Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

[unwashed potato!]

i think we need to see this guy so we can see what we're up against and why this guy gets to sex it up with a girl he just met twice, whilst we cry our selves to sleep each night sending message after message and getting no reply

link us up

 

[PetitFour]

DiscoDave, I am totally ready to find someone decent. But it's not that easy.

And yes, of course it was stupid to have sex on the first date. I realise all that now. And like I said, I assume basically all handsome guys on dating sites are bad news so it wasn't really him personally or anything he did that made me think "bad news". If I had known or suspected that this is going to happen, I wouldn't have put out, or even met up with him.

 

[Holliday]

I'm not sure if I implied or stated I wanted to see him again. So I'll say now that I don't really. Aside from the fact that seeing him isn't going to happen due to the fact that I'm spending the next few months somewhere miles away from where he lives, I don't think I'd want to even if I could. Yes, when he left I was eager to see him again but after he blew me off like that and after seeing him on the dating site day in and day out my interest has faded, basically disappeared. I've got some self-respect, you know!

I was just writing this from a girl's point of view. Guys always complain about girls who suddenly disappear even before it comes to meeting up. Well, I sort of wish he would've done that instead of what actually happened!

I assumed you stalking him and messaging him implied it. If not then I assume you're looking for an answer as to why? Since you two got along so well.

No ones having a go, apart from bitter guys secretly wishing they were in the shoes of that bloke.

Maybe a bit of self reflection as you why you always go for these kind of blokes is in order and that comes down to you as a person, a character flaw maybe. Is it their confidence? Cockiness? Fair enough finding that type of trait attractive, that's just an instinctive reaction, but I suppose you should aim to peel back the layers a bit before you commit, get them to open up and find out what makes them tick. Confident guys can turn out to be just in it for the sex, but also in it for the long run, just have to learn to spot which is which.

 

[Snomad]

i think we need to see this guy so we can see what we're up against and why this guy gets to sex it up with a girl he just met twice, whilst we cry our selves to sleep each night sending message after message and getting no reply

link us up

good idea, i bet he has a pic of him with his shirt off or something as this would speak volumes to what sort of guy this girl goes for

 

[PetitFour]

link us up

No way! I've seen what people on here are capable of! Next thing I know someone's going to track him down and cause drama/problems.

He's handsome. Probably a 9/10.

 

[Snomad]

No ones having a go, apart from bitter guys secretly wishing they were in the shoes of that bloke

Sorry but im bitter but not for wanting sex, im looking for relationship and yet these guys take all the nice lasses and use them and then they dont trust anyone and your trying your best to convince them your the real deal but they will never give you that chance. THATS what im bitter about. and to give it up so easily speaks volumes too. Women need sex exactly the same as what we do.

 

[cHk4]

I'm trying not to let it get to me, but it's hard. I didn't expect it to turn out like this and never had a one-night stand before, so it makes me feel a bit dirty. Sometimes I want to yell at him but I realise I've got no right to be upset because I wasn't some innocent observer but had an active role in this.

No one ever expects it to turn out how it does if it doesn't work out. One night stands happen, don't beat yourself up over it. At least it's done and dusted now than months/years down the line when more feelings and time is involved.

DiscoDave, I am totally ready to find someone decent. But it's not that easy.

And yes, of course it was stupid to have sex on the first date. I realise all that now. And like I said, I assume basically all handsome guys on dating sites are bad news so it wasn't really him personally or anything he did that made me think "bad news". If I had known or suspected that this is going to happen, I wouldn't have put out, or even met up with him.

Well I have a few friends who have said if the girl puts out on the first date they will obviously do it but they wouldn't entertain anything further than sex. I know it's all situation and as we're adults who really cares. Guess in my local towns most of the birds are in to 3 figures with the guys so it's not uncommon for them to put out on the first date. Honestly I'm not going to say you are but I have found that most women I've met on dating sites are a lot easier than those you meet at work/out and about etc.

No way! I've seen what people on here are capable of! Next thing I know someone's going to track him down and cause drama/problems.

He's handsome. Probably a 9/10.

You joined today and I'm not going to lie your posts to me do seem very troll like... unless you're a long time lurker.

 

[Snomad]

No way! I've seen what people on here are capable of! Next thing I know someone's going to track him down and cause drama/problems.

He's handsome. Probably a 9/10.

of course he is, i know physical attraction is what people would go for on these sites as its a profile pic you see first but come try to see past this because the handsome ones as you put it, are mostly the ones who are the dick heads.

 

[PetitFour]

Maybe a bit of self reflection as you why you always go for these kind of blokes is in order and that comes down to you as a person, a character flaw maybe..

It's not always the same kind. I generally go for commitment-phobes who are all into you for a couple of months and then it slowly starts to fade. This was my first time I actually had anything to do with someone who really only wanted one night (it seems).

I know this is probably not a good idea to say on a mainly male-oriented forum but seriously, for a woman it's very hard to find a guy who actually wants something serious and is willing to make the effort.

Also, no shirtless pics. Nothing sleazy or anything. Doesn't even list "casual sex" as one of the things he's looking for. Although I guess hardly anyone does that.

