Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

[Holliday]

This winds me up. Pretty much every girl will give a lame 6 word reply no matter what you ask!

Do you not think it winds her up receiving the same question probably 30-40 times a day?

Yes your message was interesting but what did she or you really get out of it, apart from pointing out you're not rich or tall.

Ask her something that you'd like in a woman, if you want an adventurous one then ask if you two went away would she spend the time sun bathing or going out doing water sports etc.

 

[MisChief]

Make up your own mind on that one - http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=39936296

Going for the girl next door types. Can't stand fake tan and empty heads.

You look strangely familiar... Especially in the 3rd pic... I swear you've messaged me before

You're not bad looking at all, maybe it's your writing style.. Too witty maybe? Show an example of a message you've sent!

 

[Stolly]

Sucks, how long were you speaking for?

Few days, 3 or 4 ....oh well already swapping messages with the next one so let's see how that goes.

 

[Snomad]

Yeah i have done this, or should i say currently still! even though the last 5 lasses i chatted to are complete air heads with one word answers, ****ing annoying, yeah im on POF.com and its this site that bugs me because it doesn't matter how hard ya try lasses on there are ****** shallow as hell, and also posting pics of bristols nearly hanging out etc and then say i aint interested in one night stands are retarded and need banning

I have had bad times on there hahahaha

 

[Richdog]

Yeah i have done this, or should i say currently still! even though the last 5 lasses i chatted to are complete air heads with one word answers, ****ing annoying, yeah im on POF.com and its this site that bugs me because it doesn't matter how hard ya try lasses on there are ****** shallow as hell, and also posting pics of bristols nearly hanging out etc and then say i aint interested in one night stands are retarded and need banning

I have had bad times on there hahahaha

I know classy ladies that do pics of their bristols hanging out but don't want one night stand... women showing their bodies in slightly ****ty ways has been ongoing since time began from women rich and poor.

But as for how shallow some girls are on there... yes of course, it's a free dating site, it will attract the bottom of the barrel as well as the good'uns. And dont forget that 90% of the guys on there will be complete ****'s too, so it all balances out.

 

[Snomad]

guess so, but it's just frustrating when you try being yourself and being exactly what they looking for but never get anywhere

 

[PetitFour]

I've been reading this thread for a while and decided to contribute.

I'm pretty much done with online dating. I'm sure there are decent guys on these sites, but it's fairly hard to find them among all the commitment-phobes, e-gigolos, weirdos and creeps. I started talking to a guy a couple of months ago. I kind of knew he was bad news, but decided to go with it and see how it works. Well, we met up. Had sex, twice. In the same night. We said we'd meet again. Now I'm not generally the type who has sex on the first date, or who has casual sex. Mistake is all I can say. Anyway, a day later I received a message from him stating that he's received some bad news and has to leave the country for a few days and wouldn't be able to meet up again. He knew I was leaving shortly afterwards for a while. Now of course I don't know if he's lying or not, but certainly seems like he wanted sex but nothing that it may bring with it. I don't want to say I feel used, because I obviously wanted the sex, too. But seeing him on the dating site daily (yes, I stalk him) makes me pretty upset. I guess I just expected at least some interest after we had sex, and it's still annoying me that he quite possibly lied because he didn't want to meet again. Makes me feel a bit worthless. We're still in touch but who knows for how long.

 

[Yas786]

So 2 days after my match subscription expires and suddenly women start winking at me. Seems a bit suspicious!

Thats how they try and get you to sign up and pay again

So what happens is that you will sign up in the vain hope that it may be that someone likes you etc only to find out the lady in question doesnt even live in the same country as you

Yes ive had this happen to me a few times when i was doing the whole online dating thing a few yrs back.

 

[cHk4]

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That's the thing, you have to be so careful on these sites though. I have plenty of friends and people I've known in the past that use it just as a way to get casual sex. I have one friend who I meets up with at least 2 girls a week from dating sites just for a casual and then fobs them off after. Not saying this is the case with you but it seems suspect.

 

[Holliday]

I've been reading this thread for a while and decided to contribute.

