Are you male? female? where do you live?
The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread
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Are you male? female? where do you live?
Don't get yourselves down guys, here's a little bit of a perk me up!
One of the guys at work has been in a relationship with a girl for 5+yrs. He's now living up here and she is in London and in general was getting a bit fed up of her, hardly saw her and she was very up and down. He broke up with her as he left port on a boat for 3 weeks then met up with her when he got back to do it properly.
Since then he's been closer to his mates, been out more, had some action with girls up here and on a trip to Berlin at the weekend had one of his best nights ever! On an organised pub crawl with the 4 mates, 6 Finnish guys turned up along with a few Americans and the host pretty much said 'don't worry about paying, it seems to be a dud with no girls'. At that moment 10 ladies come in asking if this is the right place for the pub crawl..... 10.... Norwegian... Air Hostesses.....!!!! Plenty happened, not for OcUK
Man up, get out there, meet people and have some fun doing whatever the hell you want to!
One of the guys at work has been in a relationship with a girl for 5+yrs. He's now living up here and she is in London and in general was getting a bit fed up of her, hardly saw her and she was very up and down. He broke up with her as he left port on a boat for 3 weeks then met up with her when he got back to do it properly.
Since then he's been closer to his mates, been out more, had some action with girls up here and on a trip to Berlin at the weekend had one of his best nights ever! On an organised pub crawl with the 4 mates, 6 Finnish guys turned up along with a few Americans and the host pretty much said 'don't worry about paying, it seems to be a dud with no girls'. At that moment 10 ladies come in asking if this is the right place for the pub crawl..... 10.... Norwegian... Air Hostesses.....!!!! Plenty happened, not for OcUK
Man up, get out there, meet people and have some fun doing whatever the hell you want to!
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This, this, this. You are not a special *********, you are not the exception to the rule and you WILL make things harder on yourself if you do not distance yourself so that you can heal properly.
Just as somethibng to ponder for those who have been dumped : why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you anymore?
I've not had a serious relationship in over 4 years. Beat that!Me either! Not even kissed a bloke for a year now!
I've not had a serious relationship in over 4 years. Beat that!
If you're independent as a person then it's not really a problem. Similar situation for me but I always keep myself so busy that I hadn't realised it'd been that long (I just checked the date on some old photos to make sure I wasn't going mad!) Blimey.
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Yep I'd say I'm an independent person. Perhaps too independent, that's probably the reason why I'm still single and also because of my 'take it or leave it' attitudeIf you're independent as a person then it's not really a problem. Similar situation for me but I always keep myself so busy that I hadn't realised it'd been that long (I just checked the date on some old photos to make sure I wasn't going mad!) Blimey.
It doesn't seem that long for me either. I'm kept busy with work (probs a bad thing!) and my short attention span kinda means I'm always finding things to do to
I can't remember when I was last 'bored' and I don't feel lonely or anything. I think I'm getting too used to my single life... Yep I'd say I'm an independent person. Perhaps too independent, that's probably the reason why I'm still single and also because of my 'take it or leave it' attitude
It doesn't seem that long for me either. I'm kept busy with work (probs a bad thing!) and my short attention span kinda means I'm always finding things to do to
Exactly my viewpoint. I like my life how it is, which I know is bad. If I had a regular supply of special cuddles, I wouldn't want to change my way of life. Most of the time I feel that way anyway. There are times i'd like someone around.
I've not had a serious relationship in over 4 years. Beat that!
10 years next september.
We have a winner.
Winning sucks big time.
INDEPENDENT WOMEN!
/Destiny's Child
*high five!*
Aw10 years next september.
Well if this makes you feel any better... I'm almost halfway to 10 years next May!
INDEPENDENT WOMEN!
/Destiny's Child
*high five!*
Aw
Well if this makes you feel any better... I'm almost halfway to 10 years next May!
1 thing would make me feel better, a decent woman to come along and think, mhmmm i think that guy would be worth the effort. It's not likely to happen in this lifetime though lol
It's weird how reading this thread actually makes you feel better. Maybe it's partly the realisation that you're not the only one who's in this situation (nearly all my friends are partnered up/married now, which having just broken up with a long term partner - makes things feel daunting).
That said, I'm still finding myself unable to move on yet, we are still living in the same house and this is not going to change until January (which is know is not helping, even if it does appear to in some weird way....). I'm utterly dreading christmas, and I fear that the worse is yet to come when she actually moves out.
However, I am finding myself beginning to see more clearly the bad times, and that maybe I have not been feeling great about the relationship for quite a while, which is progress I guess.
That said, I'm still finding myself unable to move on yet, we are still living in the same house and this is not going to change until January (which is know is not helping, even if it does appear to in some weird way....). I'm utterly dreading christmas, and I fear that the worse is yet to come when she actually moves out.
However, I am finding myself beginning to see more clearly the bad times, and that maybe I have not been feeling great about the relationship for quite a while, which is progress I guess.
^^ LOL!
There was an article on the bbc website a while back that may resonate with some: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-20219349
When many of your friends are partnered up, it can get really annoying how some of them start to express concern over you being single, as if you're some sort of dysfunctional leper.
There was an article on the bbc website a while back that may resonate with some: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-20219349
When many of your friends are partnered up, it can get really annoying how some of them start to express concern over you being single, as if you're some sort of dysfunctional leper.
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So true this is. Isn't it funny how it takes us a while to realise this ? It took me ages to get that in my head. Suddenly everything became easier once I worked that out (god knows why it takes so long though).
That for me hits the nail right on the head. For me personally I couldn't think of anything worse. Once January comes I suspect you will feel **** for a few weeks and then it will all come together and get easier.
Until then, keep your social calendar busy and cram as much in as you can.
^^ LOL!
There was an article on the bbc website a while back that may resonate with some: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-20219349
When many of your friends are partnered up, it can get really annoying how some of them start to express concern over you being single, as if you're some sort of dysfunctional leper.
Specifically:
Article said:
Sums it up!
This is why I sometimes dislike visiting certain friends and cousins that I grew up with because like clockwork every time we have a get together the questions start, "soooo what's going on with you...." or "when are you settling down...." - Yes, they're all married.
There are only so many times you can say that you have your own **** to deal with but as the writer says, no answer you give is a satisfying one
I blame Facebook, just because, like.
Oi, back off. Now.