**The Mental Health Thread**

ForTheQuestions said:
Yes I've been on 3 different meds, as for the reclusiveness it's more that it just build up over time. It wasn't any reason, it's I just stopped going out and then after awhile that just became the norm.
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So absolutely no issues before then such as problems socialising, issues with mood and focusing on things? Did you have any ambitions for a career etc?

If it’s genuinely treatment resistant then it could be something else at play like neurodivergence.
 
Ayahuasca said:
So absolutely no issues before then such as problems socialising, issues with mood and focusing on things? Did you have any ambitions for a career etc?

If it’s genuinely treatment resistant then it could be something else at play like neurodivergence.
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I didn't have issues socialising when I was younger but now I almost feel like I can't as I haven't done anything for so long I don't know how to socialise or interact with people as I feel like I have nothing to offer. As for the career route, I've never really known what I've wanted to do.
 
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ForTheQuestions said:
I didn't have issues socialising when I was younger but now I almost feel like I can't as I haven't done anything for so long I don't know how to socialise or interact with people as I feel like I have nothing to offer. As for the career route, I've never really known what I've wanted to do.
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Oof, career wise I know that feeling!

That said just by posting here and talking about how you feel is a HUGE step and I'm proud of you for doing it! :)

See what the doctor can do for you but demand action - if you don't feel like you're being listened to on Wednesday insist on seeing another doctor, ideally there and then.

As for socialising it can be so tough when you feel that way and I'm still struggling with that myself these days. I've found a few online communities that have helped me however which has been a great outlet.

I genuinely hope the best for you going forwards :)
 
Psymonkee said:
That said just by posting here and talking about how you feel is a HUGE step and I'm proud of you for doing it! :)
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Thank you. I genuinely appreciate that.

Psymonkee said:
See what the doctor can do for you but demand action - if you don't feel like you're being listened to on Wednesday insist on seeing another doctor, ideally there and then
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I will as I'm really starting to feel that there's only one way to make feeling like this stop.

Psymonkee said:
As for socialising it can be so tough when you feel that way and I'm still struggling with that myself these days. I've found a few online communities that have helped me however which has been a great outlet.
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If you don't mind me asking, what type of communities (e.g local or just things your interested in)? as it's been that long since I've socialised with anyone other my family I don't even know where to start.
 
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ForTheQuestions said:
Thank you. I genuinely appreciate that.


I will as I'm really starting to feel that there's only one way to make feeling like this stop.


If you don't mind me asking, what type of communities (e.g local or just things your interested in)? as it's been that long since I've socialised with anyone other my family I don't even know where to start.
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Prior to Covid I was attending local board game and D&D game nights and with the power of technology you can still play these online even when trapped (by force/choice/circumstance) in your house :)

Luckily I've met some great people that way who have been very supportive.

ForTheQuestions said:
I will as I'm really starting to feel that there's only one way to make feeling like this stop.
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Don't give into those kind of thoughts, please. Still lots of life to experience :)

(I wouldn't recommend my method either though!)

I had similar with approaching my GP saying these meds weren't working for me and they said to increase them again. I strongly disagreed so instead stopped cold turkey. Was it a good idea? Hard to say but it's not medically recommended
 
Bad day today feel awful just worrying about everything. Worrying upping my meds a small amount has made things worse. Just cannot relax today need to be constantly doing things or I feel awful. Feelings of cannot cope anymore are strong today. Bloody Anxiety I hate the way it just hits you like a train. Need to push through today and see what tomorrow brings.
 
ForTheQuestions said:
Thank you. I genuinely appreciate that.


I will as I'm really starting to feel that there's only one way to make feeling like this stop.


If you don't mind me asking, what type of communities (e.g local or just things your interested in)? as it's been that long since I've socialised with anyone other my family I don't even know where to start.
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Try contacting your local Andy man’s club they can help you find groups that you can go too they also do online stuff too.

Andy's Man Club | #ITSOKAYTOTALK

ANDYSMANCLUB are a men’s suicide prevention charity, offering free-to-attend peer-to-peer support groups across the United Kingdom and online.
andysmanclub.co.uk andysmanclub.co.uk

Also your local Mind can help with activity groups in your area. Meeting up with others and having a brew and a chat whilst doing something productive. They can also help with Mental health support too.

Using this tool

www.mind.org.uk www.mind.org.uk
 
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Running on fumes. Coming to the end of another deployment with the end in sight. I've only spent about 2 weeks at home since Christmas. People will no doubt want to make plans for me when I get back which i appreciate, though is it bad I just want to drink a bottle of beer in my back garden and just listen to my records and take a week or so to unwind?
 
