Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Lose the third photo, it doesn't add anything so I would just leave it. The main problem with most people's profiles is the info you're giving, it's too much, and sometimes too niche. You're basically saying "If you don't think this this and this, and meet this this and this, don't bother" so they won't, even if you e-mail them first, they'll check your profile and then think "Oh even though he's shown interest we don't match here, so I won't bother." Basically, you want to be as generic as possible, so if you like cycling and running, say you like keeping fit. You also mention traveling, that means anyone who's looking for anything long term, won't be interested. Another thing, most of us on here will have some sort of dark/sarcastic humour, but don't publicise it, I've told some heinous jokes in my time and bird's generally don't like it or see the funny side. Just say you're a funny guy. Again on the music, just say you're fond of most genres of music, don't single any out. Don't say you're a nightmare when you get hungry, you're coming across as a problem. I think you mentioned you enjoy food prior to that so that's a subtle enough hint :p The middle paragraph as well, most girls have problems with their bodies (I do and I'm a guy and in pretty good shape, I think it's pretty common these days) so I wouldn't say too much here, maybe say you're looking for someone you can have an intelligent conversation with but also be able to go hiking with (If that's you're thing) but again nothing to specific. The last paragraph is again not that necessary, so I dunno whether or not you need it. I guess you could say you're quite happy to just meet and get to know people even if it isn't going to lead anywhere, but yeah, not sure.

On the requirements down at the bottom, lose them all. Don't have them there, it's pointless, the girl of your dreams might be just about to quit smoking and 30 years old, you could miss out on something.

That ended up being quite specific, basically, you want to be pretty generic, just meets lots of girls, see how things go, but you also will get more confident, know what you're looking for etc and you might realise you quite like something you didn't before.
 
Lol, I think that might be over edited. You want a bit more in there, but just don't be specific I guess. What terrible people we are, deceiving folk. That's probably the best way to think about it. Trick them. To what ends is your choice.
 
Well, unexpectedly POF scored me a rather great date.

Got contacted early yesterday by her, talked for most of the day.
Sorted out a first date for earlier this evening and it went far better than I had imagined it would.

Should be seeing her again soon. :)
 
Well iv been talking to this Scotish lass for the last week from POF who now lives here in Norfolk and iv got a date with her this Friday coming..:)

Ill let you know how it goes.
 
anyone else got a bit too high standards on pof ? theres some lovely women on here but i just cant talk to them if theyre overweight or not that good looking, i feel horrible but i cant be the only one
 
anyone else got a bit too high standards on pof ? theres some lovely women on here but i just cant talk to them if theyre overweight or not that good looking, i feel horrible but i cant be the only one

How is not messaging women you find unattractive having too high standards or being horrible? It's not like the women are going to be any different :p
 
anyone else got a bit too high standards on pof ? theres some lovely women on here but i just cant talk to them if theyre overweight or not that good looking, i feel horrible but i cant be the only one

Was having a similar convo at work the other day. Some woman said she apparently doesn't mind if she didn't find her partner physically attractive, as long as he has a nice personality.

I understand looks fade and all that, but I thought everyone found their partner attractive so some degree... other wise what's the point?

I wouldn't feel bad if I were you, I wouldn't call it high standards either. As long as you aren't a munter or over weight yourself why should you expect any less from a partner?
 
Was having a similar convo at work the other day. Some woman said she apparently doesn't mind if she didn't find her partner physically attractive, as long as he has a nice personality.

I understand looks fade and all that, but I thought everyone found their partner attractive so some degree... other wise what's the point?

I wouldn't feel bad if I were you, I wouldn't call it high standards either. As long as you aren't a munter or over weight yourself why should you expect any less from a partner?

bs or ugly.
 
im not overweight and i wouldnt say im a munter but i dont think being ginger goes in mhy favour on pof aha

I'm sort of in the same ballpark, you've just got to relax a bit however hard it may seem. Online dating is quite awkward and personally I've found it a bit addictive as I'm constantly logging in.

Met someone a few weeks ago who seemed interested, went on 3 dates however everytime I asked her she always had to "check her rota", so I'd wait until the day she said she would check and get no text, I'd back it up the following with "do you still want to" and then it'd be set. She did it for the fourth time 2 weeks ago, I asked, she said yes and then I just left it. a week and a few days pass and I get a "Hello :) x" message...

Really don't understand girls at all. I'm not ever chasing again after my last relationship. sometimes feel like saying that I don't expect to chase someone no matter how much I like you, I just will not do it..

/Rant over.
 
ive got two girls who have said yes to a date but im thinking one will probably fall through as she never texts or anything unless i text her first,
 
You could dye your hair :p

i do its blonde ish, but i still keep my ginger because i dont like to change who i am just for a lady, ive met some beauties so i can do it again. Its like my friend, hes just spend 2000 on hair implantation and he looks amazing ill give him that he looks like a diff person but why do that for all the girls, its not the real you
 
i do its blonde ish, but i still keep my ginger because i dont like to change who i am just for a lady, ive met some beauties so i can do it again. Its like my friend, hes just spend 2000 on hair implantation and he looks amazing ill give him that he looks like a diff person but why do that for all the girls, its not the real you

Your mate got hair implants because he did not feel attractive or confident in is looks, and that is more than enough reason to get it done, and he will be happier as a result because of that fact as much because it will get more girls (basically the reason we were put on this earth, no?). Why stick with something you're not happy with just so someone can say: "Oh but thats the real you"... it's complete BS. The "real you" is whatever you want it to be and whatever you feel most happy or comfortable with.
 
Well, after just over 4 months, broke up with the girl I met on Match.com. Too much needless stress being brought into my life, shame really.

Think I'll leave it a while before jumping back into the internet dating thang again.
 
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