Just thought I would share my recent experience.
Ok so I signed up to a dating site about 2 months ago, even paid for Gold Membership to get all the privileges and options. I like many others am not so into the clubbing scene and this seems like an easier alternative method.
I start messaging Average or slightly better than Average looking girls in hopes that they are genuinely who they say they are, plus they are in my league also as I am no Adonis either.
Anyway I get aload of messages from middle aged larger women or very young girls that type in text format which really annoys me. These people did not really interest me. Don't get me wrong I would like to "do" the younger good looking girls as I am a red blooded normal guy, but I am not as willing to put the groundwork in as much if they are dummies as ideally I'd like a relationship not just a lay.
After about a month I get a message from girl up in Scotland which appears like it's not a wink - which scores a few points with me as it's more personal. I am based in Reading and the distance was a little disconcerting but I guess after being terminally single for long, I thought I would just give it a shot. Also I noticed she has a child from her profile - which is a little heavy, but it's not enough to deter me.
So we start chatting and we get on really well from the get go. We both are cheeky and ripping into each other, but tongue in cheek. We go onto the Webcams with Mics and again it's not uncomfortable after the first 5 minutes. She's a bit shy and I avoid any horny subjects for a while to stop her getting all embarrassed. She studies from home and seems to live in a bit of a bubble, but I am fine with that as there's less chance of her meeting any other men before I meet her. She also seems to not be used to recieving compliments and is easily flattered.
Roll forward 2 weeks, we've been online every night after work - even staying up all night chatting and texting all the time. I even purchased an O2 phone so we could chat for free under one of their schemes.
We agree to meet for a first date in Blackpool which is pretty much in the middle of where we are based. Yes, I know it's a bit of a hole, but we figured the location would just be secondary to actually being with each other.
Time flies by and it's nearly time for the date, she completely stops replying to my texts which is very unusual as she's often very swift on the keys. I let it go but it's a little worrying, hoping not to sound too desperate I do not text her too much in hopes of not seeming clingy but I do care. I know it's pathetic, I have not met her and I am probably taking it a bit more seriously than I should but it seemed there was definetly something there, and it seemed mutual.
2 days later she finally gets back to me on MSN, she says she "lost" her phone and now she had found it. I think phew! I thought she'd cut me loose.
But then she hits me with the bomb, for whatever reason she goes from hot to cold. She's not ready to meetup. She's happy to stay in her little safe predictable bubble and has decided she wants to stay single. This was all after about 150 hours of talking and messaging on Mics/Phone/Webcam so it's a bit of a kick in the balls and it hurt a bit. My mind wonders and I think there is something she is not telling me, and the bit about losing her phone sounds phoney. I do not understand women sometimes. I hate being strung along. I have still not got a logical explaination in my eyes, but she does not want to talk about it.
She wants to stay Friends but now that friendzone is a little awkward and I am considering blocking her because it's a bit of an uneasy truce with underlying issues.
Anyway I am over it now and am back in the rat race to land someone hopefully way more local and a bit more level headed. Lesson learned, this time I am taking it a lot less seriously.
I know exactly how you feel!