoughts worse. No reason other than had a good few days. Just riding the rollercoaster that is mental health.
 
Ive seen a few people recommend Andy's Man club and it does sound like something that could help me but unfortunatly it seems to be mainly based in the north, does anybody know of something similar for people down in the south of the country. Ive done CBT which i was refered to by the doctor, which did help more than i thought it would but now that has finished, when i am feeling low i dont really know where to turn to.
 
khevolution said:
Ive seen a few people recommend Andy's Man club and it does sound like something that could help me but unfortunatly it seems to be mainly based in the north, does anybody know of something similar for people down in the south of the country. Ive done CBT which i was refered to by the doctor, which did help more than i thought it would but now that has finished, when i am feeling low i dont really know where to turn to.
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They've often got different names e.g. mens shed, etc etc. I have a local one that's often mentioned in my neighbourhood Facebook group. Don't know if you use FB but it can be useful for local stuff.
 
khevolution said:
Ive seen a few people recommend Andy's Man club and it does sound like something that could help me but unfortunatly it seems to be mainly based in the north, does anybody know of something similar for people down in the south of the country. Ive done CBT which i was refered to by the doctor, which did help more than i thought it would but now that has finished, when i am feeling low i dont really know where to turn to.
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It’s worth contacting mind they usually have details of local groups and meet ups in your area.

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