The Rise of Lonely Single Straight Men

Young western men would rather spend their money on OnlyFans subscriptions in the hope of getting a slight bit of attention from some online prostitute who doesn't give a crap about them, instead of actually going out and talking to women in real life. It's crazy.
 
I think all the talk of dating apps basically highlights the major problem with society.
Dating apps.
As time goes on it seems to be the first port of call for everyone's search for romance/dogging whatever you call it.
Make people talk to each other again naturally not swiping away each other.
 
potatogate said:
It was something like:
28-32 (I was 37 at the time)
Healthy, physically and mentally
Open to idea of children
Financially sensible- not necessarily well-off, just not an outright idiot
Has at least a masters, preferably a doctorate
A caring and patient nature
Gets on with her family and has a decent group of friends.

On my side I knew I had to work on listening and be less selfish with my time. I also had to be more outgoing.

I just chatted with my wife. I think if Tinder had been about, that may have satisfied my immediate desires, but caused me long-term problems.
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So what did you have to settle for then? ;)
 
dave28 said:
i cant see how that is true.

Single woman with no kids, goes out to work full time just to have it robbed by rent, bills and council tax that she has to pay herself with no help.
Goes home to an empty home after work, has to cook for one and so on....

what i think happens now in modern times is that women in general have very high expectations of what man they want and are not interested in anything less so they end up in a hole where they are single with no kids and there are all these poor guys who are not wanted.
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Birth rate of the UK is boosted by immigrants who have different ideals
 
potatogate said:
It was something like:
28-32 (I was 37 at the time)
Healthy, physically and mentally
Open to idea of children
Financially sensible- not necessarily well-off, just not an outright idiot
Has at least a masters, preferably a doctorate
A caring and patient nature
Gets on with her family and has a decent group of friends.

On my side I knew I had to work on listening and be less selfish with my time. I also had to be more outgoing.

I just chatted with my wife. I think if Tinder had been about, that may have satisfied my immediate desires, but caused me long-term problems.
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Damn, you've just cut out 99.9999999% of women that are on dating apps
 
mufc802 said:
What is happening works best for corporations who can capitalize on paying lower salaries, and having more individuals to purchase things rather than as a family. I can only see this trend continuing.
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When I think back growing up through the 80s and 90s, everything was family advertised. Everything was advertised as big, for a family. TV shows, appliances, life things. Now everything from mid to late 2000s, everything is targetted as the individual. Things are smaller for single people. Even shopping channels are all full of tiny appliances for people living alone. You see more of that than family related stuff.
Efour said:
I think all the talk of dating apps basically highlights the major problem with society.
Dating apps.
As time goes on it seems to be the first port of call for everyone's search for romance/dogging whatever you call it.
Make people talk to each other again naturally not swiping away each other.
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I've been saying for years, the similarities that is happening to the 2009 film, Surrogates is frightening.
 
I had my one friends tell me, she doesnt regret having her kids but wish she waited abit longer. Instead of having her first child at 21. She is happily married, three kids all with the same guy she has been with since 18 years old. Shes now 37, found that werid instead of hearing the usual "dont have kids because they are hard work"

I guess I will find out one day, was meant to start a family next year but me and my ex broke up 2 months ago after being together for 2 years.

Interesting to see how will this play out for her as shes 34, that clock is ticking and she also wants kids.
 
My thought on why is not gendered but applies globally either way but it's on the one thing we all share, and it's the brain.

Which is the prevalence of mental illness, depression, anxiety, bipolar, mania etc not going to focus on personality disorders because they are prevalent too some far more socially accepted then others today. Disregarding personality disorders which I find just categorize people further then they are useful. There just is not good medications to treat such conditions because the science behind them have been misunderstood for 30+ years or more, this and the advent of social media in particular areas I would be pointing my finger at especially in younger Millennials and the generations above. People who suffer would be better off without it that's for sure.

Quite frankly the mental health situation in the US, and or UK, is not fit for purpose and has been inadequate for decades and it needs far more money invested into this area especially because the pharma situation is unclear, and people who suffer from conditions, can still be very valuable to society and they should not be abandoned.
 
Efour said:
Make people talk to each other again naturally not swiping away each other.
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Unfortunately that's never going to happen. As an human race we are lazy. Look at what are are surrounded by because of ease and convenience.

Netflix\Disney+\On demand TV - No need to leave your house to watch a film. Even a new releases.
Amazon Prime - No need to leave your house to shop
Kindle - No need to leave your house to buy books or visit the local library
GamePass\Steam\PSN - No need to leave your house to buy games and play with friends
Dating Apps - No need to leave your house, go to the club or bar to get sexual interaction.

Many things now can be done without leaving your sofa.

I was totally against dating apps until I moved to another country and covid locked down everything for nearly 2 years.

As someone earlier said, either adapt or die alone. I chose to adapt.
 
Efour said:
I think all the talk of dating apps basically highlights the major problem with society.
Dating apps.
As time goes on it seems to be the first port of call for everyone's search for romance/dogging whatever you call it.
Make people talk to each other again naturally not swiping away each other.
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Now now. If men start talking to stranger woman they may get done for harassment.

Honestly it's becoming more scary to approach woman day by day with all this me too movement
 
malachi said:
Nah, I have no problems approaching women and starting a conversation. But I dont do it in a creepy way.
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Creepy way is very subjective though. Say if you said how nice her dress looks, she may find it creepy. End of the day. It's down to the woman basically and many men are scared to approach em lol its not just the rejection that men need to worry about, but whether they will get done with harassment
 
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