Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

Neil79 · 29 Apr 2012 at 12:52

I'm going to travel 100 miles to see an obese woman who smells of old farts

( Which is probably about 80% of POF )

MaX_PoWah · 29 Apr 2012 at 13:04

Talking to two now, both seem keen, i agree about the pictures, need to put some effort into taking good ones.

paradisiac · 29 Apr 2012 at 16:35

Fuzz said:
A few?? Why did you stop!!

Keep at it man but don't fail with copy and paste messages. Try different tactics, be funny, be obtuse, be straight, be cheeky, be ****ty, try all sorts.
Hone your skills into what gives the most desired results.
Practice your writing, if they don't reply, who cares. Up your game.

i gave up coz i ran out of people in my area that seemed worth talking to lol

i have had a couple of good conversations through cupid.co.uk but they never seem to lead anywhere but weeks of chatting

Fuzz · 29 Apr 2012 at 18:27

Talk to them all then, they might have friends

paradisiac · 29 Apr 2012 at 18:35

Fuzz said:
Talk to them all then, they might have friends

haha i just get put off by the 'i love going out with my friends gettng drunk' kinda profiles that anyone under 30 seems to have. either that or they are fat and clearly either have no friends, or their 'friends' wouldnt be seen out with them lol

Fuzz · 29 Apr 2012 at 18:48

A lot of younger people are like that these days but they'll grow out of it, especially if you lead them to better things in life

Meet them to hone your dating skills if nothing else. It'll get you out of the house which is a massive bonus even if they are not your type on screen.
1. you might learn a trick or two
2. You might get lucky
3. You might click with someone who you first thought you wouldn't like.

If not, weigh up what you lose against what you gain by sitting at home doing nothing..
In my mind there are no lose situations to it
You get to have a drink, have a meal, watch a film, go bowling, see a museum... which you wouldn't have otherwise gone to alone.
You get to work out what events and situations work to your advantage on a date, where to go that they appreciate, what they like doing..

I'm sure you can see where I'm going with this.
Practice makes perfectand all that.
Go as far as you want to go with it....

paradisiac · 29 Apr 2012 at 18:49

Fuzz said:
Meeting them to hone your dating skills and to get you out of the house is a massive bonus even if they are not your type on screen.
1. you might learn a trick or two
2. You might get lucky
3. You might click with someone who you first thought you wouldn't like.

If not, weigh up what you lose against what you gain by sitting at home doing nothing..
In my mind there are no lose situations to it
You get to have a drink, have a meal, watch a film, go bowling, see a museum... which you wouldn't have otherwise gone to alone.
You get to work out what events and situations work to your advantage on a date, where to go that they appreciate, what they like doing..

I'm sure you can see where I'm going with this.
Practice makes perfect and go as far as you want to go with it.

any tips on first messages?

Fuzz · 29 Apr 2012 at 18:52

You're not listening

Write anything and see what works.
It's a bloody cattle market

paradisiac · 29 Apr 2012 at 18:55

Fuzz said:
You're not listening
Write anything and see what works.
It's a bloody cattle market

but....what if say i send a message to one person but get no reply, so change my tact, but find the second message fails but the first one would have worked on the second person. its just a nightmare. and as for my profile, well i would say that was the problem, but no one has viewed it so cant be that.

Fuzz · 29 Apr 2012 at 18:58

change your picture / profile a bit, give it a month or so and try a different message. They'll have forgotten the original one by then.

paradisiac · 29 Apr 2012 at 18:59

Fuzz said:
change your picture / profile a bit, give it a month or so and try a different message. They'll have forgotten the original one by then.

lol will give it a go.

FabienO · 29 Apr 2012 at 19:22

The dating website company I work for, 90% of the male profile main pictures are of their johnson. Age doesn't seem to matter with that too. fail-dating.

Fuzz · 29 Apr 2012 at 19:44

The dirty underbelly of the online sickos errgh. No wonder women repluse at the idea of putting themselves online sometimes.

paradisiac · 29 Apr 2012 at 19:52

Fuzz said:
The dirty underbelly of the online sickos errgh. No wonder women repluse at the idea of putting themselves online sometimes.

or are they the ones that get the most replies?

Amp34 · 29 Apr 2012 at 20:10

paradisiac said:
i gave up coz i ran out of people in my area that seemed worth talking to lol

i have had a couple of good conversations through cupid.co.uk but they never seem to lead anywhere but weeks of chatting

I presume you specifically took the initiative and asked them out after the first few messages right?

There is a school o thought that seems to suggest waiting ages to asks them out, or get them to ask you out but personally I'd want to meet someone as soon as possible as that is the only way you can really tell if you will get on together.

paradisiac · 29 Apr 2012 at 20:47

Amp34 said:
I presume you specifically took the initiative and asked them out after the first few messages right?

There is a school o thought that seems to suggest waiting ages to asks them out, or get them to ask you out but personally I'd want to meet someone as soon as possible as that is the only way you can really tell if you will get on together.

no i just kinda kept the conversations going and meeting never really popped up. one i did arrange to meet, but something always came up on the day, maybe she was just too polite to say no lol

Janesy B · 29 Apr 2012 at 20:50

paradisiac said:
no i just kinda kept the conversations going and meeting never really popped up. one i did arrange to meet, but something always came up on the day, maybe she was just too polite to say no lol

That's your problem, you have to be a bit bold.

paradisiac · 29 Apr 2012 at 21:30

Janesy B said:
That's your problem, you have to be a bit bold.

i thought it was better to let the woman make the first move on meeting up

Janesy B · 29 Apr 2012 at 21:36

paradisiac said:
i thought it was better to let the woman make the first move on meeting up

No, I just ask what they're after from the site and if they'd like to meet after talking for a bit otherwise you end up talking forever and not getting anywhere..

paradisiac · 29 Apr 2012 at 21:47

Janesy B said:
No, I just ask what they're after from the site and if they'd like to meet after talking for a bit otherwise you end up talking forever and not getting anywhere..

i guess. there is one that im talking to and i feel like she is dropping hints on meeting, but she also seems very secretive about things when talking, like she quickly changes subject.