Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Mammalian said:
no haha i've never done it. do people order alcholic drinks? i'm a drink date virgin. idon't drink beer
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Ahh, in that case your previous post about clubbers and what girls are looking for makes sense now. :D

Just order whatever drink you like... wine, whatever. Just make sure it's alcoholic, even if you only sip it slowly or don't even finish it... as not drinking alcohol on a first date can be off-putting and give off the rong signals to someone who likes a drink and a laugh.
 
Richdog said:
Ahh, in that case your previous post about clubbers and what girls are looking for makes sense now. :D

Just order whatever drink you like... wine, whatever. Just make sure it's alcoholic, even if you only sip it slowly or don't even finish it... as not drinking alcohol on a first date can be off-putting and give off the rong signals to someone who likes a drink and a laugh.
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ok thanks. i do drink in town, just never done it on a first date, seems odd as i don't feel the need to drink to make it fun on date one, however i've seen it a lot that people want to go for a drink on a first date, so assume this is alcoholic, which it obviously is unfortunately.

it's difficult as i've seen her profile and get the impression she isn't a big drinker either, and may only drink with me just because i have, and i'll only drink because i want her to feel like she can, so the end is we both drinking when neither would want to.
 
Richdog said:
Mhmmm why would she be avoiding this?
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it does make me wonder too though it's very possible it could just be simply forgetting the question, e.g. first time we text about meeting up i said what time is she free, her answer was a location. later in the day when i text back i mentioned a few things including what time, and she (as has often done) missed some of the points of my text and will just reply to one, so now i need to ask for a third time which i will do closer to the date day
 
Mammalian said:
it does make me wonder too though it's very possible it could just be simply forgetting the question, e.g. first time we text about meeting up i said what time is she free, her answer was a location. later in the day when i text back i mentioned a few things including what time, and she (as has often done) missed some of the points of my text and will just reply to one, so now i need to ask for a third time which i will do closer to the date day
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Just suggest a time and this will make her answer you to either say she can't do that or will make her suggest a new time, win win.

And Tea Rooms! I'm not a drinker myself so tea rooms are brilliant, nice chilled out atmosphere and tea, what more could you want?
 
Account deleted. I even tried messaging women I wouldn't ever bother approaching on a night out just to test the water and got no response. I've been told I'm quite a good looking guy by a lot of women and never seem to have problems meeting them in real life, my profile text was good after several revisions and the messages I sent were humorous and relative to their profile.

When even the below average women must be getting 50 messages a day from blokes who'll contact absolutely anyone it's massively skewed in their favour and gives them a huge advantage that isn't there in real life.

Good luck and well done to the people that managed to find long term partners on the site, but for me it was a complete and utter waste of time.
 
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Mammalian said:
however i've seen it a lot that people want to go for a drink on a first date, so assume this is alcoholic, which it obviously is unfortunately.

it's difficult as i've seen her profile and get the impression she isn't a big drinker either, and may only drink with me just because i have, and i'll only drink because i want her to feel like she can, so the end is we both drinking when neither would want to.
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Is this like... the first date you've ever been on outside of the Amish community? :D
 
Ant84 said:
Account deleted. I even tried messaging women I wouldn't ever bother approaching on a night out just to test the water and got no response. I've been told I'm quite a good looking guy by a lot of women and never seem to have problems meeting them in real life, my profile text was good after several revisions and the messages I sent were humorous and relative to their profile.

When even the below average women must be getting 50 messages a day from blokes who'll contact absolutely anyone it's massively skewed in their favour and gives them a huge advantage that isn't there in real life.

Good luck and well done to the people that managed to find long term partners on the site, but for me it was a complete and utter waste of time.
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That's it, let the hate flow through you.

No but seriously, just get rich and wait till your mid 30's, then as women can no longer rely on their dwindling good looks the tides of power change in your favour.

I wouldn't say you wasted your time either, all the rejections just allowed you to quickly move on to other women who are better suited to you, better to have said 'Oh well' rather than 'What if'.
 
Holliday said:
That's it, let the hate flow through you.

No but seriously, just get rich and wait till your mid 30's, then as women can no longer rely on their dwindling good looks the tides of power change in your favour.

