The rise of OnlyFans

[413x]

OK, let me reframe.
If a woman I was interested in, got on with etc said she worked on OF, I wouldn't say "go away in not interested".

But if a girl put "OF" as her job on a dating site I'd probably not even see her as I'd filter her out.

 

[LuckyBenski]

Is it really hard to grasp that a woman that does porn for a living will most likely not share the same traits and priorities as a homemaker?

Disagree. This kind of work suits someone who doesn't want to be tied to a job 9-5 and prefers making their own hours around their personal life.

 

[sidimmu]

You'll waste too much time if you don't.

Completely agree with that and apologies if you thought I was saying you were judgemental, unsure if you would filter as such but yeah.
Filters are sensible but to again say that an OF girl cant be X due to Y is completely prejudice and a bit silly.

Seen your other reply, again you are filtering off of a prejudice, rather than knowledge of that person, but thats your choice.

Is it really hard to grasp that a woman that does porn for a living will most likely not share the same traits and priorities as a homemaker?

Hold up, "porn" as a topic is a different scenario completely.
Also, traits and priorities as a home maker, are you aware of the pornstars who are married and have home lives too or does that just not happen in your mind?
As stated above though, if it works for the home, family and relationship, whats the issue?
Are both adults, are both consenting, do both have a choice, if the answer is yes, whats the problem?

Oh its societal prejudice is the problem....

 

[NZXT30]

Disagree. This kind of work suits someone who doesn't want to be tied to a job 9-5 and prefers making their own hours around their personal life.

Imagine having to explain to your son what their mum did for a living before he finds out the painful way. Absolutely no way for me. I would rather date a cactus.

 

[sidimmu]

Imagine having to explain to your son what their mum did for a living before he finds out the painful way. Absolutely no way for me. I would rather date a cactus.

Considering that son will be bought up in an environment without judgement, he'll probably get over it, like how most regular humans do.

The kids will probably latch onto it as a form of "cool" parents eventually.

 

[LuckyBenski]

Imagine having to explain to your son what their mum did for a living before he finds out the painful way. Absolutely no way for me. I would rather date a cactus.

**** all to do with your prior comment I replied to though

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Is it really hard to grasp that a woman that does porn for a living will most likely not share the same traits and priorities as a homemaker?

 

[413x]

Completely agree with that and apologies if you thought I was saying you were judgemental, unsure if you would filter as such but yeah.
Filters are sensible but to again say that an OF girl cant be X due to Y is completely prejudice and a bit silly.

Seen your other reply, again you are filtering off of a prejudice, rather than knowledge of that person, but thats your choice.

Hold up, "porn" as a topic is a different scenario completely.
Also, traits and priorities as a home maker, are you aware of the pornstars who are married and have home lives too or does that just not happen in your mind?
As stated above though, if it works for the home, family and relationship, whats the issue?
Are both adults, are both consenting, do both have a choice, if the answer is yes, whats the problem?

Oh its societal prejudice is the problem....

But you have to filter. Because dating is such a waste of time anyway (it was fot me!)

You've still got to sift through all the time wasters etc outside of quantifiable on paper metrics.

I've never been on OF, and maybe I'm wrong, but it very much seems like it's mostly adult content.

 

[adam cool dude]

But yeah I wont ever judge someone for who they are, what they have done, experienced whatever whatever, thats not kind to do.
All humans, including the judgemental ones in here, come with baggage, history, ups, downs. To me, its part and parcel of being a human.

Yet you are judging me for my views. Gold.

I also see no issues with having a women as a friend who does Onlyfans as long as she doesn't want anything from me. My views however is that I would never date someone like that though. You can call me traditional/old fashioned or whatever but those are my views. Part of being in a strong and stable relationship is trust. If you view sex work not included in that then fair game but for myself I do not.

 

[Ayahuasca]

Imagine having to explain to your son what their mum did for a living before he finds out the painful way. Absolutely no way for me. I would rather date a cactus.

 

[Efour]

Is the long term partner you are currently with their mother or are have you split with their respective mother(s)? Or are they now all adult children living their own lives?

I only ask due to the way you have written what you have.

I was gonna ask the exact same thing buy thought a bit personal.

It's a really weird way to write it unless it means 3 kids 3 mums or the older kid thing.

Whatever I guess 3 adult kids at 38 would be a stretch no?

 

[fez]

But yeah I wont ever judge someone for who they are, what they have done, experienced whatever whatever, thats not kind to do.
All humans, including the judgemental ones in here, come with baggage, history, ups, downs. To me, its part and parcel of being a human.

I don't care what people want to do with their lives but fundamentally what they do does change my views on them and my potential relationship with them.

Would I date someone that did OF? Depends on the kind but it would certainly be a negative against them. Unless of course they wanted a toy boy which I could happily do. But then that would be a red flag if I was your choice of toy boy.

This is how humans work whether they like to admit it or not. Most well adjusted people don't care about things that don't really affect them but they will always have views and opinions when things to. We can talk as much as we like about how OF shouldn't be an issue for anyone in any way but it is.

