Who has cheated on a partner and why?

Been out with 3 girls at once, I'm just bad a breaking up just don't know how to say its finished so I ended stringing 3 along. 2 found out about each other when one confronted me when I was parked up. She went all bunny boiler on me, was a little scary! The other I finished with when I met someone else, as far as I was concerned none of the relationships I had between the ages of 18-27 were serious infact up untill now I had never dated anyone for longer than 8 months at most 3-4 months. Between the ages of 27-30 i never dated anyone then had a quick fling then untill 2 years or so I met someone. So for 5 years I never dated or had sex with anyone, guess I just got bored with dating now I would never dream of it, happily married with 11 month old daughter who just took her first steps today:)
 
Oh, you're all such upstanding folk who are full of moral fibre, the lot of you! I, however, am one of the black sheep. Yes, I know what you're thinking .....

I've "cheated" on Women, and, by that, I mean I have, on occassion, seen more than one woman, at the same time. I make no excuses for my behaviour, nor, to the disgust of others I am sure, feel any guilt. Why should I?

I am, after all, Human, and I am entitled to have my needs and desires met. I deserve it. I owe it to myself. If a woman begins to bore me, and, I must profess, my attention can be lost in something as quickly as it can be sparked, then I shall pounce on an opportunity which appears, or in most circumstances, which I allow to appear. Oh the fateful achilles heel.

I am sure that many will, and have, viewed this as a character flaw of mine, but it makes me who I am. Why should I fight the burning desire inside of me? It makes me feel alive. It is who I am. You cannot take away from me what is mine. If you take that away you take away the whole essence of my being. Why should supress what is the TRUTH and what is NATURAL? Why should I LIE, not only to myself, but to others?

I make no promises to women, so, in this respect, I am not breaking any moral standards. That I make no promises to a woman is my own moral standard, it is my own belief structure that I first adopt, then enforce, by living by it.

I do not expect many folk to fully understand my feelings and emotions on this matter, let alone agree with them. That is their problem, not mine.
 
I cheated on 2 girlfriends in my late teens. Piggymon has hit the nail on the head though. It's not worth it for a one nights sex. I felt like a **** after and had to end up telling them which ended the relationships. I never would again though.
 
cleanbluesky said:
Having a conversation with someone once where I told them I have never cheated on someone. I don't tend to do such things, I thought most people wouldn't - is it uncommon for people not to cheat?

Having said that, I almost did, but decided I didn't want to be that sort of person...
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how old are you?
 
Old Turkey said:
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If you feel that way, a burning desire for someone else then your clearly not prepared to be in a relationship with any sort of real commitment, if I went out on a date or two with a girl then I wouldnt think twice about gettin off with another bird. In a relationship however, the situation is different, without knowing that you can trust a girl to go out somewhere on her own and not cheat on you is useless if you cant even trust yourself to go out somewhere on your own and not cheat.
 
I've never cheated and I never will. To cheat on someone because you are unhappy and feeling trapped, I can almost understand. To sleep with someone you claim you love, and behave as such, is despicable.

Ant :cool:
 
Can we archive this thread and dust it off in say 40 years? I'd love to see who has stood by their promises to 'never' cheat. I wonder how many would have sworn '.....until death do us part', only to wind up divorced within 5 years.

I feel most sorry for those decent human beings here who stick to their word while, unknown to them, their wives unashamedly take advantage of their trusting nature by sleeping with their best friends/brothers/random guys etc.
 
Piggymon said:
I've never cheated and never will
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Same here.

Reason 1 = If I really love my wife, I couldn't do that to her, so if I could do that to her then I obviously don't love her any more .... therefore why am I still with her?

Reason 2 = I love my wife and if I did that and I got caught, I'd lose her. Not a chance worth taking.

Reason 3 = I have more repsect for her than to cheat.

Reason 4 = I really rather hope I have more self-respect than to cheat.
 
Sequoia said:
Same here.

Reason 1 = If I really love my wife, I couldn't do that to her, so if I could do that to her then I obviously don't love her any more .... therefore why am I still with her?

Reason 2 = I love my wife and if I did that and I got caught, I'd lose her. Not a chance worth taking.

Reason 3 = I have more repsect for her than to cheat.

Reason 4 = I really rather hope I have more self-respect than to cheat.
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I agree with all of your reasons there, and this post is ever so slightly off topic but:

Have you ever done anything even remotely immoral? You always post good advice about how to be good at everything you do etc but surely there must come times where everyone is less than perfect!

Please do not infer a lack of respect from this post, that is simply not the case :)
 
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