I wouldn't say you wasted your time either, all the rejections just allowed you to quickly move on to other women who are better suited to you, better to have said 'Oh well' rather than 'What if'.
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My post did come across a little bitter, wasn't meant that way! Just thought I'd be honest in my evaluation. :p

I probably didn't help myself in that I only messaged about 8 women since I signed up since I have quite a specific type. I'm sure for the guys who aren't so fussy it's a potential goldmine, just didn't work for me.

I'll stick to real life in future!
 
i'm sure in a years time you'll be signing back up, perhaps this time with a little less of a specific type. hardly fair evaluation then when you only messaged 8!

Richdog said:
Is this like... the first date you've ever been on outside of the Amish community? :D
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you'd think it wouldn't you. when i've dated before i've always had to drive so can't drink and as said never seen the need for it, and no point in having half of one just to say i've had alcohol but don't go drink driving, and i've often found girls will copy then what i'm having so never have found out what they'd have really wanted.
 
Mammalian said:
you'd think it wouldn't you. when i've dated before i've always had to drive so can't drink and as said never seen the need for it, and no point in having half of one just to say i've had alcohol but don't go drink driving, and i've often found girls will copy then what i'm having so never have found out what they'd have really wanted.
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No public transport runs in your area though? No-one "needs" to drink alcohol, but it is undoubtedly a great relaxant in limited quantities, and really helps with opening up and chatting to people. You just have to assume that most people will like a drink, because that's what they have done all their life with friends and family, and it is thus psychologically also comforting. I have been out with a couple of girls who didn't drink or even ever get tipsy... and lets just say they're not the most fun times i've had in my life. Personally I need a girl who can let her hair down and likes a drink now and then.
 
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I have to some of you come across as realy bitter because I bet you've sent a message to a nice looking girl and then when she doesn't reply back your ego gets hurt. If shes really pretty then she is most likely getting lots messages from guys so your chances of her even viewing your profile are slim at best.
If you want a date then you really do need to be less picky (lol below average women, your bubble really needs to be burst) and start sending out a lot more messages , yoir not going to get anywhere by sending one or two messages a day.
 
Hmm, been there got the medal - done free & pay sites, met the nice, the ugly, the wierd and the complete b***h.

Free sites are ok but obviously attract freeloaders/fakers/spamers.
Pay sites provide some filtering but you still get loads of not very nice people despite the lovely pics or people who look different to their pics.

Never get too excited too soon, the gorgeous girl is going to have hundreds of responses so if they have specified requirements (age range etc) however irresistable you think you are you'll probably fall by the wayside. Until you meet them in person disregard everything they (or someone else has written) on the profile. Gorgeous people can also be complete freaks personality wise. Bottomline is don't get excited prematurely. :confused:
 
Sinny said:
I also do not get why the ladies think Skydiving is a suitable first date. I really couldn't imagine anything worse.
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I'm assuming because it's an expensive thing to do, and you'll be paying, right? :D

£500 for a date and then you get, "let's be friends" afterwards. LOL!
 
Freddie1980 said:
If you want a date then you really do need to be less picky (lol below average women, your bubble really needs to be burst) and start sending out a lot more messages , yoir not going to get anywhere by sending one or two messages a day.
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Absolute bull.

Why settle for anything less than you want or think you deserve? It's a disservice to yourself and ultimately lazy.
 
Holliday said:
Absolute bull.

Why settle for anything less than you want or think you deserve? It's a disservice to yourself and ultimately lazy.
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Well unless you start getting some phone numbers and get out there your not even going to have the option to settle lol. The point I'm making is people see a profile they like, send a message and set their hearts and hope that the girl replies but are ultimately are left disappointing and feeling down when they don't response. She's most like gets 100's of emails a day of desperate guys asking for her phone number, what makes you so special? Send it by all means but send it with the knowledge that you will most likely not get a response.
 
Freddie1980 said:
Well unless you start getting some phone numbers and get out there your not even going to have the option to settle lol. The point I'm making is people see a profile they like, send a message and set their hearts and hope that the girl replies but are ultimately are left disappointing and feeling down when they don't response. She's most like gets 100's of emails a day of desperate guys asking for her phone number, what makes you so special? Send it by all means but send it with the knowledge that you will most likely not get a response.
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I'd probably find it more disappointing sending a message to who I think is a good match, not to get a reply, to then send one to someone I didn't find attractive only to then get a response from them.

Out of everything in life you can skimp on and make excuses for, a potential life long partner shouldn't be one of them.

Just my 50 pence.
 
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