I also find that many of the people who think themselves the most openminded are just judgemental towards different demographics. As is the modern way, they are happy to be judgemental towards those they deem to be "punching up" and see no issue with that.

 

[fez]

"Timmy, its time we sat down and talking about why you have a cactus for a mum. Cactus mum isn't your real mum."

 

[NZXT30]

Considering that son will be bought up in an environment without judgement, he'll probably get over it, like how most regular humans do.

The kids will probably latch onto it as a form of "cool" parents eventually.

Yeah because teens find whatever their parents did cool New generations typically go against the previous ones and there is already evidence of conservative values rising among very young people.

Some people think we're marching towards some porn fuelled debauched utopia but these things are cyclical.

 

[sidimmu]

But you have to filter. Because dating is such a waste of time anyway (it was fot me!)

I know, I agreed with it.
I am just saying some of your filters might of been a bit too aggressive.

Yet you are judging me for my views. Gold.

After prejudice shown by yourself, gold....

If you view sex work not included in that then fair game but for myself I do not.

The thing is though, there is clear differences in it though and half the users in here have no idea of the difference.
Typical porn, going off to have video'd sex with another person is one thing.
Undertaking other videos with just yourself or people trusted and not random is completely different, not to mention you get non nude OF girls etc etc.
But everyone just see's OF girl and thinks narcissist whore who cant make a home - thats the real comedy gold here mate.

Yeah because teens find whatever their parents did cool New generations typically go against the previous ones and there is already evidence of conservative values rising among very young people.

New generations go against the previous norms, OF is not the norm in the current day, so yeah it still has possibility to be cool parents for kids as a result of this.
Its like you have seemed to forget being a child nor remember what its like to be a horny teenager.

Some people think we're marching towards some porn fuelled debauchered utopia

Well thats you right? As those who are positive for OF are certainly not for that, its about freedom, not turning the world into a porn scene.
Christ almighty.

 

[413x]

I know, I agreed with it.
I am just saying some of your filters might of been a bit too aggressive.


After prejudice shown by yourself, gold....


The thing is though, there is clear differences in it though and half the users in here have no idea of the difference.
Typical porn, going off to have video'd sex with another person is one thing.
Undertaking other videos with just yourself or people trusted and not random is completely different, not to mention you get non nude OF girls etc etc.
But everyone just see's OF girl and thinks narcissist whore who cant make a home - thats the real comedy gold here mate.


New generations go against the previous norms, OF is not the norm in the current day, so yeah it still has possibility to be cool parents for kids as a result of this.
Its like you have seemed to forget being a child nor remember what its like to be a horny teenager.

Well thats you right? As those who are positive for OF are certainly not for that, its about freedom, not turning the world into a porn scene.
Christ almighty.

Yeah I'm aware you're going to filter out potentially good matches. And if the dating pool was small it would be something that I might not filter on.
But as a broad brush approach I stand by it.

But I have many filters. So maybe my dating pool would be small anyway.

 

[adam cool dude]

After prejudice shown by yourself, gold....


The thing is though, there is clear differences in it though and half the users in here have no idea of the difference.
Typical porn, going off to have video'd sex with another person is one thing.
Undertaking other videos with just yourself or people trusted and not random is completely different, not to mention you get non nude OF girls etc etc.
But everyone just see's OF girl and thinks narcissist whore who cant make a home - thats the real comedy gold here mate.

At least I am man enough to admit I am judgemental. People who say they are not prejudice are lying to themselves. It is embedded into our DNA.

Maybe a minority of OF sex workers are good people but my judgemental side which is probably right is that the vast majority of them are not long term relationship people. Most polls would agree with me.

 

[413x]

At least I am man enough to admit I am judgemental. People who say they are not prejudice are lying to themselves. It is embedded into our DNA.

Maybe a minority of OF sex workers are good people but my judgemental side which is probably right is that the vast majority of them are not long term relationship people. Most polls would agree with me.

I haven't met anyone who doesn't do some form of judging when picking partners.

It is getting a bit far now and bordering on having to hide your preferences.

Without individuality the world would be a boring place.

 

[Richie]

I was gonna ask the exact same thing buy thought a bit personal.

I did pause before typing it but given the comments in this thread, and some of them from said poster I asked the question of, I figured it was a reasonable question and asked in a comparable manner

 

[NZXT30]

At least I am man enough to admit I am judgemental. People who say they are not prejudice are lying to themselves. It is embedded into our DNA.

Maybe a minority of OF sex workers are good people but my judgemental side which is probably right is that the vast majority of them are not long term relationship people. Most polls would agree with me.

The hilarious part is that it's just some men that pretend to find it acceptable.

The utter disdain that the hard working women in my life have for OF sex workers could not be described in this forum without getting banned.

 

[sidimmu]

The utter disdain that the hard working women in my life have for OF sex workers could not be described in this forum without getting banned.

Sounds like jealousy