The Online Dating Journey

nitram100 · 28 Jul 2021 at 16:11

I had a lot of luck with online dating personally, started using Tinder back in mid 2015.

Being in London it was very easy to meet people and I did make a few mates but also had a few short flings with girls from Poland, Italy, Iran, Uruguay and Greece.

I found the best way to do it was to chat for a week or so and then go do something fun, be confident and be the one who suggests things, I found the Tinder girls really liked assertiveness and a bit of confidence.

I never went on a restaurant date, I think they are rubbish for first meets. So I always went ice skating or bowling in central ldn, something a bit more 'fun' where you can relax a bit.

I always had much better luck when I said I wasn't really looking for a relationship or even one night stands, more of a pal to hang around with, which to be honest at the time I was just looking for more people to hang about with as a few of my mates had moved away from London.

I then met a hot Spanish NHS Nurse beginning of 2016. We met as friends and instantly clicked as it was clear we had very similair life goals and it also helped that we're both NHS Nurses, a few weeks into the mates thing she just went for it I guess she couldn't resist xD

Fast forward to the present day and we have been together over 5 years, travelled all over the world and have just been granted our Permanent Resident visas for Australia and moving in a few months.

Good luck gents

bainbridge · 28 Jul 2021 at 16:18

BallistixOnZ490 said:
No she wants neither.

Ahh I understand now, pass means she's not interested rather than the wannabe suitor passing her strict criteria!

TBH I don't think she'd like me, I'm obviously not on her level

Junglist · 28 Jul 2021 at 16:27

BallistixOnZ490 said:
Its your opinion that any such views or behaviour are 'terrible', and you seem to not take any issues with this friend of yours that has them.

You've no idea of what issues I take with him. I've actually called him out on his remarks many times when he's said things I'm not comfortable with.

Women nowadays make themselves objects on social media and only fans type sites.

Nonsense. They don't make themselves out to be objects. If they wish to do whatever they want to do on OnlyFans, that is their prerogative. That doesn't give people the right to treat them like meat.

If you were walking down the road and you happened to bump into a pornstar do you think because their trade is creating and selling adult content, it gives you a free right to touch them up or talk to them like a piece of meat?!

Don't blame men for viewing them as such when they choose to do this themselves.

No. I blame men, and I use that term loosely, for not being able to engage the organ between their ears and not act like some savage who thinks they can just drag a woman off to their cave.

It reads like you're one step away from uttering "She wore a dress, she was clearly gagging for it"

platinum87 · 28 Jul 2021 at 16:41

BallistixOnZ490 said:
Assuming that this is how it works anymore. I guess the entire problem is western dating culture. If you haven't had any negative experiences then you aren't going to have any such issues are you?

Whatever negative experiences you have had, are not negative to me, there is no need for you to actually write them out.

BallistixOnZ490 · 28 Jul 2021 at 16:47

Junglist said:
You've no idea of what issues I take with him. I've actually called him out on his remarks many times when he's said things I'm not comfortable with.

Nonsense. They don't make themselves out to be objects. If they wish to do whatever they want to do on OnlyFans, that is their prerogative. That doesn't give people the right to treat them like meat.

If you were walking down the road and you happened to bump into a pornstar do you think because their trade is creating and selling adult content, it gives you a free right to touch them up or talk to them like a piece of meat?!

No. I blame men, and I use that term loosely, for not being able to engage the organ between their ears and not act like some savage who thinks they can just drag a woman off to their cave.

It reads like you're one step away from uttering "She wore a dress, she was clearly gagging for it"

So basically you're just a simp. Women can do absolutely no wrong, never have, never will, its clearly always the man's fault.

If you don't have any issues with dating women, then maybe this thread isn't the right place for you to be in.

Junglist · 28 Jul 2021 at 17:03

BallistixOnZ490 said:
So basically you're just a simp. Women can do absolutely no wrong, never have, never will, its clearly always the man's fault.

If you don't have any issues with dating women, then maybe this thread isn't the right place for you to be in.

You're a very unusual person. Where have I said women can do no wrong?

It's an open forum, I can enter and post in whatever threads I see fit. If you don't like my opinion you're free to ignore or put me on your block list, I wont take it personally.

Tefal · 28 Jul 2021 at 17:09

BallistixOnZ490 said:
You'll find that people become like this AFTER the way they are treated by women.

Nah people become like this because they don't treat women like human beings in the first place so don't get treated how they wish in return.

These men seem to view women as well different to them.

Go out treat any woman you meet/fancy exactly as if she was one of your mates (sincerely, not as a trick) and shockingly you'll find they respond much more positively.

