Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Richdog said:
Wow, you mean there are good-looking girls in the world that are actually not super bitches? I'm shocked. :)

Any chance of a non-identifying photo posted so we can give our verdict? :D
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I know...I was shocked.

And no, I'm not going to post a photo of her..that would be poor form.
 
cHk4 said:
I know honestly, 1,000 is possibly too little... some messages were stupidly long from both parts. Enjoyed talking to her then bam... Nothing, I did send her another message after about a week and still nothing so I left it at that. Guess I was more annoyed of the waste of life you know?
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Some people are just like that! I had a similar experience last year, I don't do the online dating thing but a girl I went to school & college with added and messaged me on Facebook and said she had a thing for me the whole time but didn't say anything. We chatted for a while like old friends catching up, then one day poof...gone without a trace.

So yeah I agree because you sit there wondering why waste the time and effort if you're just going to vanish randomly! At least it would be nice to keep in touch surely.
 
Charlotte1988 said:
That is really weird. What's the point of her putting in so much effort with the lengthy replies just to suddenly stop writing? :confused:

Do you mean you've got the tattoos since then or you had them when you were writing to each other? If she'd seen photos of you then she obviously didn't mind the tattoos if she were writing to you.
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Lets write to one another, I'm fun.
 
ok everyone help me out with a reply. so i've messaged a girl tonight who replied about an hour later with an essay of a message i don't know where to start. i'll copy the message into a spoiler tag so it's easier to see and i'd really like everyones opinion on what to do.

Hey

So that's the message. What would others reply with? I've messaged back many times after getting a reply to other girls like this which all seem to then not get returned, i wonder if i'm coming across as too serious, too funny, too trying hard, too unserious as each reply i try to improve after the last catastrophy, but when you get a reply like the above it's ****ing impossible to have anything decent to then send them.

here's another i'm yet to reply to from a couple days ago as i just don't know now what to do

hey, I'm tamarin x
 
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Mammalian said:
ok everyone help me out with a reply. so i've messaged a girl tonight who replied about an hour later with an essay of a message i don't know where to start. i'll copy the message into a spoiler tag so it's easier to see and i'd really like everyones opinion on what to do.

Hey

So that's the message. What would others reply with? I've messaged back many times after getting a reply to other girls like this which all seem to then not get returned, i wonder if i'm coming across as too serious, too funny, too trying hard, too unserious as each reply i try to improve after the last catastrophy, but when you get a reply like the above it's ****ing impossible to have anything decent to then send them.

here's another i'm yet to reply to from a couple days ago as i just don't know now what to do

hey, I'm tamarin x
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Ha ha! If you like the look of them just reply as if you were emailing them first. Take charge of the conversation and maybe tease them for their lengthy first message.

Regard a 'hey' like a wink/nudge!
 
Mammalian said:
ok everyone help me out with a reply. so i've messaged a girl tonight who replied about an hour later with an essay of a message i don't know where to start. i'll copy the message into a spoiler tag so it's easier to see and i'd really like everyones opinion on what to do.

Hey

So that's the message. What would others reply with? I've messaged back many times after getting a reply to other girls like this which all seem to then not get returned, i wonder if i'm coming across as too serious, too funny, too trying hard, too unserious as each reply i try to improve after the last catastrophy, but when you get a reply like the above it's ****ing impossible to have anything decent to then send them.

here's another i'm yet to reply to from a couple days ago as i just don't know now what to do

hey, I'm tamarin x
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For messages like those I either ignore them if they're not so good looking, or write "Hey" back if they're cute. If they want to reply with something better, they have chance to, if not, then no loss as I can't stand it when girls can't write basic sentences, it always reflects on their real-life personality.

But really, if you have to think so hard to think of a reply to those little messages, then you need to work on your social skills a little. It's not rocket science. :p
 
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Richdog said:
But really, if you have to think so hard to think of a reply to those little messages, then you need to work on your social skills a little. It's not rocket science. :p
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i get you need to feel confident in the rubbish you come up with but you do make me laugh sometimes with the complete wrongness of what you manage to think up.

the issue as i've put, i've wrote one good message to get a reply, but then i get a useless reply, i write another and then seem to get nothing so 5th time am now turning to how others would approach this. it's not rocket science no which is why i'm not a rocket scientist
 
Mammalian said:
i get you need to feel confident in the rubbish you come up with but you do make me laugh sometimes with the complete wrongness of what you manage to think up.

the issue as i've put, i've wrote one good message to get a reply, but then i get a useless reply, i write another and then seem to get nothing so 5th time am now turning to how others would approach this. it's not rocket science no which is why i'm not a rocket scientist
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How much do you normally write in your first messages then? It's a bit sucky of them to reply with no effort when you've taken time to compose something thoughtful (maybe?). I guess it shows they're a little bit interested otherwise they wouldn't have replied, but it doesn't exactly scream interest :confused:
 
Charlotte1988 said:
How much do you normally write in your first messages then? It's a bit sucky of them to reply with no effort when you've taken time to compose something thoughtful (maybe?). I guess it shows they're a little bit interested otherwise they wouldn't have replied, but it doesn't exactly scream interest :confused:
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I don't mean to keep quoting you but this is one I've always struggled with. On one hand I want to write a medium(ish) message to drum up a conversation but if you send a few and they get ignored, you kind of feel less inclined to write a medium message and end up writing a short one which then in turn gets ignored as you didn't put much thought in to it. You can't win! I just think it doesn't really matter how long a message you write if the initial attraction is there... that's just my opinion.
 
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There seems to be a lot of emphasis on messages, I get you need to know a little about someone before you meet, but I can't help but feel people would be better off arranging to meet after a message or two.

This whole waiting ages for someone to message back, then just disappear doesn't sound fun, nor worth the effort. I suppose it's quite different from meeting someone in real life as you'd hope that person wouldn't have 40+ guys messaging them regularly, so they don't have a sense of empowerment like some of these online women do.

But yeah, if you're finding messages fizzle out then you might as well just ask them out off the bat, nothing to lose with potentially a lot to gain.

Just my 50 pence.
 
When I first registered (about 4 months ago) I didn't really know the etiquette and would write quite long messages (in reply to received messages) and some of the guys I'd talk to for almost a month before meeting up. I feel bad saying this, but 2 of the guys that I met up with weren't anything like I expected despite feeling like we knew each other quite well from the messages. I'd got my hopes up, but there was no physical attraction there whatsoever :( So now I prefer to meet after 1 or 2 weeks so we both don't get our hopes up for it not to work out.
 
Charlotte1988 said:
When I first registered (about 4 months ago) I didn't really know the etiquette and would write quite long messages (in reply to received messages) and some of the guys I'd talk to for almost a month before meeting up. I feel bad saying this, but 2 of the guys that I met up with weren't anything like I expected despite feeling like we knew each other quite well from the messages. I'd got my hopes up, but there was no physical attraction there whatsoever :( So now I prefer to meet after 1 or 2 weeks so we both don't get our hopes up for it not to work out.
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Exactly this. When typing a response out people can think and contemplate their replies. Effectively they can sex up their responses and come across some what differently to IRL. In person their responses will be natural and impulsive, albeit, not as fun or exciting as they may sound online. Hopefully you will find someone contrary to this assumption however :p
 
No need for dating sites here, I just head out in the evenings with a pair of gloves, a bottle of chloroform and a shovel.
 
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