I think its a computer, nerd, geek thing myself.
Misconception most of the time lol. I think ocuk is one of the few places where people meet up through the different sub forums at leats annually or do community based things and people stay in touch. I've made a few friends off here that I'm still in contact with.
Thing is most people will only have a very small handful of truly best friends and those will be people typically they've met later on in adult life rather than grew up with. Everyone else is just a standard friend. Someone you'd share a drink or meal with and a chat maybe even regularly, but not something with a close bond if that makes sense.
People mentioned not drinking above and a such find it boring when out with workmates/friends. I don't drink either but do go out once a month with workmates as a team meal night out, whilst they drink I have tea and it's just become a thing over time. If the people you are around are like minded then nothing like this is ever an issue.
I doubt many blokes have day to day relationships/contact with their male friends. I guess this isn't really the thread to ask what the case is for people
It definitely is a bloke thing but also about mindset. a few of my male mates are indeed good mates, we do stuff together whether it's photo related, an event or meal and so on. It's just that, guys chilling out. But I'm actually closer friends to their other halves than them which works out really well. When I want to do guy things I'll chill out with the former, but when I want a deep and/or meaningful conversation about a topic over lunch/dinner or just to catch up or whatever then it's with those ladies. That sort of dynamic works really well as you get both sides and everyone's better off for it.
If you're struggling to find the right people, then a) don't struggle, and b) don't try to find them. If you're presenting yourself as an approachable/genuine person to people you meet day in day out because that's who you are then the same types of people will automatically cross paths with you. You can try and search for years and nothing will ever come of it, but the moment you forget about a and b, everything just falls into place without you having to even lift a finger. Genuine people will attract genuine people, it's like some kind of invisible force.
Being negative about any situation and brooding over it will distance people not bring them closer.