Not a chance, they want to see someone take charge of the situation. (well most of them do)
Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!
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Not a chance, they want to see someone take charge of the situation. (well most of them do)
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but when you drop hints about what they like to do, and they change the subject or something, is that there way of saying dont wanna meet but chatting is ok?
You save a lot of money. Most of the girls are out for a free meal with no intention of paying.
Well if you're skint enough that you don't want to pay for it then, make sure you drop it into the convo as some sort of joke.
Ahh nice pub this, here's your drink, but don't take advantage of me mind, or I'll have to run off and leave you to pay the bill.
etc etc
Ahh nice pub this, here's your drink, but don't take advantage of me mind, or I'll have to run off and leave you to pay the bill.
etc etc
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You're wrong
I'm a totally normal guy, above average socially, loads of different groups of mates, always going out clubbing and bars 3-4 times weekly. I also tend to pull most nights I'm out, by that, I mean getting with them in the club and getting number etc. getting them to come home with you is a whole different story
Like what Fuzz said, its just something on top of normal life, a bit of extra fun. I'm not looking for love, I'm a 2nd year student, I've decided I don't want a serious relationship for at least 2-3 more years, so it just gets me out meeting even more people, and its a bit more straightforward than trying to pull in clubs. I always find the girls in clubs are way too stuck up, due to so many men trying it on with them, so it just annoys me, but its all a game, so grab the dice and see what happens!
I would say your the one who is stuck up mate.
LOL
You try that approach it wont work out too well dude.
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took your advice. she stopped talking to me
Maybe she's wanting to keep stuff to talk to you about when she meets you. Although now she isn't talking to you...?
I'm more inclined to ask whether they are free the next week and want to meet up for a drink. Just a sentence or two at the end of your normal message. No pressure but nice and bold.
I'm so glad I don't go for the girls you have experience with (or at least your posts)! I've been out with four so far, all have paid at least something after insisting and the ones that have been to dinner have been very vocal in paying their half of the bill...
I'll leave the dull, attractive, money grabbers to you.
It's called cutting through the brushwood to get to the trees.
She stopped talking to him because he wanted to meet her! PMSL
Bull****, she never want to meet him in the first place.
Now he can move on to the next one.
I'll leave the dull, attractive, money grabbers to you.
Ha, I have been in a relationship for 4 years dude
So no dates for me.Or he scared her off? It's not a race and you should take your time.
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But he's not exactly asking her to marry him or anything (unless he did
), and the best way to see if there's a connection is to actually meet them.Of course, you can't say in the first or second message that you want to meet, but after a few swapped messages, it should be enough to see if there's some sort of interest?
I've had a few such dates, all have gone fairly well, been pretty good fun and chilled. Not always had that spark, but i've never had a bad experience thus far, I usually drop a hint about meeting up after 6 or 7 messages, for some shared interest whether that be an exhibition, a drink, market, thrifting stores etcetc. I wouldn't have dared do this 2 years ago, its a confidence aid if anything, even if you don't actually meet someone you want to be with from such a site. I have the benefit of having talked to people for months online through gaming, always find them easy as hell to talk to in person, same applies for dating. GO NERDS.
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But he's not exactly asking her to marry him or anything (unless he did
Of course, you can't say in the first or second message that you want to meet, but after a few swapped messages, it should be enough to see if there's some sort of interest?
lol we have been talking everyday for about a week, everything seemed to be going good. i just said something along the lines of we seem to be getting on well we should meet up and do something.
on a side note, is there anyway to find out what town someone lives in? she knew where i lived
, but its not on my profile and i dont tell people 
can you do like an IP lookup or something via the site? (this was 2 days ago so not the reason she stopped talking to me )
lol we have been talking everyday for about a week, everything seemed to be going good. i just said something along the lines of we seem to be getting on well we should meet up and do something.
on a side note, is there anyway to find out what town someone lives in? she knew where i lived
Easy, instead of setting the search for your postcode and a range of 50 miles, try some random towns/cities you think she might be in, her exact age and 5 miles. If she pops up, you know that's where she lives!
I'm not a stalker.
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haha i didnt know this was possible. im not bothered about doing it, just seemed odd she knew. obvs she thought it was worth the effort.
EDIT : i dont see that option on cupid.co.uk just distance or county search
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Of course but the way they worded it seemed he asked right away.
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my theory is she might of fallen asleep so will see if she replies this evening. dont hold much hope though. she does seem to of made quite a lot of effort to find out stuff about me, and we were getting on really well. and i swear it seemed as though she was hinting that she liked me and wanted to meet up, but then could have been imagining it.
EDIT : i dont see that option on cupid.co.uk just distance or county search
Should be the same again surely? Just change your post code/location and then search with a tiny distance. If they pop up, zing!
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