I'm pretty much done with online dating. I'm sure there are decent guys on these sites, but it's fairly hard to find them among all the commitment-phobes, e-gigolos, weirdos and creeps. I started talking to a guy a couple of months ago. I kind of knew he was bad news, but decided to go with it and see how it works. Well, we met up. Had sex, twice. In the same night. We said we'd meet again. Now I'm not generally the type who has sex on the first date, or who has casual sex. Mistake is all I can say. Anyway, a day later I received a message from him stating that he's received some bad news and has to leave the country for a few days and wouldn't be able to meet up again. He knew I was leaving shortly afterwards for a while. Now of course I don't know if he's lying or not, but certainly seems like he wanted sex but nothing that it may bring with it. I don't want to say I feel used, because I obviously wanted the sex, too. But seeing him on the dating site daily (yes, I stalk him) makes me pretty upset. I guess I just expected at least some interest after we had sex, and it's still annoying me that he quite possibly lied because he didn't want to meet again. Makes me feel a bit worthless. We're still in touch but who knows for how long.

So out of all the creeps, 'nice guys', players etc, you choose someone who you admit gave you bad vibes and you knew was trouble, yet went out with him, had sex twice then complain that he's the way you originally thought he was?

/Mind blown. PKkkkssshhhhhh!

 

[Yas786]

I've been reading this thread for a while and decided to contribute.

I'm pretty much done with online dating. I'm sure there are decent guys on these sites, but it's fairly hard to find them among all the commitment-phobes, e-gigolos, weirdos and creeps. I started talking to a guy a couple of months ago. I kind of knew he was bad news, but decided to go with it and see how it works. Well, we met up. Had sex, twice. In the same night. We said we'd meet again. Now I'm not generally the type who has sex on the first date, or who has casual sex. Mistake is all I can say. Anyway, a day later I received a message from him stating that he's received some bad news and has to leave the country for a few days and wouldn't be able to meet up again. He knew I was leaving shortly afterwards for a while. Now of course I don't know if he's lying or not, but certainly seems like he wanted sex but nothing that it may bring with it. I don't want to say I feel used, because I obviously wanted the sex, too. But seeing him on the dating site daily (yes, I stalk him) makes me pretty upset. I guess I just expected at least some interest after we had sex, and it's still annoying me that he quite possibly lied because he didn't want to meet again. Makes me feel a bit worthless. We're still in touch but who knows for how long.

In a nutshell...your wasting your time with him. He wont give you anything other than a quick roll in the hay so to speak.

Id cut all ties with him and find someone else to stalk

 

[PetitFour]

Well yes, I will admit that it, or rather I, was stupid. But what can I do now? Actually, I should clarify though because I obviously didn't know he was bad news but more like suspected it. Just like I suspect every guy on dating sites to be somewhat of a serial-dater. When I met him I had a good feeling about him. He's very handsome, very nice and intelligent. I was actually surprised and hurt when I received the message that he'd received "bad news". Just find it odd that he still sends me messages. Maybe he likes to keep girls available. I don't know how these sort of people work.

I don't know, it's kind of hard to explain myself. But when I had sex with him I definitely thought there's be more in it; that I'd at least get to see him again. Lesson learnt!

 

[PetitFour]

In a nutshell...your wasting your time with him. He wont give you anything other than a quick roll in the hay so to speak.

Id cut all ties with him and find someone else to stalk

I think I'm better off without stalking or being interested in a guy since I don't seem to possess the ability to fall for decent guys.

 

[cHk4]

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I wouldn't take it personally, just take it as you had sex with a guy you kind of knew, it was good/bad and move on. The keep talking to you is him keeping you as a fall back plan/back up.

 

[Yas786]

Just find it odd that he still sends me messages. Maybe he likes to keep girls available. I don't know how these sort of people work.

Thats exactly what hes doing or hes just keeping his options open.

I know how it feels as i went through a similar stage as you, met up with a few women, had sex then nothing etc or some lame excuse to not meet me etc.

Sucks but thats life...at least you have learnt your lessin, just try to fall for it again.