KiwiTaff said:
though is it bad I just want to drink a bottle of beer in my back garden and just listen to my records and take a week or so to unwind?
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Absolutely not - even the best of us sometimes just want to have a lazy day or two. There's so much pressure in life these days both physical and mental, that you need to take time to decompress.
Just talk to those you need to and explain how you're feeling - if you don't at least try and talk then it's impossible for anyone to try and understand
 
ForTheQuestions said:
I don't find joy in anything I do, and just feel like everything is pointless and won't ever get better. I just don't know what to do.
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ForTheQuestions said:
As for the isolation it just something that happened over time, there isn't any particular reason why I stopped going out, I just did. I did recently go for a walk, but everything just feels like I'm on "autopilot"/"light are on, but no one's home" I don't take anything in.

And tbh I can't even remember the last time I enjoyed doing anything.
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Has this all always been the case? Has it been more progressive, always there, or you've just realised it?
Speaking out is a huge step, so huge respect for posting :)
 
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Feeling ok, reason I'm posting is I've been to the depths with my mental health and resurfaced, I've just gained my first job in 14 years which I was nervous about, this weekend I did my 1st shifts and I think I can stick it, I coped with it. It's only a part time cleaning job so very unglamorous but the people are ok and it's a nice place to work. I'm a very average person, don't give up, when you're at rock bottom you can get better, believe it can happen.
 
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MOOGLEYS said:
Try contacting your local Andy man’s club they can help you find groups that you can go too they also do online stuff too.

Andy's Man Club | #ITSOKAYTOTALK

ANDYSMANCLUB are a men’s suicide prevention charity, offering free-to-attend peer-to-peer support groups across the United Kingdom and online.
andysmanclub.co.uk andysmanclub.co.uk

Also your local Mind can help with activity groups in your area. Meeting up with others and having a brew and a chat whilst doing something productive. They can also help with Mental health support too.

Using this tool

www.mind.org.uk www.mind.org.uk
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Thank you for this. I'm definitely going to make myself go just to be around other people.

Psymonkee said:
Prior to Covid I was attending local board game and D&D game nights and with the power of technology you can still play these online even when trapped (by force/choice/circumstance) in your house :)

Luckily I've met some great people that way who have been very supportive.
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I think that's why I've been feeling so unhappy, as tbh I've realised that I feel lonely as I don't interact with anyone outside my family. I'm definitely going to make myself to start going places and interacting with other people.

Psymonkee said:
Don't give into those kind of thoughts, please. Still lots of life to experience :)
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I'm really trying not to, that's really one of the reasons I posted as I just feel hopeless. So I'm trying anything to stop thinking that way.

The_Arbiter said:
Has this all always been the case? Has it been more progressive, always there, or you've just realised it?
Speaking out is a huge step, so huge respect for posting :)
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It's been progressive and I never really noticed it, then when I did I just kept waiting believing it would eventually get better on its own.

I think the reason is recently my parents went down to see other family members (I'm still living at home) and that's when it hit me how empty my life is and how lonely I am. It felt like I'd fallen off a cliff and it now seems like it's impossible to try and get back up.

RxR said:
There are effective treatments for (drug) treatment-resistant depression. Asking your GP for a referral to a psychiatrist is necessary to get access to those treatments. Or go to A&E and tell them the state of your thinking.
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I'm certainly going to ask my GP if they can refer me onwards.


I appreciate the replies, it just makes me feels a little bit better been able to write down how I feel.
 
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ForTheQuestions said:
. I'm definitely going to make myself to start going places and interacting with other people.
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Definitely do. Nobody can say if that's a quick fix, the exact fix, or only part of the issue. But from what you say, it does appear it could be a good way to get yourself moving in the right direction, which could spark the enthusiasm needed to go enjoy other things again, or find new interests or meaning. Start slow if you have to as well :)
 
I haven't posted here on the forums often, but I needed an outlet. Sorry.

My mum died yesterday and I am struggling hugely, the world feels so very empty today.

I'm 38, but have always been a bit of a mummy's boy. I live abroad and she has suffered with arthritis for many years, and in the last 6 months became increasingly unwell and suffered from a terrible health system (Jersey). We spoke practically every day via iMessage in recent years, it leaves a huge hole in my life.

It was a very distressing experience that I keep playing over in my head. Her last day in ICU was particularly hard. She was unable to speak properly, mostly mumbling, but the things she did say were very hard to hear as you she neared the end. "I want my mum" (she was 66, her mother is 93) early in the day, before getting progressively more desperate with "help me" and eventually "let me go, please". I can't stop replaying that last one in my head. My family and I decided to end the treatment and attempts to reverse course, and give her her wish. Those last moments watching her last gasps of air are going to haunt me for the rest of my life.
 
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