 

[Yas786]

good idea, i bet he has a pic of him with his shirt off or something as this would speak volumes to what sort of guy this girl goes for

LOL as i always say to my mates who feel like you do...dont hate the playa, hate the game. Keep that in mind and you will go a long way unless your fat and ugly then there is absolutely no hope for you...well you can lose the weight but the ugliness cant be cured unless you spend thousands of £'s on surgery...so ermmm yeh maybe there is hope

 

[unwashed potato!]

He's handsome. Probably a 9/10.

you sure it wasn't with me then?

fair enough, i can't see what'd happen though, he wont come back and use you again?

if someone messages him and says "look a girl you screwed twice on the first date is gutted", he wont go "oh christ i didn't realise when using this girl she's not going to like it and be annoyed with herself"

if not a link to his profile, perhaps a link to yours. as silly as it sounds, it'd be interesting to know as atm i avoid some types of girls as i assume they'll be just like the guy you found, so it'd be interesting to know if perhaps you do come across as one of the few good girls that we should also be cautious of

 

[PetitFour]

Honestly I'm not going to say you are but I have found that most women I've met on dating sites are a lot easier than those you meet at work/out and about etc.

Yeah this might be a bit personal but this was only guy #4 for me. If I was one of those birds you're talking about I'd probably not take it so hard. I don't know what got into me. I think that I subconsciously got tired of doing what I'm always doing – waiting for Mr. Right, so I went for Mr. Probably Wrong.

 

[Snomad]

LOL as i always say to my mates who feel like you do...dont hate the playa, hate the game. Keep that in mind and you will go a long way unless your fat and ugly then there is absolutely no hope for you...well you can lose the weight but the ugliness cant be cured unless you spend thousands of £'s on surgery...so ermmm yeh maybe there is hope

haha nah im not fat, im average looking i would say maybe 5/10 or even 6 on some days hahaha But your right in that sense, hate the game not the player. But i dont want to have casual **** im after real thing and not for 2 months and then not interested, that's what kids do not men

 

[Holliday]

Sorry but im bitter but not for wanting sex, im looking for relationship and yet these guys take all the nice lasses and use them and then they dont trust anyone and your trying your best to convince them your the real deal but they will never give you that chance. THATS what im bitter about. and to give it up so easily speaks volumes too. Women need sex exactly the same as what we do.

These guys take all the nice lasses? This isn't directed at PetitFour, but what makes you think these lasses are worth your time and effort anyway? Because you find them attractive?

It's all well and good claiming that you're the 'real deal' but you can't want someone from the outset, you want to get to know them yes, but for blokes especially the main inintial thought is sex. The only difference being these guys 'taking all the women' are pretty much honest to themselves about it and act on it, the negative being they have no intention of furthering this relationship beyond that.

 

[PetitFour]

if not a link to his profile, perhaps a link to yours.

I actually deleted my profile a few days after this happened because I've had enough of online dating for a very long time!

I've no idea where to find a decent guy, but I'm thinking a dating site is probably not it.

 

[Yas786]

haha nah im not fat, im average looking i would say maybe 5/10 or even 6 on some days hahaha But your right in that sense, hate the game not the player. But i dont want to have casual **** im after real thing and not for 2 months and then not interested, that's what kids do not men

Apparently a lot of men do exactly what your not interested in.

 

[unwashed potato!]

I actually deleted my profile a few days after this happened because I've had enough of online dating for a very long time!

I've no idea where to find a decent guy, but I'm thinking a dating site is probably not it.

how do you still stalk him?

 

[Yas786]

I actually deleted my profile a few days after this happened because I've had enough of online dating for a very long time!

I've no idea where to find a decent guy, but I'm thinking a dating site is probably not it.

They will be under the sign that says 'Decent guys here'

Theres no set place to find them, you could find one down in a pub, or on a nite out...hell you might find one on a train or bus.

 

[Snomad]

These guys take all the nice lasses? This isn't directed at PetitFour, but what makes you think these lasses are worth your time and effort anyway? Because you find them attractive?

It's all well and good claiming that you're the 'real deal' but you can't want someone from the outset, you want to get to know them yes, but for blokes especially the main inintial thought is sex. The only difference being these guys 'taking all the women' are pretty much honest to themselves about it and act on it, the negative being they have no intention of furthering this relationship beyond that.

Let me explain better, I don't auto think that "yeah im wanting long term with this girl..now to say hi" im not a moron lol And it sounds sort of defensive, you must be one of these so called players right? lol

 

[cHk4]

Yeah this might be a bit personal but this was only guy #4 for me. If I was one of those birds you're talking about I'd probably not take it so hard. I don't know what got into me. I think that I subconsciously got tired of doing what I'm always doing – waiting for Mr. Right, so I went for Mr. Probably Wrong.

That's a fair one and yea' it's understandable that you're taking it harder... no pun intended. How old are you? Sounds like you put a bit too much trust in people and maybe you shouldn't be as giving. Hell it's your life, do what you want. End of the day it's only sex with a stranger, while you don't normally do that kind of thing, it happened.

I've no idea where to find a decent guy, but I'm thinking a dating site is probably not it.

Why hello there

Some one had to do it!!!