 

[Holliday]

Well yes, I will admit that it, or rather I, was stupid. But what can I do now? Actually, I should clarify though because I obviously didn't know he was bad news but more like suspected it. Just like I suspect every guy on dating sites to be somewhat of a serial-dater. When I met him I had a good feeling about him. He's very handsome, very nice and intelligent. I was actually surprised and hurt when I received the message that he'd received "bad news". Just find it odd that he still sends me messages. Maybe he likes to keep girls available. I don't know how these sort of people work.

I don't know, it's kind of hard to explain myself. But when I had sex with him I definitely thought there's be more in it; that I'd at least get to see him again. Lesson learnt!

What can you do now? Well, try to arrange to meet him or wait for a booty call from him. That or learn to listen and act on your instincts.

The funny thing being that he appears to have 'used' you yes, but the fact you're still pining after him and wanting to see him again speaks novels.

Fair enough if you enjoyed the sex, women and men have the same basic needs. But it takes more than one date to figure out what someone is actually like or what their intentions are, so maybe give it a few more next time if you want more than just a physical connection.

 

[PetitFour]

I wouldn't take it personally, just take it as you had sex with a guy you kind of knew, it was good/bad and move on. The keep talking to you is him keeping you as a fall back plan/back up.

I'm trying not to let it get to me, but it's hard. I didn't expect it to turn out like this and never had a one-night stand before, so it makes me feel a bit dirty. Sometimes I want to yell at him but I realise I've got no right to be upset because I wasn't some innocent observer but had an active role in this.

 

[DiscoDave]

I don't seem to possess the ability to fall for decent guys.

This really ****es me off.

Why give it away on a first date to someone you obviously knew was trouble, and get upset when he lies to you and is back on the dating site the next day looking for his next conquest?

I...just don't understand women.

Clearly you are not ready to find someone "decent" just yet, which is a shame because so many people are trying to do that.

 

[Snomad]

I've been reading this thread for a while and decided to contribute.

I'm pretty much done with online dating. I'm sure there are decent guys on these sites, but it's fairly hard to find them among all the commitment-phobes, e-gigolos, weirdos and creeps. I started talking to a guy a couple of months ago. I kind of knew he was bad news, but decided to go with it and see how it works. Well, we met up. Had sex, twice. In the same night. We said we'd meet again. Now I'm not generally the type who has sex on the first date, or who has casual sex. Mistake is all I can say. Anyway, a day later I received a message from him stating that he's received some bad news and has to leave the country for a few days and wouldn't be able to meet up again. He knew I was leaving shortly afterwards for a while. Now of course I don't know if he's lying or not, but certainly seems like he wanted sex but nothing that it may bring with it. I don't want to say I feel used, because I obviously wanted the sex, too. But seeing him on the dating site daily (yes, I stalk him) makes me pretty upset. I guess I just expected at least some interest after we had sex, and it's still annoying me that he quite possibly lied because he didn't want to meet again. Makes me feel a bit worthless. We're still in touch but who knows for how long.

Sorry just had to respond to this one in particular, So basically you go for bad news type guys rather than normal guys? no wonder im doing **** on that site no one wants normal average type guys. why are all the dick heads getting all the luck??? makes me sick, sorry but having sex with him on first date is all down to you so online dating aint to blame its yourself for letting him have you so easily. harsh but true

 

[PetitFour]

The funny thing being that he appears to have 'used' you yes, but the fact you're still pining after him and wanting to see him again speaks novels.

I'm not sure if I implied or stated I wanted to see him again. So I'll say now that I don't really. Aside from the fact that seeing him isn't going to happen due to the fact that I'm spending the next few months somewhere miles away from where he lives, I don't think I'd want to even if I could. Yes, when he left I was eager to see him again but after he blew me off like that and after seeing him on the dating site day in and day out my interest has faded, basically disappeared. I've got some self-respect, you know!

I was just writing this from a girl's point of view. Guys always complain about girls who suddenly disappear even before it comes to meeting up. Well, I sort of wish he would've done that instead of what actually happened!