Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Right 12 messages and I'm done, one reply so far. Problem I see so far is when a chick says 'Ask if you want to know more' well I kinda don't want to know more, I want to have a funny/pointless convo to find out what type of person you are, then ask about you.
 
I want to know why the ones who message me (and actually seem normal) live further than I'd be comfortable with travelling. Had someone from Bolton and Leeds message me the other day and I live in Chester.
 
Fluttershy said:
And for that you'll be seen as obsessive, care too much about yourself/what others think of you, etc etc :D
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Yep! You'd be fairly spot on.
I would say more driven that obsessive, but I do have a want to be the best/first in line complex, which my mother tells me I've had since I was very little.
I have always thought that women will like you better if you look better I don't think it's to far out of the realms of possibility. :D Haha

It just happens to be a handy accompaniment to be healthy and strong, helps a lot in normal life too, and the opposite to what I said about her, i.e someone who takes care of themselves probably knows how to take care of others, has determination and accomplishes things.
Again another generalisation, because being fit doesn't a nice person make, but it's a good start.
 
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ChroniC said:
I have always thought that women will like you better if you look better I don't think it's to far out of the realms of possibility. :D Haha
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Almost certainly, whether they admit it or not ;) :D I've had far more "success" in the past year or so than previously and i wouldn't say my personality has changed all that much. A bit sure, but at the end of the day this is still me :D

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Well thanks to PoF I now know that all women;

Work as either a Teacher, Nurse or Beauty Therapist.
Enjoy 'banter'.
Are all busy and very sociable.
Have an 'average' body type in all cases.
Drinking alcohol is their main hobby.
And would like you to know more! But probably won't message back.
 
Holliday said:
Well thanks to PoF I now know that all women;

Work as either a Teacher, Nurse or Beauty Therapist.
Enjoy 'banter'.
Are all busy and very sociable.
Have an 'average' body type in all cases.
Drinking alcohol is their main hobby.
And would like you to know more! But probably won't message back.
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haha. Also. This must be my area

like having a drink wiv da gurls
want to be a duck
Work as a nurse or in a nursery
 
Holliday said:
Well thanks to PoF I now know that all women;

Work as either a Teacher, Nurse or Beauty Therapist.
Enjoy 'banter'.
Are all busy and very sociable.
Have an 'average' body type in all cases.
Drinking alcohol is their main hobby.
And would like you to know more! But probably won't message back.
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100% spot on. i don't get it. Banter in particular is something that really grinds my gears, wtf since when do girls look for banter, funny ok but banter?
 
It's such an un-level playing field though.

Show a pic of a fit female and most chaps would jump at the chance without a second thought. Women on the other hand need an emotional response in order to have the same reaction, which is pretty difficult with a few photos and sentence.

What's with all the students on there also? Surely Uni is brimming with pork swords.
 
Holliday said:
It's such an un-level playing field though.

Show a pic of a fit female and most chaps would jump at the chance without a second thought. Women on the other hand need an emotional response in order to have the same reaction, which is pretty difficult with a few photos and sentence.

What's with all the students on there also? Surely Uni is brimming with pork swords.
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That was my thought. Join a uni club to meet people.

I go to uni but just lurk this thread as I started going out with my gf last new year. Alcohol helps for confidence ;) (its a bell curve though...)
 
i've got a date in london, i expect to be meeting in waterloo. any tips for places to go. this is her territory, not mine as i live outside and rarely go, let alone go for a first date.

i don't know what time we're meeting yet (seems to be avoiding answering that question), but i'd like to in my mind, meet up say after lunch, perhaps go for some drinks, though i'm not a big drinker so don't know how people play this, do you order a double vodka and coke on first date as first drink or equivalent or we talking soft drinks like pepsi?, and then do something fun in london, perhaps ice bar i've heard of (any done this) or something related to xmas, and then all going well have diner together.

any ideas, suggestions, tips, thoughts? I really like everything i know about this girl so far, and think she is a real stunner in the photos so would like to really have a memorable first date, you know the kind in movies. milkshakes is always fun if anyone knows a good place?
 
Mammalian said:
i've got a date in london, i expect to be meeting in waterloo. any tips for places to go. this is her territory, not mine as i live outside and rarely go, let alone go for a first date.

i don't know what time we're meeting yet (seems to be avoiding answering that question), but i'd like to in my mind, meet up say after lunch, perhaps go for some drinks, though i'm not a big drinker so don't know how people play this, do you order a double vodka and coke on first date as first drink or equivalent or we talking soft drinks like pepsi?, and then do something fun in london, perhaps ice bar i've heard of (any done this) or something related to xmas, and then all going well have diner together.

any ideas, suggestions, tips, thoughts? I really like everything i know about this girl so far, and think she is a real stunner in the photos so would like to really have a memorable first date, you know the kind in movies. milkshakes is always fun if anyone knows a good place?
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Don't over plan it, you will get nervous and feel responsible if it doesn't all go "to plan" which things never do. Find a nice bar and start there, if its her turf other things to do will come up in conversation, she's there to meet you, not for a day trip!

