Am I being a penis?
Have been in touch with my ex on and off since we split up 4 months ago. For 3 months I was feeling extremely low and actively trying to win her back, she saw the worst side of me, my depression was in full swing, and although I got back into shape I certainly wasn't somebody that a sane person would consider dating.
A month ago I went on holiday for 3 weeks with the boys. It was great, it was everything that I needed and it pulled me out the slump that I was in. I felt good about myself for the first time in ages, I was getting attention from women, I realised that there is no reason I'm going to end up alone which was one of the things that was filling me with doubt before I went away. I made a decision while I was out there that I would cut ties for good (or at least for a long time!) with the ex. I still care about her, she still cares about me, but neither of us could be what the other wanted us to be and it made no sense to keep torturing ourselves.
So saturday just gone I arranged to go for a meal with the ex to say goodbye. It was my birthday, it was something we'd had planned for a long time, we had a slap up meal, we got very drunk, and I told her that is was time to say goodbye. We had a last kiss and a cuddle, we said goodbye for good, it was hard but it was also the right step.
Sunday morning she sent me a text, and we had a chat over video call for a good 90 minutes. She said that she finally realised that she had lost me, and that nobody had ever treated her as well, she always thought we would work out, etc etc. Stupidly I arranged to go into London to meet her for a drink that night. We did, it was great, again we had a cuddle and talk turned to if we could make things work.
Somehow we are now going away to Bruges together in 4 weeks... not sure how that happened, but it did. Part of me really doesn't mind, we always have fun when we are together and some of that old spark is back, but I'm also having doubts... is she only acting this way because she has had her safety blanket pulled out from under her? Until now she always had me to fall back on, I'm not going to be that for her anymore, either we make it work as a couple or we are not in eachothers lives at all. Bruges is booked, but I'm having massive second thoughts as to if its a good idea and if she is just playing games.
Have I made a huge mistake?