Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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I'm fast coming to the conclusion that internet dating is about stretching the truth as much as possible in as few words as possible :p
 
FoxEye said:
I'm fast coming to the conclusion that internet dating is about stretching the truth as much as possible in as few words as possible :p
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not stretching the truth just pointing out the bloody obvious, as you cant really communicate self confidence or your personality over the internet.
Also unlike meeting someone in the real world where a conversation can last hours, the internet dating scene is a one hit wonder, you have to make you're profile stick out just enough to get the opposite sex interested as there probably trawling through a few hundred thingybobs at a time
 
What is it with women and giving us so little to work with? Take the below for instance;

I actually cringe at the thought of 'selling myself' in this section....I could tell you many things about myself but isn't that what getting to know someone is all about?

I won't pretend that I am a fitness fanatic, have travelled the world 3 times or have a list of hobbies to make action man jealous! The truth however is i enjoy the simple things in life.. like spending time with my friends and family, who mean the world to me! Chilled time and getting glammed up for nights out! I'm content with my life, but looking for someone to share good times and great experiences with-living alone can become lonely!

I don't really know what to expect from here! Just think it's time for me to leave single life behind and see if there are any honest caring men left out there! It is important to me for a man to make me laugh! I'm not looking for a clown but when we are old and grey and looks are long gone, I'd still want to be laughing : )

if you want to know more just message me xxx

She seems nice, and I'd like to get to know more about her, but from the info she's given (or not, it seems so generic), it's kind of hard to see how to break the ice other than. "Hi there. I too like stuff, and things! Regards!....." Damned frustrating.
 
Well I got a message from a girl tonight which was just "Hi, how are you?"

Is that normal? Because the messages I'm sending are full-on 20 page rambles :p*

*slight exaggeration
 
FoxEye said:
Well I got a message from a girl tonight which was just "Hi, how are you?"

Is that normal? Because the messages I'm sending are full-on 20 page rambles :p
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yes, that's normal. first message should be short, don't want to cover everything in one message, nothing left to talk about then.
 
The Funktopus said:
What is it with women and giving us so little to work with? Take the below for instance;

I actually cringe at the thought of 'selling myself' in this section....I could tell you many things about myself but isn't that what getting to know someone is all about?

I won't pretend that I am a fitness fanatic, have travelled the world 3 times or have a list of hobbies to make action man jealous! The truth however is i enjoy the simple things in life.. like spending time with my friends and family, who mean the world to me! Chilled time and getting glammed up for nights out! I'm content with my life, but looking for someone to share good times and great experiences with-living alone can become lonely!

I don't really know what to expect from here! Just think it's time for me to leave single life behind and see if there are any honest caring men left out there! It is important to me for a man to make me laugh! I'm not looking for a clown but when we are old and grey and looks are long gone, I'd still want to be laughing : )

if you want to know more just message me xxx

She seems nice, and I'd like to get to know more about her, but from the info she's given (or not, it seems so generic), it's kind of hard to see how to break the ice other than. "Hi there. I too like stuff, and things! Regards!....." Damned frustrating.
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Dead easy!

Her first paragraph she is a thinker, shes questioning the whole online dating malarky etc etc. This shows to me she would like to meet people pretty quickly to get to know someone in person. So you could empathise a lot with her here....plenty to write about no worries.

Her 2nd paragraph you could make a joke saying something like

"yeah but i bet your eyes dont swivel at the touch of a button at the back of yer head? :D"

This paragraph is also inviting you to ask her what her ideal night out/holiday/what she likes to do and where would she go on a date etc.

3rd paragraph. You need to show your sense of humour e.g. in a joke at yourself to help break the ice. She says shes not asking for a clown but you could say you are a marvel with balloon animals at parties ;) you can conjure all sorts of interesting shapes.

You only need to connect on a few things she says the rest is questions and chat about what she says then arranging to meet up to see if there is something in person.

You could also comment on the photos either her appearance or smt in the background?


Before i forget DO NOT RAMBLE ON. Keep it reasonably shortish. Also in your reply you need to give her some meat for her to get teeth into as well other wise she will be going "arghh i really like this guy but he says nothing but how nice i am!!!!!!!!!"

Although tbh i dont like it when one of the first things women say is "make me laugh" i would just hand her a jack dee dvd and the remote control and say JOB DONE!

Some women give the impression they want the guy to BE for them...hes gotta be 6ft 2 chiselled like Bond but also soo sensitive and romantic but a hilarious comedian as well.... haha :p

Fantasy land! How about just treating the guy like a human being not some fantasy figure in your head ladies. Anyway mini rant over hope i was helpful :D
 
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I seem to punch way above my age-line on POF. Regularly get attention from women 5-6 years older than me. Inconceivable in real life! - where I don't normally ever look outside the student demographic. A lot of fun.
 
I have no idea what woman of sound mental health would consider that profile "the funniest", "most original" one on there. I guess it makes a change from pictures of dudes with baseball caps and six-packs.
 
Seriously I've just messaged 4 attractive girls "#YOLO" tonight and I don't even know what that means and they're still replying with forward propositions.

also why do you not like dub steps wom wom wom is the best
 
In all seriousness the hottest and highest calibre of the online-dating female subspecies lurks on the Guardian. They are well-educated, normally live in areas with some culture and civilization, and pretty much know what they want. The late-20's/early-30's are total cougars when it comes to early 20 somethings like myself.

The only problem is the Guardian knows they're sat on one big middle-class hormonal meat-market and charge you money to be able to even message one another. Major downer.
 
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You are putting yourself down at every point and making an issue of SIMPLE things like taking a photo. I mean really "How do I do this, do I lose half my face from being side on" (paraphrased). Goodness grief, just get on with it man! Your face now looks 10x better without the goatee, but the pics still look bad... your pose it just awkward in every photo (first photo is awful in the way it frames your features, the second photo you're not even looking into the camera) and you need more close-ups of your face, from the side profile as previously suggested. It really is not rocket science to look at other peoples photos on POF, and Facebook and emulate what they are doing.

Also in my amended profile (which I know wasn't perfect, I was in a rush) I made a couple of spelling and grammar errors "along way from Paul McCartney". Change it to "a long".

InKursion said:
In all seriousness the hottest and highest calibre of the online-dating female subspecies lurks on the Guardian.
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Hah, awesome.
 
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