Or you know be bi, men are so laughably easy you can pull them just by pointing. But you do have to look pretty good for this to work with men, women require some personality you can pull a man with just looks. Heck you can be pretty average as long as your masc and "straight" you can pull without any effort as men will pursue you

Tefal · 28 Jul 2021 at 17:12

BallistixOnZ490 said:
Its astounding just how many of these there are:

Plain and fat women all the time!

It's almost certainly a bloke too mate.

BallistixOnZ490 · 28 Jul 2021 at 17:21

Tefal said:
Go out treat any woman you meet/fancy exactly as if she was one of your mates (sincerely, not as a trick) and shockingly you'll find they respond much more positively.

Too short, black and poor for that to work mate. Plenty enough videos out there showing in fact that this doesn't work, trying to simply greet a woman is all it takes to get you branded as a sex offender now.

Tefal · 28 Jul 2021 at 17:22

BallistixOnZ490 said:
Too short, black and poor for that to work mate. Plenty enough videos out there showing in fact that this doesn't work, trying to simply greet a woman is all it takes to get you branded as a sex offender now.

Wait your black!?

So you're on the freaking easy mode of dating and your still an incell!?

Jesus just how bad is it when you open your mouth?

Plenty enough videos out there showing in fact that this doesn't work, trying to simply greet a woman is all it takes to get you branded as a sex offender now.

Well yeah don't have your creepy mate film you, thought that was a given.

Bring that fetish in later if it's your thing

Junglist · 28 Jul 2021 at 17:24

Tefal said:
Wait your black!?

So you're on the freaking easy mode of dating and your still an incell!?

Jesus just how bad is it when you open your mouth?

Actually made me laugh out loud

BallistixOnZ490 · 28 Jul 2021 at 17:28

Tefal said:
Wait your black!?

So you're on the freaking easy mode of dating and your still an incell!?

Jesus just how bad is it when you open your mouth?

Well yeah don't have your creepy mate film you, thought that was a given.

Bring that fetish in later if it's your thing

Are you joking? No one of any race will date non whites on dating sites.

Freefaller · 28 Jul 2021 at 17:31

Wow modern dating is such a minefield! I don't have any comments to help the OP, I can't even begin to think what I'd put on a "profile"! I take it you're not someone that likes to go out and just talk to people OP?Or have any hobbies that involve spending time with groups of people?

Junglist · 28 Jul 2021 at 17:31

You talk such utter BS

I think this is a you thing as opposed to them not liking non whites. As @Tefal has pointed out black males have a very high success rate on dating sites. Flipping hell I met my partner on a Tinder and she burns if it's an overcast day.

BallistixOnZ490 · 28 Jul 2021 at 17:32

Junglist said:
You talk such utter BS

I think this is a you thing as opposed to them not liking non whites. As @Tefal has pointed out black males have a very high success rate on dating sites. Flipping hell I met my partner on a Tinder and she burns if it's an overcast day.

I'm not the right kind of black for that.

Ahleckz · 28 Jul 2021 at 17:35

BallistixOnZ490 said:
I'm not the right kind of black for that.

Still waiting for you to post your profile. You’re super quick to criticise and **** off women’s profiles. Why not post yours?

Junglist · 28 Jul 2021 at 17:36

And what is the 'right kind of black'?

Sounds like it's a confidence thing. You just seem to blame everything else but yourself.

Knowing who and what you are is one of the best things you can do when it comes to dating.

Potential partners can work out when someone is overcompensating and not being themselves. Being yourself is the best thing you can be when it comes to dating.

BallistixOnZ490 · 28 Jul 2021 at 17:37

Ahleckz said:
Still waiting for you to post your profile. You’re super quick to criticise and **** off women’s profiles. Why not post yours?

Because I don't have one?

The profiles I did post were found on meme sites fyi, I'm not personally targetting any women.

BallistixOnZ490 · 28 Jul 2021 at 17:37

Junglist said:
And what is the 'right kind of black'?

Sounds like it's a confidence thing. You just seem to blame everything else but yourself.

The type that isn't 50% asian maybe.

Also quite sure I blamed everything here on myself.

malachi · 28 Jul 2021 at 17:40

BallistixOnZ490 said:
Are you joking? No one of any race will date non whites on dating sites.

Erm....then you are doing it wrong then!

I am black myself, all the women I have met on dating sites apart from one (who was Turkish) all of them have been white. Im not saying I had it on easy mode, even my current girlfriend is white and I met her on Tinder!!! Of all places!!

But I keep my health and fitness in-check and that helps a lot!