Also you sound like you have very high hopes, just temper them and have an exit strategy, I'm sure things will be great but just in case....
 
Mammalian said:
i've got a date in london, i expect to be meeting in waterloo. any tips for places to go. this is her territory, not mine as i live outside and rarely go, let alone go for a first date.

i don't know what time we're meeting yet (seems to be avoiding answering that question), but i'd like to in my mind, meet up say after lunch, perhaps go for some drinks, though i'm not a big drinker so don't know how people play this, do you order a double vodka and coke on first date as first drink or equivalent or we talking soft drinks like pepsi?, and then do something fun in london, perhaps ice bar i've heard of (any done this) or something related to xmas, and then all going well have diner together.

any ideas, suggestions, tips, thoughts? I really like everything i know about this girl so far, and think she is a real stunner in the photos so would like to really have a memorable first date, you know the kind in movies. milkshakes is always fun if anyone knows a good place?
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The fact she's avoiding a specific time is a worry. If you know she's free from a certain time, then you just decide on one and tell her.

Not a clue about London sorry mate, but personally I would say you're already over thinking it. Have a plan on where to go and other than that forget about it until the day, it's so easy to play out conversations and scenarios in your head but it very rarely ends up how you think.

And these 'movie' kind of dates is utter tosh, the only way to make it really memorable in her eyes is if she likes YOU and not the places you take her/buy her.

As a last but important bit advice for a first date is it's not an interview, don't bombard her with questions. You're not there to learn what she does, likes, listens to, but learn about what type of person she is and if she meets what you would want in a partner. Make statements, be interesting, have an opinion, get physical (thumb wars, tickling, poking etc makes it more comfortable to go for a kiss) and be awesome! Good luck.
 
yeah you're prob right. guess part of me was thinking london, woo, day of fun doing stuff with a girl. that can come down the line all going well.

i do get the impression that she does want a great first date, one that she can boast about, for no other reason then she wrote it in her profile :p part of me thinks well i'd like to do something fun, and i'm hoping for someone who is like that too, so would hate to play it safe, to find she was hoping for more when that's actually who i am

tbh i don't think im bad on dates, last went great, not interview like at all, (makes me cringe knowing i once did that on a date many years ago), which is also why i thought doing stuff would be easier, as we aren't just sat talking about each other like i've seen people suggest, e.g. just diner and drinks for first date, but instead will be moving around, doing something fun, then walking to some where else etc

any suggestions then perhaps i can have in the back of my mind, so say we just meet up for a drink, but after an hour we're both not wanting it to end, so i can then be like, oh well there is this place i've always wanted to go etc
 
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Mammalian said:
100% spot on. i don't get it. Banter in particular is something that really grinds my gears, wtf since when do girls look for banter, funny ok but banter?
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I also do not get why the ladies think Skydiving is a suitable first date. I really couldn't imagine anything worse.
 
Mammalian said:
i've got a date in london, i expect to be meeting in waterloo. any tips for places to go. this is her territory, not mine as i live outside and rarely go, let alone go for a first date.

i don't know what time we're meeting yet (seems to be avoiding answering that question), but i'd like to in my mind, meet up say after lunch
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Mhmmm why would she be avoiding this? If she wants to go she will set a time, try and get it out of her. After lunch is always good, morning is too early and people aren't at their best then. I'd go for 2-3pm.

perhaps go for some drinks, though i'm not a big drinker so don't know how people play this, do you order a double vodka and coke on first date as first drink or equivalent or we talking soft drinks like pepsi?, and then do something fun in london, perhaps ice bar i've heard of (any done this) or something related to xmas, and then all going well have diner together.
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Please tell me you're joking with those questions. :p

any ideas, suggestions, tips, thoughts? I really like everything i know about this girl so far, and think she is a real stunner in the photos so would like to really have a memorable first date, you know the kind in movies. milkshakes is always fun if anyone knows a good place?
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Keep it simple... does she have any particular interests listed in her profile? Sedate type, or fast-paced girl? A drink is always a good start though to keep it casual... so research a cool bar (Ice bar is pretty "cool", heh), and at least it's different to the usual pubs.
 
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