The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread

Fuzz said:
OOh that sucks. :(
Something's wrong with mine at the mo as well. Maybe it's the weather or the alignment with Jupiter (in other words **** only knows what)
I've tried to write a post about it this morning but gave up. :(
She's virtually forgotten about me for the last three days. :( and the days leading up to that I've had to virtually restrain her to get a cuddle. But of course "nothing is wrong" when I ask. Driving me up the wall this weekend.
Three nights in a row "I'll text you when I get back" so I wait up til like one in the morning but the text never comes..
Next day at about lunch time I get a "U alright..." like she's trying to shift the blame to me or something.
So we've not seen each other since Wednesday and Saturday day time we text a bit and organise to meet at hers. Again, "I'll text you when I've finished work"
cue 10.30pm and I text her a bit of her type of text "Are you alright????"
Oh sorry.. **** day blah, finished late blah, fell asleep blah.... but she's in the car on her way to her mates house.
I lost my rag at that point :(
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:( Have you been together long? Ever experienced this with her before or is this something new?
 
knip said:
I've been missing cuddles lately
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i'm finding that too, dunno why but over last few months of the relationship simply cuddling and holding each other either in bed or when watching a film became immensely more satisfying and enjoyable.

now i miss it :(

hmm i wonder if this could be the start of a new thing, cuddle buddies! :p
 
Tefal said:
i'm finding that too, dunno why but over last few months of the relationship simply cuddling and holding each other either in bed or when watching a film became immensely more satisfying and enjoyable.

now i miss it :(

hmm i wonder if this could be the start of a new thing, cuddle buddies! :p
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Haha, sounds like a plan, its not something people generally do just because, not proper arms wrapped round squeezing tight cuddles that make you feel safe anyway.

Maybe that's just a girl thing :)
 
Clov!s said:
:( Have you been together long? Ever experienced this with her before or is this something new?
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We got together at the end of September.
Nope, we've pretty much (bar one night here and there) spent every evening/night together until this week where she's gone out to a couple of Winter functions and not got back until late. (i.e too late to go round)
 
knip said:
Haha, sounds like a plan, its not something people generally do just because, not proper arms wrapped round squeezing tight cuddles that make you feel safe anyway.

Maybe that's just a girl thing :)
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Deffo not a girl thing! New GF went back home to Oz 2 weeks ago and miss chilling in bed watching a film and cuddling more than anything, and cuddles in the morning before getting up :(
 
knip said:
Haha, sounds like a plan, its not something people generally do just because, not proper arms wrapped round squeezing tight cuddles that make you feel safe anyway.

Maybe that's just a girl thing :)
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I'm not a girl :o

But from the other side of it, there's something basely satisfying from having someone wrapped in you're arms and seeing the contented smile on their face and knowing they feel safe and happy there, as girly as it sounds it makes you feel quite manly knowing you have that effect on the person you're holding.

Also they're so warm and cuddly it's like having a giant kitten to hold :D
 
Fuzz said:
We got together at the end of September.
Nope, we've pretty much (bar one night here and there) spent every evening/night together until this week where she's gone out to a couple of Winter functions and not got back until late. (i.e too late to go round)
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Maybe its just work related stress? Give her some time, im sure she will be back to normal :)
 
I'm sat here waiting again as I type..
She went to her Nans for lunch.
Estimated time of departure 19.45 and a "I'll text you when I leave"
Thumb twiddling has commenced. :(
 
Fuzz said:
I'm sat here waiting again as I type..
She went to her Nans for lunch.
Estimated time of departure 19.45 and a "I'll text you when I leave"
Thumb twiddling has commenced. :(
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Why are you "waiting"

Maybe she's picking up on the slight edge of desperation and thats frightening her off.

What would you be doing if you weren't "waiting"

Go have a life, she wants you to remember who you were, before you two were "us"

Seriously, put the phone down, go and do something to take your mind off it, so that when you do see her, you have something to talk about instead of just "where were you?"

If it doesn't work out, she wasn't right for you, stop putting all your hopes on her, she's picking up on it, and running away. :)
 
knip said:
Why are you "waiting"

Maybe she's picking up on the slight edge of desperation and thats frightening her off.

What would you be doing if you weren't "waiting"

Go have a life, she wants you to remember who you were, before you two were "us"

Seriously, put the phone down, go and do something to take your mind off it, so that when you do see her, you have something to talk about instead of just "where were you?"

If it doesn't work out, she wasn't right for you, stop putting all your hopes on her, she's picking up on it, and running away. :)
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I'm waiting because we've organised to see each other after she got back from dinner. It's something planned, I'm not just randomly waiting on the off chance
I've finished the jobs I had to do, I've showered and had dinner, exactly what I said to her I'd be doing so that I'd be ready in time.
 
Fuzz said:
I'm waiting because we've organised to see each other after she got back from dinner. It's something planned, I'm not just randomly waiting on the off chance
I've finished the jobs I had to do, I've showered and had dinner, exactly what I said to her I'd be doing so that I'd be ready in time.
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Sorry, I wasn't trying to be mean, really I wasn't.

Just it annoys me when people forget who they are when they get in a relationship.

If you've planned it, then that's a different story, did she say she would be coming round, or did you ask and she just agreed?

:)
 
Fuzz said:
I'm waiting because we've organised to see each other after she got back from dinner. It's something planned, I'm not just randomly waiting on the off chance
I've finished the jobs I had to do, I've showered and had dinner, exactly what I said to her I'd be doing so that I'd be ready in time.
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I'd maybe re-evaluate how you'd like to be treated in a relationship and where your boundaries are when it comes to letting stuff slide.

Fair enough as Knip says you shouldn't be overwhelming her, but if you make plans and she doesn't follow through or even bother a decent explanation then I can't see that being a decent person to be with in the long run.
 
knip said:
Sorry, I wasn't trying to be mean, really I wasn't.

Just it annoys me when people forget who they are when they get in a relationship.

If you've planned it, then that's a different story, did she say she would be coming round, or did you ask and she just agreed?

:)
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I quote..
"If you'd like me to come round when you're back from Nans let me know"

To which I got "OK leaving around 7 but take that as 45 mins past, will let you know when I'm leaving"

I don't think that sounded too over the top of a question
 
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